Why don't I have a girlfriend when there are 4billion women on earth?

[Anonymous]

Then there is definitely something wrong with me.

[normalice]

When there is anything at all a person doesn't have they tend to shroud having it in a sort of mysticism. This is never a good thing as it tends to result in making themselves believe acquiring the thing is more complicated than it actually is. And should they ever acquire it, there tends to be expectations beyond what is reasonable or even realistic.

But the complications I refer to are almost always imaginary. When one strives for an objective understanding of a situation they almost always discover that ~95% of the obstacles they were trying to figure out ways around were actually imaginary. And in most cases those imaginary obstacles were derived from one's own insecurities, not anything anyone else was thinking about.

There is that ~5% that are real obstacles, though. The trick is to figure out what they are and then work on them if you can. And if you can't then that's either when you'll have to cope, figure out why you can't, or shift your standards. I will say probably the biggest obstacle no one ever thinks about is proximity. If you're not out in the world doing things that cause you to consistently be around others, then others (especially women) are going to correctly identify you as a stranger when they do see you in the world. Romance stories love to push the fantasy of affairs with the mysterious stranger, but it is fantasy for a reason - the overwhelming majority of women aren't into that in real life. They want to know you have a basic set of social skills, first.

So, maybe volunteer for something you kind of think should happen. That's a great way to get into the world and meet people who are like minded, while also showing them you're not a crazy person who can't imagine other people have their own thoughts and priorities. You'd be surprised how often just demonstrating that much reveals throngs of women who were just waiting for that.

[MCheetah]

No. There's nothing wrong with you. Society just sucks nowadays and most people in it are selfish assholes. I mean, look at the statistics. YOU ARE NOT ALONE.

https://boingboing.net/2021/03/22/adult-male-virginity-soars.html

One-third of men between 18 and 30 nowadays are virgins, while sh*tstain man-hating women laugh about and call them "incels."

[Asker]

With the social media age, women got more arrogant maybe brother. What do you think is the real reason?

[MCheetah]

Society in general, is collapsing. Whores and skanks are being celebrated on OF, homosexuality and polyamory are being equally celebrated. Being a piece of sh*t with sexual deviancy like anal or pozzing, is now applauded and you're called an instaphobe or "kink shamer" if you don't support people being degenerates. Feminism has turned an entire generation of millennial women into useless cunts and an entire generation of millennial men into soy f*ggots who are even more useless to society. Truth and honesty is hidden from the public, lies and evil are celebrated by the mainstream media. BLM and ANTIFA are applauded, as is racism and sexism against the "right targets," such as white people, straight people, men, and non Progressives/liberals.

In short, Western Civilization is at its end and everything is tumbling down with it. Healthy families, children, and communities don't thrive in such a society. So, neither you, nor I, did anything towards this. We just happen to be unlucky enough to be born during the Fall of Rome. Hell, I'm in South Korea right now, and things are barely better over here. If I was tall and white, I'd at least have a Korean girlfriend over here. But I'm not. 🤷‍♂️

Just get drunk and watch the bonfire, cause there's nothing any of us can do to stop it. Sorry for the Blackpill, but I'm not the type to lie to you.

[Asker]

Looks like you are very frustrated too my brother. But i think Asian women can like a black guy like you, why not? I am not from the Western countries too but you are right, i agree with all the things you said, society is fucked up today

[Dazed0N0Confused]

Because women want you to bring something to the table besides "I have a penis". You have to be personable & have some kind of quality that sets you apart.

Are you funny? Can you play an instrument? Do you cook? Have some kind of talent? Do you like to travel & explore? Are you adventurous?

Not every woman is looking for the guy in the latest model of car or in the newest fashion, women are attracted to confidence & individuality.

Or are you looking for the supermodel girlfriend, but you should be looking for the cute girl next door? Maybe it's your standards & what you're looking for that need to change.

There are a lot of reasons as to why you may not have a partner. But women are not obligated to be with you just because you have a penis. Having a partner is a privilege, not a right.

[Asker]

I know 3 languages. I can make beats and rap songs, i can code, i can cook, i traveled and explored 40 cities, i am very talented but 0 girlfriend. Thats why Girls are like gods to me.

[Dazed0N0Confused]

Maybe you're just not looking in the right place for the right woman then.

[Billlewis]

I love it;). I just started following you and I'd like to invite you to follow me as well, if that's alright. Thank you very much.

[KillinItHard]

Hard to say without seeing how you look. Do you come across as arrogant? Your question seems that way. Are you insensitive and controlling? That would be an issue. Are you the n opposite and insecure and only worded this question the way you did because of anonymity? There's another issue. There are many factors that could result in this, especially without any real context.

[Asker]

I am 180 cm, 80 kg blonde, green eyes guy. Not that bad looking. How i am arrogant? Please let me know, from which detail in the question you thought i was arrogant?

[TroyDT]

You aren't asking enough women. I often state, only half jokingly, that I strike out more than a little leaguer trying to hit MLB fastballs, but I keep trying till I get a hit.

[Guy13]

You do not live in the Asia/Africa corridor. You should go try it. Especially in SE Asia. They have to change your name to Stud Muffin...

[scott04sa22]

My best friend from high school introduced me to my now girlfriend. Perhaps start asking your friends see if they know anybody.

[Rockstarrrrr]

You keep chasing the top 5 % and ignoring good girls who are into you 🤷‍♂️

[Jamie05rhs]

So try to figure out what that thing is that is wrong with you, and then fix it.

[Anonymous]

Have you asked all 4 billion out? No? Well there's you problem.

[Asker]

Thats true, never asked a girl out yet

[BLP11520]

I had dry spells when ladies said I was funny and fun handsome even... no girl?

[NotTacocaT6969]

You’ve been looking in the wrong places.

[joeldalton]

I don't know. Are you a nerd? A “nice guy”?

[WonderBell99]

A lot of girls are into nerds... a nerd does not always have to look like the stereotypical ones shown in Hollywood movies

[joeldalton]

@WonderBell99 Right. But OP gave 0 indication of 'why' he doesn't have a girlfriend. So we're all just speculating.

[WonderBell99]

I get that, the OP should have provided us with more context. He could always make an update, but oh well..

[joeldalton]

@WonderBell99 no follow-up is the best guess as to why he doesn't have a girlfriend.

[Asker]

I know 3 languages. I can make beats and rap songs, i can code, i can cook, i traveled and explored 40 cities, i am very talented but 0 girlfriend. Thats why Girls are like gods to me. I am from a middle east country, i also had struggle with social anxiety all my life

[joeldalton]

That's your first problem, comparing women to gods. They're just people. Don't put pussy on a pedastal. EVER. Every woman you meet and have ever seen in your life has been on the toilet shitting out the most disgusting, vile, stinky diarrhea that would burn your nose hairs out. The hottest woman on the planet has had a man break up with her because he was tired of her shit.

[Willoughby23]

I’ve never had a girlfriend

[Anonymous]

Are you even trying?