Why do people date each other for years and live together without getting married?

[Kayla45]

I don't understand how some people can date and live with each other for multiple years without the possibility of getting married.

They're not ready for that commitment in particular.

Scared of being trapped in a marriage.

Other?

[glennos89]

Marriage is just a tool to keep people in check and let them spend unnescecary money and keeps them binded to stupid rules and laws that are making any sense.

Marriage is something from the past, old fashioned. I dont wanne marry not because of the commitment I dont wanne give her, but purely because of the laws applying to it, especially in case of a divorce.

My girl can have a wedding party, nice dress, Honeymoon and all the things that she dreams off but I'm not signing any documents that are binding me to a certain law. I simply dont thrust the government and I dont wanne have anything to do with them.

And for the record... I'm commiting 100% from the beginning of a relationship to the very end. Marriage won't make any difference in me commiting or not because I was already commited

[DarkWinterNights]

Marriage used to mean something. Nowadays people are monetarily incentivized and encouraged to give up at the first sign of trouble and most people don’t fully recover from divorce. Until there are changes to the law and a fundamental shift in society, I see it continuing to be less and less relevant.

[DeeDeeDeVour]

Long ago before we got married, I couldn't say yes to the marriage proposal of my husband because I couldn't conceive & bear children for him. I wanted to be fair to him that he'd have a well-fulfilled life and tried to set him free so he may find a woman that can complete him. He refused to leave me and, yet, I didn't still feel right about marrying him again & again, one proposal after another. He still remained loyal to me. I knew that the unconditional love he had been giving me was so good to pass up. I've always been in love with him and it kept growing stronger. So, it was just the right move for me to be the one to propose to him instead. He said yes. <3

[Nimsay]

I think asking for marriage is a basic human right. If you're afraid of marriage, then I think you still have fears in your relationship. People say a piece of paper is not important? Yeah so why scared of it? It gives the spouses rights and duties over each other making the bond even more secure and safe and lovable! Especially in case of growing a family - how insecure would the children be without the laws protecting them if the couple is not registered for marriage with the law. LAWS ARE THERE TO PROTECT US - ANYONE WHO IGNORES IT OR PUSHES AWAY MARRIAGE IS NOT LOYAL. (at least this is what I think)

[weysally]

this has puzzled me for years; I think some people think that by being married restrict them, as for me I have the security I want, the freedom to do most things, same as living together, the only thing that my husband and I have to do, is if anyone ask if we will do something or go somewhere we talk to each other, if I am feeling sexy for some reason, and John isn't around, I can if I wish have sex with another guy, all I have to o is tell John where and when

[AddylynnNightingale]

Meanwhile I don't understand why one should get married.

[Kayla45]

I mean don't get me wrong, I know people are different. Some folks just want a partner but not someone for the rest of their life. I get it, but it's just confusing to me I suppose.

[AddylynnNightingale]

What if someone wants a partner for the rest of their life? Why would they need to get married?

[Kayla45]

I suppose if they want to live like that it's fine.

[AddylynnNightingale]

Right, it's not a must to speak vows and have a ring. You can do that in front of eachother in private and get yourself that without a wedding just fine.

[20yearsolder]

You can be just as committed in a relationship without a piece of paper that says you're married

[Kayla45]

That's true, I agree. I dunno, personally I just think that if you really and truly love someone then getting married would be the most romantic way of expressing that I would think. It's special, but yeah. :/

[20yearsolder]

I don't disagree with you, I just answered your question. I've been married for 32 years

[Kayla45]

I understand, thank you very much for your response. I appreciate it. :)

[20yearsolder]

You're more than welcome, I enjoyed our short conversation

[fonduegirl]

Marriage is a huge decision, bro. Did you know there's a whole procedure for divorce in India, but for marriage you can just get it done within a week? That's the thing, if your partner isn't compatible enough for you, then you can kiss your assets, money and time goodbye. For real.

[TheFlak38]

Marriage is a thing of the past. It serves only the interests of women and men get nothing out of it. Once the man signed the papers he formally turned himself into the wive's slave. She got him by the balls and can destroy his life from one day to the other.

[CaptainSmartass]

Because they don't feel the need to get married.

Simples...

[Kayla45]

Thanks Captain.

Simples. :)

[CaptainSmartass]

You're welcome Kayla

Simples :)

[FireFox001]

Very easily. Commitment is not conveyed by a ring and the threat that the woman can take away your life if she so desiers with a divorce.

No. Commitment is staying together KNOWING you have nothing to lose otherwise. Hence, I am never going to get married. I will commit myself to someone if so, but no rings. Just wows to each other.

[AviatorTom]

For some, the benefits of marriage are not enough for them to get married. I also know a few couples who have lived together for decades. when you ask them why they aren't married, their typical answer is "We never got around to it."

[TheUniqueOne96]

Everyone's reason's are different, but for some people, it's just pointless.

If I were in a long-term relationship, I wouldn't want to marry either, as I'm not religious.

[anonpabo]

a ring on ur finger , a wedding , or just the signing of a paper doesn't have to symbolize ur love for someone

[boggboss]

Because they disagree on the requirement of getting married to decide they want to spend the rest of there life together

[Sargentcaptain]

I don't understand why you would want to get married when you love each other, live together and wanna spend your lives with each other.

[Juxtapose]

Marriage is a scam that literally only benefits women.

[Still-alive]

some people just dont believe in marriage or that its necessary.

[Jennz6]

Yes, commitment, especially for the women to honor and obey in the vows, when her husband is cheating on her

[bamesjond0069]

Well I'm well off. I didn't get this way making dumb financial decisions. Marriage is about the dumbest financial decision I can think of. So no thanks.

[TallAnon]

Some people simply don't care about the concept of "marriage". It's mostly a religious thing after all, at some point we didn't have the concept or marriage at all yet, but we still paired up.

[Aiko_E_Lara]

That's because marriage has nothing to do with loving someone. Marriage contracts are just pieces of paper that lets the government get involve in your life.

[Guanfei]

Marriage is a scam nowadays, especially for men. There's more to lose than to gain.
And that pains me because I want to get married.

[Twalli]

They don't consider it necessary or have already had a failed marrriage and don't want two.

[eagle1951]

maybe they don't believe that you need a piece of paper just to be married.

[Anonymous]

Absence of belief and denial of the fact that this is forbidden.

[elizamichale1]

There's nothing wrong in tht

[In_Trance]

Why do they need to get married?