I've been seeing this guy for about 3 months and his ex broke up with him at the start of the year. He has just gone on holiday to Cyprus with his family and low and behold, I've just seen on instagram his ex is also very conveniently in Cyprus as well. I try not to be a jealous person but I'm feeling really hurt tbh that a few days ago he was telling me how much he loves me to now potentially being on vacation with his ex. Am I overreacting? Or how do I approach this with him?
So she's just in the same town, and you automatically assume that they're meeting up.
I get that you're upset, and perhaps he is a bullshitter. But can we take a moment to consider this rationally?
Is there any actual evidence that she's actually in Cyprus? Girls do "perform" for the social media right? What if this is just a mind game on her part to make you jealous? What if she wants to sabotage your relationship. She makes it harder for him and you, and he thinks to himself, "Shit my girlfriend is already mad at me for nothing, and I do have latent crazy passion for my ex, maybe I was just deluding myself that I want to move on?"
It's one thing to respond to actual problems created by you or him. It's another thing entirely to let outside drama affect you.
And I'm not saying it's one way or the other. He could be a player who juggles girls around, and he could be fucking here every night while he's in Cyprus. I don't know him, and I don't know you.
But I thought from your reaction that she posted a selfie with him or something. And then I reread the post and they're just in the same town.
Bruh, maybe they have family there. All my exes live in the same metro area as me. Should my girlfriend just assume something untoward can happen at any moment? I do technically live in a vacation destination...
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You have every right to be upset and hurt by this so your best bet is to dump his ass , Think how he would feel if you went on holiday and he found out your ex is there as well? Whether you are exclusive with this guy or not , right there just shows he only cares about himself and not considering your feelings , it’s disrespectful and you deserve someone that respects you. Kick his ass to the curb , there are better people out there
You can not imagine how much I can feel you right now. I live the same situation. I am dating a guy the last month, he told me that he will visit Paris and I found out that the girl that he claims that is his ex is in Paris too. I am trying to not overreact because there is a possibility of having planed the trip before he met me and before they broke up. But I still feel like shit. On the one one hand it seems impossible to me that he is still with her because I have met many of their common friends but on the other hand a trip together? Really? Now.. Back to you. Maybe it is a coincidence that they are at the some place at the same time. Do you now if they have remained friends and keep on having contact? If yes then it is pretty possible to be together. Do you talk on the phone that period? On way or another calm down. I believe that if this happens you will understand it when you will meet him again. You should have a conversation and share with him your concerns. Don't tell that you saw that his ex was there if you are not following each other on social media just have a conversation about not dating others and being over from the past. You will understand a lot from his reaction.
It's understandable. Can't imagine anyone feeling OK about that.
Is she there with friends? or was the holiday booked by him and his ex when they were together?
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All I can tell you is that they're having sex the entire time they're gone. It's up to you how you approach that.
I'd go on a date with someone and see how he reacts. That opens the door for the approach.I don't think you're overreacting, but I also don't think that the trip automatically means that they're doing inappropriate stuff together. He's also there with his family, so it's not like this was probably a romantic trip.
You aren't overreacting. He's lying to you about being single. How should you approach this? By dumping him.
Don't let it bother you. They are not doing anything they haven't already done.
By not dealing with it at all and having some self respect...
That's no coincidence, he's not over his ex. Just drop him.
Unless you live off the coast of Syria or turkey that is very suspect and there's no need to even question them on it
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He deserves to be dumped for pulling a stunt like that.
By moving onto another guy
Well, at least you found out sooner than later.
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