When dating what's more important:the personality or the looks?

[Anonymous]

[Amy10223]

Looks help a lot--but it really comes down to the personality. Without that, looks are out the window. You can be a really good looking person, and the minute you open your mouth and your personality speaks--it can make you or break your relationship with the person.

[annabananna]

The personality. A good looking person with a bad personality can make for a really bad date but if the person is bad looking but has a good looking personality you’ll at least have a good time even if you aren’t attracted to them.

[watercolor_lions]

Personality.

I came up with an indicator for if I can date someone I'm not initially attracted to: if their character doesn't make them attractive to me after a few months, they aren't good enough.

My husband was ugly to me when I first met him. After a few months of knowing him, I find him cute and sexy. Because I see all of him, not just the surface. I learned this after I dated a couple guys who didn't became very attractive to me after a few months. Because I didn't like their character or personality enough.

Character is the most attractive thing of all.

[RomanticRealist]

What kind of dating? It probably depends on what your end goals are.

When I was just dating for fun - looks mattered a bit more, but personality was still important.

When I was dating in hopes of finding someone to connect with and see if there's relationship potential - personality was more important.

That doesn't mean looks are not important at all, but definitely not more important than personality. I'm more open minded about looks when I'm looking to find a real connection. When I was just hooking up or looking for a casual sex partner and some fun, looks were more important. But for me, I've always cares about personality. I've turned away some stunning men for casual fun if I thought they were too pushy, rude, disrespectful, etc. It's funny when they come back, shocked that you'd turn them away if they think they're hotter than life or out of your league. But my feelings and comfort come first before anything.

[DeeDeeDeVour]

Before accepting the proposal to go out on a date, the physical attraction must have been there already enough to say yes to going on a date.

During the actual date, learning about and accepting personality traits become more important.

[SphynxUK]

There has to be some sort of attraction in the first place. After meeting, if there’s no personality or flow of conversation there’s no point in persevering. A face alone isn’t going to hold my attention.

[Fireguy17]

Personality.

Looks change over time, so what is pretty now can end up looking used hard and put away wet.

I have seen girls that were in my class that were really hot, but now, no than you

so what do you have left once we get older, but our personality.

[mgkgirl]

As a girl, looks definitely attract us. That’s what gets us to notice you. However, you don’t have to be wildy attractive to be thought of as attractive. Then once we get to know you, your personality hooks us in. There’s no one with your humor, etc. Looks may draw someone in, but personality keeps them. Personality in my opinion is more important.

[Emiliamazing]

Quote from pulp fiction: personality goes along way

[Emiliamazing]

Looks are only around for so long. I’m not talking about letting weight problems or other controllable factors take over your life, but our youth is not with us forever.

[DizzyDesii]

Looks are the first impression (unless he was some anon online). So look. And then the Personality and character defines if he’ll be a keeper or not.

[sheikalana]

It’s a combination of both but first you have to like what you see.

[CaptainOverthink]

Personality is more important by a long shot. But looks does play a big part in immidiate attraction.

So..
Looks jumpstart the attraction, personality maintains and accelerate it.

[JFelix]

Looks raise the initial attention and the personality keeps them there, so looks are more important for short term relationships, friends with benefits or one night stands, whilst personality keeps them there throughout the relationship

[t_time]

Let's face it. You have to have an attraction to how they look or it's not going to work. But if they look great but treat you like shit it's not going to work either. They are equally important

[Blueeyes81]

Both. If I'm not attracted to them physically but like their personality then I would consider that a friend situation. If I like their looks but not their personality then I don't want them in my life. You need both.

[Heolurt]

Females are gonna lie on this one, but the truth is females view looks as the most important thing, they'll reject you before they ever get to know your personality so it's not possible for them to say personality.

[ShadezMcgee]

Looks get you in the door, but personality is what ends up being the dealbreaker.

[SteveZissu]

If you are dating, it means that you are already interested in the other person, so only you know what attracts you to her/him.

[Berethor]

Looks, almost no one care about ugly's peoples personality.

[Twalli]

Personality, but if she doesn't look hot then we're not dating in the first place.

[DCooper]

Both. She has to 9 stone max and make 9 figures min, lol

[Avicenna]

Once she has met a relatively minimal standard for looks, it's all about personality

[TheSpaceGnome]

Without 1, the other is worthless as a relationship.

[TheSpaceGnome]

without either 1*

[FilmGuy93]

Personality, how is this even a question? lol

[Anonymous]

Personality for sure !!!

you can’t bring a jerk with a pretty face anywhere

[Rockstarrrrr]

Both are as important when you're still young...

[AsaKyo]

Both are important to a certain degree, whether people wanna admit it or not

[Anonymous]

The way it typically works is you try to find the person with the best personality for you who is at least as hot as whatever your minimum standard is.

[TacosRAwesome]

I need a bit of both, also in a way looks reflect some aspects of personality.

[TroyDT]

Personality. As Amanda Shaw sang, "Pretty Runs Out.."

[Hardworkingguy]

It's a mixture of both. You need physical attraction for the intimacy and the other aspects for the intelectual part of the relationship

[art84]

Both are important, I can't imagine choosing one over the other.

[BarryLiverstone]

Looks. If you have no attraction you don’t date them anyway

[Chthou95]

No one gives a shit about an ugly person with a personality like the other guy said. You need to pass the looks barrier before personality can matter

[despiteful]

I care about both to be honest. Both equally important to me

[ArrowheadSW]

Personality is far more important to me.

[Anonymous]

Personality. Unless her personality is really fat and ugly. 🤣🤣🤣

[Nikki1989]

Personality will always be number one.

[Pleaznhim4me]

Personality. But they have to be decent looking.

[AddylynnNightingale]

Personality will always have the edge.

[DermalPunch]

Personality by faaaaar.

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

the personality

[DancingQueen16]

For me its the personality

[bolverk]

Personality without doubt.

[Mangospacho]

Personality is much more important.

[petitedollbabee]

Personality.

[misfittoy]

personality

[hafajrbehs]

Personality because looks will fade away

[In_Trance]

a balance of both

[Anonymous]

Both are important

[CloudMassacre]

Personality

[SayCheez03]

both

[Dinosaursandanime65]

Morality

[maximumpower]

PERSONALITY.

[Headstrongcrazylover]

Looks

[Jltakk]

Personality easily.

[BLP11520]

Personality

[Cedman]

Both