Can you please help me understand this?

[claudia32]

A guy help my hand few times, telling me how soft they were, and when I asked him the simple question (are we dating), he had said: he feels like the relationship feels rushed, he wants to be friends and get to know each other better , but we knew each other for three months, and he wants to take it slow and see where things go, what does all mean, should I move on or hope that he would want to date me and whenever we see each other, he always smiles at me and looks happy to talk to me, should I take it slow or just move on with my life and be friends with him?

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Did I move on too fast or scare him away?

[DaveJord]

You should move on I never trust people like this, feels too much like they are exerting complete control over the process by dictating the pace. If he was truly interested you would think on some level your feelings and expectations should matter, because it can not be all about him.

So when ever I meet someone like that I continue the relationship, but I do not stop looking for, considering, or dating other people. There is honestly nothing for you to move on from, you clearly are not dating. So there is no harm in continuing the relationship until you find someone else. But I would make it very clear you are not interested in being just friends.

[20yearsolder]

It sounds to me like just holding hands is moving pretty slow. Here's what I can tell you and I hope that you remember this for the rest of your life. There are always two people in a relationship. If you're not getting what you want and need out of a relationship then please don't stay in it. If you wanted that relationship to move a long faster and he's not willing to do that then he's wasting your time

[Seriouslyitsnotjayy]

Preach sir preach

[20yearsolder]

I've done all the preaching I can do, it's got to soak into these ladies heads that they are an equal part of a relationship. You don't give in just because he wants you to or you don't change yourself to make him happy. Be yourself and if some dude doesn't like that then it's time to move on