Why would my boyfriend only text but never call me?

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OlderAndWiser · Accepted Answer

1. Texting is an easy and convenient way to send a message. It is also lazy and iimpersonal. When i was dating, i would only text things like, “running late, be there in 5 min.”

2. Your generation and younger have developed an obsession with texting rather than talking on the phone. It causes more social awkwardness and it encourages superficial relationships.

3. Younger guys don’t have the inner strength to talk to you and ask for a date, because they have a dreaded fear of rejection. Their lives are constructed to minimize their exposure to possible rejection. I think it’s pathetic!

4. Have you tried texting him and asking, “hey, what would be a good time for us to talk on the phone? I miss hearing your voice.”

5. If he doesn’t respond well to that suggestion, follow up with, “I don’t feel like we are moving forward and a big problem for me is texting rather than talking. I want us to solve this problem but that won’t happen if all we have is a string of texts.”

nightdrot · Accepted Answer

Frankly, ever since it became possible to carry your phone in your wallet, I am reluctant to call anyone because you never know when you might be interrupting something. So it may be that your boyfriend is just being polite and cautious.

Believe me, I am not tech guy and rely on e-mail - reluctantly - more and more in place of the phone. I honestly, on my flip phone - told ya I was NOT a tech guy - I would not know how to text. However, it does, from what I know of it, sound less intrusive than a phone ringing in your pocket - especially if you forgot to turn your phone off and you are in the middle of a meeting or such like.

Bottom line, without knowing your boyfriend, it just sounds to me like he is trying to be considerate and polite. If so, he's a keeper! We need more like him out there in the land of tech intrusiveness.

sage2021 · Accepted Answer

Because if he calls you and he's at a party, club, or with another woman he won't call you because you'll ask him where he's at.
Also, if he's with another woman he can go in the bathroom or step outside and text you real quick and no one can hear a text. But if he calls you other people can hear the conversation.

jennifer_bloom · Accepted Answer

The guy I used to date had roommates and thin walls so a verbal conversation would have meant that others could hear us. We never discussed anything embarrassing but he did not feel comfortable with people knowing about his personal life.

AviatorTom · Answer

Sounds like he doesn't like to talk on the phone, which we guys consider a disrupting means of communications. When you receive a phone call, you must immediately stop what you're doing and answer it, while you can decide to read and process a received text now or later, at your convenience.

Anonymous · Answer

I honestly hate calling on phone if for talk. I'm very used to and comfortable with texting or vms.

I'll never take a call before meeting that person 2-3 times at least. Where we both enjoy being there and talking.

I might then consider a 10-20 minute call, maybe once or twice a week.
I don't know what the point of a call is. I'm available for communication.. why does it have to be a phone call?

No space for private area in home.. no where private near as well. Can't multi task. Awkward if no topics already there. I don't even call my own siblings unless I need to.
If I'm persuaded and convinced and see there's a need for a call, I'll do.

Otherwise, don't be buggy or needy about the means as long as that other person is available. And be a little considerate and try to communication and discuss the means of communication. And probably time as well. Texting doesn't mean we're always available too 💁‍♂️

adam6402 · Answer

He’s probably not very good at keeping a conversation going at a faster pace than over text.

He probably likes to be able to read a sentence through before delivering it.

He probably finds it easier to express his thoughts and expressions through text.

He might find messaging easier and more convenient because he can text whenever and wherever he wants.

mono_gram · Answer

Maybe because he doesn't like calling. Both my boyfriend and I are like that and have only called once or twice because it was something that was easier to explain through call rather than text.

But if this is a big deal for you then you should ask him yourself.

OfMiceandMen · Answer

I have no clue. I can only text for so long and then it should become a call. I never text when I think its something that should be said in person or on the phone.

PBandJ_Nerd · Answer

He might not like talking on the phone and prefers text as his communication. I know my guy doesn't seem comfortable with VC so we just text each other (which I'm fine with. I won't push/pressure him to do something he isn't comfortable with).

Chazmatazz269 · Answer

Some people don’t like phone conversations. It’s weird for me because i grew up on that shit! I prefer phone calls to texts, but i think i’m in the minority even among people my age.

NotTacocaT6969 · Answer

Because it’s 2024 and texting is an easier way to multitask.

DishLady · Answer

1. He’s a jerk.  2. He’s socially maladjusted. 3. He’s hiding something. 4. All of the above.

HawkPerception · Answer

It's just the way some people communicate, including myself. I prefer to text and save the talking for in-person. It's a very common thing.

rosemilk · Answer

don't think too much about it. some people just prefer texting

HelpfulWoman · Answer

not everybody enjoys calls and he's keeping it to the point.

WhitneySnow · Answer

People in Gen Z often prefer texting. Does it bother you?

Nikki1989 · Answer

People these days are clueless on how to communicate.

Vegasrunner · Answer

Probably doesn't like to waste time on the phone. I always prefer texting my girls so I can focus on multi tasking.

Twalli · Answer

He doesn't like talking on the phone. I usually only do it on my bluetooth headphones, and still don't like talking very long.

thisAppIsGarbage · Answer

Because texts he can ignore until he is ready for your bullshit. A call he has to pretend he gives a flying fuck about your stupid bullshit

DrPepper12 · Answer

Cuz he's a millennial and they don't do phone calls

DexWest · Answer

I grew up that you communicate over text. If my parents call me, I pick up the very second I see it cause I know it’s an emergency

he-takes-a-part · Answer

Silly repeated talks have bried him and more of a meeting person. He told me

laly520 · Answer

did u try asking him

wiltingrosepetal · Answer

Phone calls are scary ❤

BadApple69 · Answer

People text now days… very few call

sheikalana · Answer

Maybe he doesn’t like phone calls.

baseball_jayden · Answer

Because texting is better.

Iron_Man · Answer

You need to ask him why it’s very simple

OtterMan68 · Answer

maybe he hates talking on the phone

jahaims · Answer

He is your boyfriend. Ask him obviously

DreamLife7 · Answer

He doesn't like you and you're not his girlfriend

whistlingwh0res · Answer

Simple he hate you he lies

Anonymous · Answer

He's cheating on you

CallmeTheKnight · Answer

Call him and see

rapfan107 · Answer

Easier to text 😋

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