Guys: is it a turn off for a girl to confess her feelings to you?

[kylee2437]

[Part2603]

Had a female friend confess to me... maybe not really... She texted me to ask me out on a date, was really complimenting me...

I told her no, and I told her that I'm sorry, and that it must have been hard to have those feelings because the serendipity of how we met must have given her a real complex...

I was kind of disappointed though that she did it the weasel way, over text conversation, instead of telling me in person. The answer would still have been no. But I would have respected her more.

Honestly I find women to be kind of cringe the way they approach romance. They're SOOOO fucking selfish the way they absolutely INSIST on having their way on everything. It's always chivalry this, and communication that.

They put absolutely no effort into reaching out to us, they really believe they're entitled to just sit around and be pretty and wait for a guy to tell her he loves her.

It was so disappointing to hear it for the first time a "confession" that was as direct as it was, and still not even have courage to do in face to face and put the stakes. Other times the confession was ambiguous and deniable.

My fantasy went right out the window that day, that a beautiful girl that was my friend would tell me that she loves me.

It's never gonna happen. I'm gonna pick up girls, spit game on them, take them out on dates, and seduce them. Girls will tell me they love me, but it's never going to be surprise. And I am deeply saddened by that.

[User3191989]

Ironically, most men who complain about women telling a man how they feel, are conservative republicans, who believe in "traditionalism". That the man is supposed to do it, not the woman

[TwiNshichamp1]

@Part2603 So how did she reacted? You still friend with her?

[Part2603]

@TwiNshichamp1 No.

[Truthatanycost]

Only to the men that truly understand the fickleness and futility of such feelings... to other men, they will find it something that boosts them up.

[Anonymous]

Yeah, if she's ugly like me. I don't care about any goddamn biology excuses, doesn't mean I like being the one nobody wants. Also, I thought my first boyfriend was super ugly, then I later found him really attractive.

Anyway, they can say no to me obviously, I'm an obnoxious nightmare anyway. It's totally fair, I just wish it wasn't me that nobody wants.

[Pinay_ako]

Only if he doesn’t feel the same way. But respect for her! If I was a guy, I might give her a chance!

[Jamie05rhs]

No, that's not true. It's not even a turn-off if we don't feel that same way. I mean, we won't date her, but we'll still be impressed and we'll respect her.

[Pinay_ako]

@Jamie05rhs uhm some guys will be like eww, the nerve of you to ask me out you’re not my type. Especially if I’m lacking on the looks department and I’m awkward

[Jamie05rhs]

@Pinay_ako You're not lacking anything in the looks department; trust me.

[Jamie05rhs]

And those guys are rude.

[Pinay_ako]

@Jamie05rhs thanks Jamie. But some guys never outgrow being boys. Mean and rude

[Jamie05rhs]

Aww 😕

[TakingitEasy15243]

In reality it is to a certain demographic of guys like me. I've been with a lot of different girls over the years and what I noticed is I'll try to be smooth and say all the right things. But the moment I have her or she falls for me a lot harder than the feelings I have for her it's over. I lose all attraction, I do want to state not all guys are like this. Mostly the guys that play the field more you'll see this reaction from

[TwiNshichamp1]

It's seems to be hot and a turn on to me. Even if I have no same feelings towards her, I will respect her even more. Everyone has feelings and other women gat a heart to speak it out. Mighty show you some signs, and if not they can go straight telling you. And if I found her attractive, Yes I will give her a chance and welcome her with both hands!!

[RavVid]

Would be if I don't have any sexual intentions towards the girl.

If I had sexual thoughts about her and she confessed feelings then I'd be wrapping her up.

[melanieeeB]

No, why would it be? ... Well maybe only if he absolutely hates her but mostly something like that is flattering

[alance99]

Every guy handles it differently some back off immediately and some become more attachted to the girl and reciprocate the feelings, i would reciprocate the feelings since the girl has made thr first move which would be very special to me

[normalice]

Sort of, in much the same way girls usually don't find dick pics romantic.

[TroyDT2]

No. It is just awkward because I do not primarily base my relationship choices on my feelings but much more upon our compatibility and her integrity.

[MysticDevice]

It would heavily depend on If I liked her in any way, or could like her in any way more than jist aquaintences. Generally speaking I'd say its neither a turn on or off, but more so just flattering.

[RangerBlue22]

No it isn’t. It’s nice to remove guesswork. As long is it isn’t over the top.

[Summeroflove]

No. No. No. I would like that honestly. As long as I was attracted to her. This is to say.

[Jay3344]

If I feel the same then no, but if I don’t then it’s kind of. That’s why it can be good to use caution sometimes, but than again maybe it would make you realize that the feeling aren’t shared.

[Anonymous]

No, not at all. It makes me feel loved again when someone confesses to me, and if I get to know them and like their personality enough we might just be a couple -w-

[glennos89]

The exact opposite. It's more likely a turn-on for me

[tzdc21]

Uh... no it's not. In fact if we're on a date I'd much prefer that to happen.

[Anonymous]

Only if it's too much all at once, like some grand profession of affection lol. If you're confessing a crush it's not a turn off at all.

[JamesRandiDebates]

Sometimes. If I'm only interested in her as a hole to drain the lizard and she starts confessing her love for me, I'm going to dump her before she goes full bunny-boiler.

[JPresidente]

No. As long as it's not too early in the relationship.

[TonyMetal___86]

Nope it ain't wrong and if i can help than i'll help...

[art84]

Not a turn off, least she is up front with her feelings.

[Luopio27]

Depends if he likes her. If she is his type then yes.

[BJP21]

Nope, not at all. It give us assurance if we like and want you.

[ODC2112]

No, with the only exception that those feelings are hate or disgust.

[WhiteBoyChill]

I wouldn’t say so. If you been hanging around eachother enough times just ask the dude if he wants to be together

[Anonymous]

Nah, as long as she's not lying to manipulate you then you know you got her right where you want her and you can manipulate her if you want.

[MiseriaCantareAFI]

If you want to lose the power in the relationship

[Shy_Steve]

Hell no, Most Guys would love it because it makes us feel Special.

[Avatar74]

Not at all, I like it when a woman expresses her feelings for me

[dragoblack]

No, it's actually encouraged.
Most of us are oblivious as hell

[Curiousnesshmmm]

No why would it be a turn off when a girl is being real with me. It’s more a turn on

[Twalli]

Turn on, and will guarentee a first date if we are both single.

[TonightYouu]

Yes , women look so much better when they smile be pretty and quiet

[Luckycharms12]

If aren't in to person yes. But otherwise it's very flattering and they might even feel the same

[Anonymous]

Instead of confessing I'd prefer she would give head, but it's not so bad anyway

[Anonymous]

Girls who confess their feelings are more a turn on it makes her seem more trustworthy

[Part2603]

That's a good point. The self awareness to articulate your feelings in itself is a quality that we can admire. Regardless whether the feelings are reciprocated.

[flashrex]

Not at all, hell we want you to do it lol

[FilmGuy93]

That doesn't turn me off at all.

[exitseven]

no, it is just the opposite.

[TheSpaceGnome]

Nope, thats required.

[Iron_Man]

No it’s special

[kylee2437]

Hmmm I guess I’m question this because I saw a video that says it’s a turn off for men to hear this when they want to take things slowly because it puts pressure on them

[Iron_Man]

For me I really appreciate it

[WhiteBoyChill]

@kylee2437 At the right point in time, its definitely appropriate to bring up

[Jamie05rhs]

Heeell No, it isn't! It's a turn-ON!

[crmoore]

No. Its a turn on, actually.

[Khaled27]

No. Not at all. It's actually a turn on

[Sparkie460]

No it's a turn on for me.

[9214xs]

Wouldn’t be for me

[Tellme]

That would be very cute. I would love it!

[Anonymous]

Why would it be a turn off?

[jamartheg]

Yes very big turn off

[Anonymous]

Only if I didn't find her attractive.

[Agent_Elflord]

Not at all

[BloodCursedDeviant]

Hell no.

[Legion696969]

No Def not.

[richgentlem4n]

Not at all.

[Pterodon]

Nope

[EaterPeter]

Depends

[ElvenMr]

Not at all.

[Fuentes]

Lol no

[pedroMarcus]

No it's not