Why do we allow people to hurt us?

[Anonymous]

[ohsheeT]

Maybe two different reasons maybe because we don't want to deal with them so we just let them have their way say whatever they got to say but if that's the case you wouldn't feel what you feel and you wouldn't cry or maybe when they're hurting you you think that you actually deserve that well I got news for you you don't maybe they're telling the truth maybe that's what hurts maybe it's just an easier way to deal with things I mean I have no idea because I don't let people hurt me I mean sure I'll let them say what they want to say get it out of their system and I'll walk away that's my choice and I'm a big enough boy I can do that but I mean if somebody gets in my face and starts getting down I'll put a stop to it right there I will say time out either adjust your tone adjust your attitude or the conversation is over you're not going to talk to me that way I mean I don't care what you have to say you can say it but you're not going to talk to me the way you're talking to me there's no reason for like I said in 1 ear out the other not unless they are telling the truth then I will really sit there and listen to them but usually it's just b******* and I'm not into b******* I'm not into drama I don't like people to judge other people I don't like people that think they're better than other people so I just look at them like this is boring hurry up and then I either walk away or they walk away

[lightbulb27]

I see several reasons:

Personality - some are more sensitive and care about others and so they favor the others perspective over our own. These are more the "empaths" and they are easily abused and used by people whom want to control them, until they have and know their power. I suspect a lot of prostitutes and those in trafficking are this personality. Generally "sweet souls" that are easily played and controlled by others.

Prior abuse - emotional of physical abuse that is taken on can warp ones view of themselves, causing them to feel like that is what they deserve. "trauma bonding"... once in a situation, it can be hard to back out and standing up for ourselves can have consequences, so we back down and the other wins. It's a battle of wills.

We lack inner self worth and confidence.

[Pinay_ako]

Because we love them wrong … or we have no choice. Or it’s the only way to survive. It’s sad but true.

[FreyaRed]

Because we displace the possibility they could hurt us

[Anonymous]

You allow boyish men to hurt you because you feel bored with a good guy (not a nice guy. I am not using the terms good guy and nice guy synonymously). You would rather feel pain and excitement from a guy than feel bored, which is why you put yourself in that situation.

Or the reason is that you want to be liked by other people, and they enjoy treating you like a door mat to lift their pathetic selves confidence. You must be a passive person; you always show respect no matter how shitty the person.

I do not allow others to hurt me. Someone talking down to me gets removed from my life. Everyone I speak to shows me respect. I show 0 respect for losers and degenerates. I am assertive and show respect; once disrespected, I show none.

[TheVigilantOne]

Because we believe that we don’t deserve any better,


I heard a quote once that said:
“We allow people to hurt us because we hurt ourselves, the more you hurt yourself the more you’ll put up with, so if you hurt yourself really badly you’ll let someone beat you as you think you deserve it, if you don’t hurt yourself that bad and someone hurts you more you won’t put up with it and you’ll leave,”no one deserves to be abused and hurt but the sad thing is some people think they do.

[Anonymous]

This is likely what it means when some way "too nice" which doesn't mean it's a bad thing to be nicer than conventionally.

One root cause is having no personal boundaries or not respecting those yourself.

Another problem might be yearning acceptance or approval from the others, which is a recipe of allowing yourself to be hurt.

Another case is when you're not autonomous and are at the mercy of whoever "shields" you from total poverty. Or being a financial hostage in other words.

[malwins]

Omg exactly that!!!

[jshm2]

Because it's how you discover good from bad. But some people are daft\depressed\druggy and become addicted to the bad.

[TroyDT]

I don't. I don't allow myself to be manipulated, and that pretty much eliminates it. I also would rather be alone that be with someone who isn't into me.

[AddylynnNightingale]

Because people expect to not get hurt, yet leave themselves vulnerable.

[worldscolide]

Because we hope, in vain, that they will change. It's why dv survivors go back to their abusers. It's a nasty cycle.

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

Sometimes we are gullible to be loved or liked by someone so we allow people to hurt us.

[Watdsas]

Only way to get something worthwhile is getting hurt at times, unfortunately. It's possible to avoid it, but it's a risk you have to be willing to take. If you're not vulnerable and open then what's even the point?

[boobliker]

only people we love and hold close can hurt us as all the rest are strangers and don't matter...

[red324]

Hurting is the same as an accident. We didn't allow it it just happened.

[BLP11520]

Because unfortunately we open ourselves up in relationships , we want to trust a person. Love and be loved

[Snakeyes7]

Our psyche is designed to highlight the negative things about us.

[Dreamclouds]

Because hurting is part of life and it is completely normal

[Anonymous]

Some people just love being treated like crap.

[KittyBox]

conflict is a iniquity.

[LavLavLuv]

We do be like that sometimes

[Anonymous]

🤣🤣🤣

[Asker]

What's so funny?

[Fuentes]

I do not