Tiring confusing?

[Anonymous]

Been seeing my ex girlfriend again for about a month now. Everytime we hangout in person, she acts like we're together but barely talks to me when we're apart... I just don't understand

[Anonymous]

Well you’re broken up, so why would she act like you’re back together when you’re not? Maybe you’re the one who needs to set some boundaries. If you want a relationship again then it needs to be that, if she doesn’t then obviously you’re wasting your own time and getting your hopes up.

[Asker]

She acts like we're together in person but not when we're apart. I don't know if she wants to get back together or not. Sometimes with the way she'll talk, the feeling is yes, other times the feeling is no... but I'm gonna have the "what are we" talk in the next month or so

[Opinion Owner]

What’s the difference between now and next month? I think you’re putting it off out of fear that you’ll scare her away or mess things up or whatever. Let me just say that if she doesn’t have the intention to be with now then that won’t change in 2 weeks. You’d just be prolonging the inevitable.

[Asker]

You might be right. She agreed to go to something 2 weekends from now and then said we'll get a hotel room and everything. So it's shit like that, that makes me think their might be a chance. I stay over her place all the time. I just don't wanna rush, cuz last time when we were together, she wasn't ready to give us a title

[Opinion Owner]

I’ll be honest dude and I mean no disrespect whatsoever but I feel like you’re playing yourself in this situation. You’re more focused on the potential rather than what you’re actually getting, which in a way is you just being strung along. You know you want to be with her, and if I asked you just as a confirmation I know you’d say yes. So why wouldn’t you want a woman who’s answer is also an automatic yes? Not playing mind games with you and giving false hope? I don't know what she’s got going on, maybe there’s another man (or other men) in the picture, maybe she wants to be single and explore her options even though she has feelings for you, who knows. But it’s sad for you to stick around knowing your intentions are pure and hers aren’t. I already know you’re not gonna just up and leave her alone and that’s ok, not everyone has the strength to do that. All I can really say though is to be honest with yourself. Take all the hopes, dreams and basically the fantasy of what you want off the table, and take a good look at what you actually have in front of you. I’d she doesn’t want a relationship, you’re only hurting yourself by sticking around and hoping one day she will. You’re also blocking your blessings bc there’s no room for a woman who actually loves and cares for you to enter your life.

[Asker]

Well I guess I'll find out when I bring up the "what are we" conversation

[Opinion Owner]

Hopefully it works in your favor but if she still doesn’t want a relationship I hope you can let go