To explain this better, when I asked my boyfriend why he used to add “to me” at the end of the sentence (like when he called me pretty he would say “you’re so pretty” and then say “to me”) he recently told me that he added a “to me” because he doesn’t know what other people think. So this implies that maybe he doesn’t know if other people would find me pretty? Which is really weird because he’s always telling me that I’m so beautiful. What do you guys think? I just find this weird and kind of contradicting.
I do find it odd that he explained it that way to you... but i think you're also overthinking this. he should have just not said anything about it because now you're second guessing him.
he finds you pretty and going by your many questions on here asking people about your looks many many other people find you pretty too. i think he was just trying to be... practical. like not everyone is gonna find him handsome for instance and not everyone will find sayyy Salma Hayek attractive looking either... but its just not a good idea to say that to your partner lol...
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you are pretty, yes... everyone can see that
your eyes are certainly very beautiful, that is true
but... are you the "most beautiful girl" in this world or life... nobody is that, because that's not a thing, that just doesn't exist... the definition and also the appreciation of beauty is different from everyone so that's why it will never be just one
except for Monica Bellucci of course... there's her, and then the rest of the world... lol
Unless you were unsure of your looks and told him as much when he started adding the "to me". It means that he doesn't really find you attractive; that or he is trying to undermine your own self esteem. The only legitimate reason to add that is after you tell someone that they are pretty and they say that they aren't or they say don't lie (minimum 5 times).
It's passive aggressive behavior. It's actually an insult disguised as a compliment. He doesn't need to point out he is possibly the only person that finds you attractive. Totally unnecessary. So you should be grateful there is ONE person that sees that? He is secretly putting you down. I would call him on that.
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He probably looks at the world a little differently than most people. A lot of smart people have a certain type of fear of being challenged on a statement which cannot be objectively argued. You are pretty to him, but he is smart enough to acknowledge that what is pretty to him isn't pretty to some people.
I did the same thing when I was 17 because when you're young, guys are super critical of how hot your girlfriend is.
This seems to be something that bothers you with him, seriously you need to sit down face to face with him and let him know that this stuff bothers you and have a long talk you know that you are very attractive and there's not a thing wrong with the way you look.
I don’t know what he does, but he sounds like a lot of young scientists, engineers, and tech guys I’ve known. The types who worry about being accurate or the limits or their knowledge. It can get in the way of romance.
Maybe he's worried that you think you can do better. In other words find a guy who is richer, more attractive, etc. Yet if they don't find you attractive then you just lost this guy for nothing. So his "to me", is just his insecurity of not feeling like he deserves you.
he just means not everybody is everyone’s type, u may be cute to some people but just meh to others 🤷♂️
I think you're overthinking a couple of words. What's important is how he treats you. Guys, especially young guys generally say the wrongs things. It's how we learn to say the right things. 🤣
Weird, sure, but it may be his unique way of speaking. I would not read too much into it.
Do you care about anyone’s opinion but his? Just take the compliment
Ask him, "why do you always add to me " it seems a little odd, but I can think of a couple reasons for it.
Yeah, it's fine. A lot of the girls I find attractive my friends think are just okay, and vice versa.
If I thought a woman was beautiful, it doesn't matter what others would think.
As long as a woman is beautiful in my eyes thats the important thing.
If this is the worst thing he does, you are way ahead of the gsme,.
Nope that's a cut down to you an he wants you to feel you can't fi d better
It doesn't matter what other people think.. as long as you 2 love each other. I wouldn't worry about it.
You're right that is kind of fucked up, but also beauty is in the eye of the beholder
Beauty is in the eyes of the beholder and love is blind too
You're overthinking again! 🙄
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you are special to him :)
yes it is
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