Is 'rushing things' an excuse?

[Anonymous]

I'm in love with this girl for two years now and have been friends with her for about two months (she also said I am her bestie). We both never dated anyone and I don't know what to do. I have already confessed my feelings to her and all she said was that she don't want to rush things. I took this as her considering the option of dating me in the future. Well, I asked her out and we went to the movies, then I asked again yesterday for a walk and she said she didn't want to go - told me it is due to her depression (I've been her only friend helping her with this).

I don't know if I'm doing things right. We talk almost every day, but it doesn't seem to be going anywhere. Or I just don't know how to wait. Or is it really due to her depression. I'm going to ask her out again maybe on Wednesday, but I'm kind of feeling like I'm wasting my time. She is really nice though.

[JustADudePlayinADude]

I would make it clear that just cause you are dating, it doesn't mean y'all are boyfriend/girlfriend. Just two friends hanging out together. If it develops from there, then so be it. Might lower her walls about it and give you a shot at developing the relationship. But based on what she said, don't go trying to kiss her or something on the first date unless she reciprocates advances or initiates them. Maybe get a hand holding in if you are feeling lucky.

However, from experience, don't try to throw all your extra energy into someone who doesn't reciprocate the effort into the relationship (friendship or otherwise). It will be something you regret later as it drained from your life without any personal gains to be made in any way.

[SeriouslyFunny00]

There's one thing I'm sure about, never rush love. She'll eventually know what she feels about you in time, when everything's okay.

[WhitneySnow]

You’re doing great! Just be patient with her.