To be or not to be?

[Anonymous]

What are the chances that a married man (who I had history with before he was married) would get a divorce to be with me? Oh yeah, and he has a kid. He says it feels right with me and that he fell in love with me before.
However, I’m also not going to be with him unless he’s single. Not going to be part of that whole other woman dynamic. Just want to hear what the guys think about this and what they’d do in this situation. He also said his relationship with his wife is shitty, and he is hardly ever at home because his job is almost 2 hours away from their apartment.

[Berethor]

So you want to ruin his kid's life? better stay away from him at that point, even if you have history.

[Asker]

Wouldn’t being with the mom ruin the kid’s life if it’s obvious the father doesn’t like the mom? The kid would notice. I wouldn’t want to ruin the kid’s life at all. I just know what a broken home does

[Berethor]

It’s not obvious that his the father doesn’t like his the mom, do not tempt to ruin his kid's life.

[Asker]

I’m not going to ruin his kid’s life, my friend. It’s just a question

[Adam1978]

Leave him to his choice. You should find your own and not one that doesn't honor his family, if you managed to snatch him, he isn't worthy and if you can't, you waste your time.