Is it too late to start, and how do I even try?

[Anonymous]

I’ve never dated or been in a relationship before, I feel like I’m running out of time to even try. I’m very average looking and not to exciting since most of my life has just been working.. I’m not sure how or if I should try to meet people.

[SueShe]

If you were able to live that long without feeling you needed to date, then you can continue in the same direction because honestly, you are not losing anything by remaining single.

It is not too late but ask yourself: What are you expecting from dating? To find true love? To find the one that will be with you your entire life?

While you may find the one that will perhaps commit for a lifelong partnership, you will first meet 99 others that are just after what is in your pants and nothing more.

If you want to try it nevertheless, then there is no other way than to jump over your own shadow and accept failure.

In order to have friends or a a boyfriend, you must be pro-active and find friends. They will not just pop up in your life without you being involved in the relation. Best is to join a club, take a hobby where you can meet people with similar interests.

If you are good at one specific occupation, then see if you can find a club or place where others meet that share that passion. The rest will just fall automatically into place. Sharing the same interests with a person is always a good start to get to know that person better because you have common grounds.

But you have to work on yourself first. That would include shyness and social anxiety if you have any.

You can train your approach, your attitude and expression in front of a mirror for example. Think of what message you want to bring across and rehearse it until you are satisfied. The next step is the most difficult one and that is the one where you have to put in practice what you learned and rehearsed.

But without you wanting and acting upon it, nothing will ever happen. You have to get out of your comfort zone for it to happen. The most important is not to be afraid to fail. If you are rejected, get back onto your feet and try again.

[Berethor]

You over 30s? yes you running out of time, but you are still not too old to have children.

[Guy13]

www.meetup.com try this first.

[Guy13]

Are you out in the country or near a City?

[Asker]

Small town, one of those the whole town kinda knows each other’s business and reputation

[Guy13]

Okay. go to that website and put your zip code and the nearest city near you see your options. Real people rather than internet dating...

[SueShe]

... but the guys on there, just like those in any other dating site are solely out there looking for one single thing... This site is just another dating site disguised as a something else. Certainly not more serious than those hundreds of dating sites.

[Guy13]

@SueShe I’m so sorry that vid yiur experience. Please try not to generalize unless you have hit each one of them Globally

[Nikki1989]

It is never too late to try.

[BJP21]

If you dont mind sharing your age?