After getting rejected, what do you do or where do you go?

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Oscarina88 · Accepted Answer

If you get rejected by someone. Trust and believe it was not you they rejected. They rejected their interpretation of you. Someone else’s opinion of you does not encapsulate the awesomeness that you are. We are all part of the bigger puzzle... energy if you will. There are 7.97 billion people on the planet and none of us should ever let the opinions of few compared to that number even be dust on our feet. Just change your shoes (metaphorically speaking) walk with your head held high... and strut right back into this world knowing that it was their loss. They could have had the privilege of knowing your awesomeness but they won’t. The right people will be the ones who are your tribe and if you don’t have a tribe. Be like me... I am one whole tribe standing on two feet. Out of these billions of souls walking around. The one or many for our path is bound to cross and connect. Don’t worry about the rejection. People are only rejecting theirselves anyways!

AsaKyo · Accepted Answer

I'd go cry it out, drink me some lemonade, then go watch something funny on YouTube

The_Shadow_Dweller · Accepted Answer

When I got rejected, I simply focused on my work, which was studying at that time. And I developed a hobby that is much more investing-worthy than a crush, and that is cars and bikes.

I now buy car magazines and read all about them. It's really worth it! Got to learn some new things too! And at the same time learned how to casually talk with girls too! You know... friendly talk and all. It might be a small thing to many, but not to me. Really glad that I learned it. I am really comfortable with normal talk with girls now.

To be honest, I really don't know what happened to me, but the end result at the start of the engineering 4-year course was a really shy kid who did not know how to even look girls in the eyes.

Havthrills · Accepted Answer

Go on with my day and life. I'm totally awesome so their loss.

coachTanthony · Answer

I move on quickly. There is no such thing as rejection just redirection.

Deed211 · Answer

Oh my god, I hope you are doing ok @pinay_ako. How are things so far with you? It's tough getting rejected. Trust me, today, I shoot my shot with like 2 girls and they rejected me. Because my butt was too big. But I keep on shooting. Lol  How are you doing right now?

Chazmatazz269 · Answer

I don’t really get rejected anymore. I’m good at my job; i get what i want when i want it. It’s hard to make new friends as i age, but i’m good at vetting people before i invite them over. I don’t date anymore.
I DID get turned down when i asked for pulled beef in my BBQ combo a couple weeks ago. I got chicken instead. It was fine and i was planning to have beers with my barbecue anyway. Ell oh ell!

Ill_made_Knight · Answer

The only time you should really be hurt by this is if you'e built expectations in your own mind. Helpful to me is if you find someone attractive that you're gonna be around somewhat regularly, get to 'em and say Hi pretty soon. No chance to geek out in your own head about stuff, and you get to find out if the way they interact with you is attractive right away too.

Finchie40 · Answer

Accept the fact that they aren’t into me and move on with my life it’s a shorty feeling but , it’s better to know then not to know and realize you can’t always get what you want , But the fact that I tried is better than not trying at all is how I look at it

RavVid · Answer

The fruit fly is a standard response in terms of sexual rejection. Some guys will double down by redoubling their efforts. Some guys will maintain a watching brief and swoop in at an auspicious time. I think though you have little chance of being favorably reassessed and you are better off casting your bread before other girls.

In terms of groups, if you are not part of the gang you are not part of it. Possibly you can make friends with some members and worm your way in but why would you?

ObscuredBeyond · Answer

It all depends on what existed beforehand. If there's a lot of sunk time / cost / emotional investment, I get really angry; but I do what I can to move on.

If nothing ever went anywhere before, and she's polite but firm that nothing ever will go anywhere, then I'm okay.

If she starts a war needlessly, because she wants to ensure I stand no chance with anyone else either... that's... war. Thankfully, where I live now, it never comes to that anymore.

cth96190 · Answer

Until I gave up on women, not long after I turned 30, my rejection rate was close enough to 100 per cent.
It was an education in female nature, to be rejected by a girl then see her later with a knuckle-dragging monobrow who had nothing to offer past welfare housing and an abusive relationship.
I did not go anywhere. I kept trying. After nearly 20 years I understood what women were saying to me, so I went away quietly and got on with life.

qwert1234 · Answer

Say it's ok and not pursue anything for that person anymore.

Go home, be sad. Because it's ok to feel sad. I mean, you got rejected, what else are you going to feel.

Slowly let time heal you.

I think if after a rejection, your immediate reaction is meh and find someone new, you are not really into the person who rejected you.

FriendlyDrugDealer · Answer

I just take it on the chin and accept it then go back to the drawing board. I will probably revise my entire approach so I can learn from it as I workout or something

NathanDavis · Answer

I've never been rejected... but I never ask people out to date... lmao

xJeremyx · Answer

can't get rejected if you dont even ask to begin with 😎🤣

Ok in all seriousness though, I just accept rejection and move on. You approach with nothing, and you leave with nothing. You lose nothing.

Hanrej · Answer

Well, rejection is somtimes a turn on so it really depends on context. I was rejected for advancement due to my lack of experiance when a position opened up. I still went for it knowing most of my collegues prefered me over who got the job. It hurt all the more when I didn't get if just because I put in effort.

Dantezam · Answer

Each and every men at some point were or will be rejected, it's part of the life. Me, personally focus on be better on many aspects as possible. Workout, read, pursue a promotion. To be a better person and when a special lady appears in my life be the best version of myself.

D-Pad_Chad · Answer

Friends- shrug and say meh fuck'em
Work- ha, add that to the rejection pile.
Dating- shrug and say meh fuck'em or not in this case.
Sex- ha, add that to the rejection pile.

I really don't care about rejection.

mobiusforniner · Answer

Invest in a new hobby to better myself.

Considering i fly airplanes, ski, shoot guns, play four different music instruments, own and fix classic cars, and freelance photography, you can guess I've been rejected many times...

MementoMori_ · Answer

I get into a relationship with someone else and then reject HER.

Topaz1979 · Answer

I stay home and allow myself to mourn because doing that helps you heal more effectively and quickly.

swagisforeverXD · Answer

I don't know I usually cry and feel disgusted by myself. It just takes time to get over them. I think to myself that it's not the end of the world and that there's probably someone better out there for me

blissinanarchy1 · Answer

In all honesty I desensitized myself to rejection. I used to be dramatic over it, but got mentally stable and very confident. I don’t get narcissistic like “go fuck yourself” about it, but I respect it and move on without hard feelings.

lightbulb27 · Answer

One time I decided to go challenge myself by doing something I’d never done and had a great time. Was very liberating and energizing.  Otherwise… to exercise and sleep!

dustybiker · Answer

Rejection? What is that? Is that all those feelings left in that hole that I finally crawled back out of?

RangerBlue22 · Answer

Depends on a lot of things. How long I knew her, how much I liked her, how much she (initially) liked me and how she did the rejection.

TonightYouu · Answer

What do you mean there are a billion women out there it’s hard to be upset about being rejected by 1 while you still have your eyes on 5 others

I only need 1 yes you fellas gotta fall in love with the process😂

OlderThanILook · Answer

I go take my frustration out in the poor noobs trying to have a good time in League of Legends.

Nikki1989 · Answer

I have never been through rejection to know.

Snakeyes7 · Answer

It really depends on why. The most likely reason I get rejected is because the girl I asked out was already in a relationship and I find that much easier to get over because it had nothing to do with me.

Apraxia · Answer

Haha! jokes on you I've shot my shot only ever once, can't get rejected if you never try hm.

Telekinetic-Potato · Answer

It depends I guess, it could be anywhere from nothing to changing my daily routine

Justneedtokno · Answer

Most people now go to the gym  I like to evaluate myself and put my self esteem together. Get all dressed up and go out with some friends.

OneManOnly01 · Answer

Try to convince myself that I don’t care about it.

GoodGuyBreakingBad · Answer

I move on and pray for the best that's all I can do.

AviatorTom · Answer

After I was dumped, I went and found another woman to date.

Rockstarrrrr · Answer

Stalin once said... " one rejection is a tragedy... a million rejections is just a statistic "

ChiTown33 · Answer

It's like touching a hot stove. Take steps to ensure or at least minimize the chance that it ever happens again.

Cright941 · Answer

I move on. I know I am not for everyone, but I am for some. Those are the people I am looking for

Harbringer26 · Answer

I've never faced a rejection before. But I wouldn't do anything I think. Having a fit or anything seems immature and exaggerated. It's not the end of the world.

Heolurt · Answer

I used to just move on to the next rejection which always came but after getting tired of rejection, I gave up for good and now I don't get rejected. As much anyways.

MCheetah · Answer

Women rejecting me is the norm, so I don't do anything different after they do, although it does lower my mood by about 10%. Women are often terrible! They never have to worry about rejection!

exitseven · Answer

I used to get drunk followed by a hard workout.

bigpauly · Answer

Just keep moving on. Lol. It’s a regular part of life at this point.

Alex8736 · Answer

Just keep moving forward which it's always good to have a backup plan vs putting all your eggs in one basket

dragoblack · Answer

Distract myself with things i enjoy is my usual go to... otherwise it is looking at porn, masturbation, and a nap

VIVANT · Answer

For sex? I will go and feel relieved 😅

Girltaytay · Answer

I don't know move on I guess. I don't really get rejected often because I don't usually make moves but when I do I usually just move on quickly it's their loss anyway.

art84 · Answer

Try to forget about the person unless you have to see them daily.

Sparkie460 · Answer

It doesn't matter what I'm rejected for. I hold my head high and move on

TroyDT · Answer

I ask the next girl. I have never suffered from one-itis.

Hardworkingguy · Answer

I get to work and other goals to feel I not wasting my time

msc545 · Answer

I usually go to work or go surfing like always.

Twalli · Answer

Mostly to watch tv. Only got rejected twice, and one was because someone else already asked her out

nawtee_me · Answer

How could anyone reject you? They must be out of their mind...

Xtendable · Answer

It’s difficult, but move on. Sometimes it’s not personal even though it might feel personal

Jltakk · Answer

I just carry on living. Thats the best I could hope for.

AddylynnNightingale · Answer

A sigh of relief. What's done is done!

TDDMS · Answer

I usually weight my options of either setting my nipples on fire with Castol motor oil or do a line of coke out of a titty dancer's ass crack.

PamelaRivers · Answer

I just spend time alone, in peace.

PinkRose24 · Answer

I've never been rejected

TacosRAwesome · Answer

Cry or have a nap or a snack.

Guardian45 · Answer

Nothing. Reflect. Move on.

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