To be or not to be?

[Anonymous]

Im crushing on someone, she's so cute and sweet around me. Unfortunately, she rejected me end of last of Year, a month and half before Christmas (she had boyfriend, took back her ex..). I was torn for the Holidays and after for months. Im not gonna lie, maybe more and Im still crushing on her. by the way, she is a coworker and I kept seeing her this whole year at least once a week, and she seperated from him mid of this year? Here I was thinking, I should give it another shot, she is free and its been a while, right...

Wrong, I was waiting to see her this weekend (with hopes to lightly ask her out, like a coffee or walk in park), it didn't happen! I saw she was crossed out on the schedule calendar this weekend... I've learned just now that something happened this week at work (think she worked on Wednesday) and something bad happened btween the other female coworkers... she got fired and some other coworker kepts saying she's done and would hate to see her back... So, here I am, still broken up and hurting that I won't get a chance to try to be with my crush, and I deeply down know she felt same way about me and just never admitted it.

I also believe my coworkers hate me ;/ I dont know what to do, I might still have my crushes number, im so crying rn inside and feel like sht, what to do, how to proceed... what to do ;/ I know my crush is hurting rn, and if she is without a job, it pains me to have learned thi. The fact I can't ask her now pains me even more! Its been on my mind all day

[Tharithi]

Please talk to her. Honestly she will only be happy u are willing to be with her during this time

[Asker]

Im waiting till Tuesday, I am supposed to get the next schedule calander and see if she really got fired or what

[Asker]

If I call her, what do I tell her, I'm not as great in a phone convo, I was hoping to the next time I would see her, but maybe not gonna see her now, if she got fired now

[Tharithi]

What’s so great about your crush

[Tharithi]

Why do u think about other girls if u like your crush

[Asker]

She's really pleasant to be around, I always have her on the mind when I know we will work together. She's like the main reason I look forward to working there. I think she is just a nice person who got into a bad relationship and got hurt. I really like her smile and just the way she makes me feel around her

[Tharithi]

Uhm that’s it? How does she look? How tall are u both. Would u look good together

[Tharithi]

How she makes u feel , message me bro

[Asker]

I'm pretty young looking and she is tiny hair taller than me, She had like emo features :D I dig it. Nothing crazy, love her jet black hair and long eyelashes. I think we would look good together. I remember the Christmas party... she was so nice and sweet, leaning on my shoulder for the picture time, I wish she would be against my shoulder all the time like that, like a pillow lol

[Tharithi]

How tall are u both

[Asker]

about 5'5

[Tharithi]

Damn that’s short af for a guy

[Tharithi]

How do u both look

[Asker]

Tharithi, here's a question; if she doesn't show up this week on the work work schedule, I'm totally gonna dig for her number (if she did get fired) what would be a good liner to get to see me? I know she's hurting, no job, some drama from work still in her head. I'd hate to do it over phone, I hope she is not fired really. sigh

[Tharithi]

Just talk to her , and make it obvious u care and are there for her as a friend

[Tharithi]

And tell her u will always be there for her

[Asker]

pretty young looking, I have also black short hair, she's got a long black hair. She's sleek body type, as am I. yeah/ I'm not very tall, true:) but not as short as some, like 5'3 guys, we are both caucatian, and I believe we both look younger together haha

[Tharithi]

And meet her and talk about it. Don’t make fun of her or judge her situation

[Asker]

thank you so much for your kind advice and words!

[boggboss]

Meh your wasting your time hoping she feels the same she dont

[Asker]

Her last actions with me were pretty flirtish. I don't know man

[boggboss]

Lol flirting don't nean she had a crush on u mate

[Asker]

yeah? what about the long stares when I wasn't looking, she would even stare at me sometime one-to one and there was a spark, but her ex was holding her back and she also had school priorities to do

[boggboss]

Her ex was holding her back u mean she still wanted to be with him over u

[Asker]

she took her ex back and started living with him before I asked, she took him in a couple months before I even had the courage to ask her. So yeah, he was holding her back, sadly, they eventually seperated (surprise, surprise_ )

[Avicenna]

Talk to other women and forget her

[Asker]

I do have another nice lady I hang out with, not sure if I should let go of my crush though, she's so cute/hot! ;/

[Tharithi]

Lol that means u don’t have genuine feelings for your crush if u are confused between her and another girl

[Avicenna]

Go with this nice lady and forget the "crush"

[Asker]

@Tharithi not confused, I knew deep down I want my crush to be in my life, I feel really strongly about my crush and feel like she'd be the one I could have a great life with and make her feel truelly loved. Just that, Im not sure what to do now, that I might not get to see her and ask her in person and see her response. Yeah you say call her, and I might jsut do that and bite the bullet, worse thing I'll never see her again as it stands now...

[Tharithi]

That’s exactly why u need to talk to her asap

[bededazzle]

after you get rejected, don’t try again

[bededazzle]

oh oops she had a boyfriend my bad. but also she knows you like her, so she could reach out if she was into you

[Asker]

true, if she cared, she would I bet