What do I do to get back to how I was?

[Anonymous]

When I was 19-20, I was angrier than I am now but also so much happier. I got a lot of women during this time. I guess I had the right combination of fun and edge.

Now I feel like I just exist. Recently I got in touch with a woman I was involved with back then and she had this to say about what she noticed:

"I don't really know how you changed you just seemed colder and more distanced and you seemed angrier with life in general (...) you were still pretty broody just less so you were more annoyed with specific events but latter you just seemed constantly mad."

She's right. She's absolutely right.

I talk to women now and I try to be who I was 5 years ago but it's an act. They can instinctively tell it's an act, and get weirded out as a result. I can't blame them. I'd be unnerved too.

I'm only 25 and I already feel like that old man at bars trying to hit on women a quarter of his age thinking he can pull off acting young.

Whatever was there just isn't anymore and I want it back.

[Shamalien]

No going backwards, only forwards. Women are attracted to toxicity because they are toxic themselves. Those women at bars…those aren’t your future wife

[Asker]

If they were attracted to toxicity, man would I be in a better place now

[Shamalien]

They are bro and it does not lead to a better place

[Asker]

That was a polite way of asking why I'm not swimming in fucking pussy if what you say is true.

[Shamalien]

Because like it or not you’ve grown beyond that immature stage of life

[Asker]

So you're saying this would have worked when I was younger?

[Shamalien]

Sounds like it did work

[Asker]

I was more positive then.
Angry but full of energy and optimistic.

Now I'm just so tired and done with everyone's fucking "positivity."

[Shamalien]

Try and find something that makes you happy. Chasing pussy ain't it

[Asker]

You're probably right.

[Anonymous]

I think you should consider seeing a therapist.