So I’ve been dating this guy for 4 months now and we both clearly like each other. But we both can’t seem to get ourselves to confess. My reason being that he broke up with his ex whom he was in a “serious relationship for one year” with 2-3 months before he started seeing me. He said he “thinks” he likes me the other day but the word “think” is bothering me. I don’t wanna confess first cause I want to be 100% sure that I’m not a rebound here (which he doesn’t makes me feel like) but still. I’m an over thinker and I don't know how I can get him to confess or open up.
Just be honest with him and do not be afraid to make the first move. Be tactful. For example, you could say "I am here if there is anything you want to get off your chest. Take time to process your thoughts, but know that to me you are an amazing guy" and see how he responds to that.
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Everyone has their own level of comfort for doing that. If he acts like it’s exclusive, then treat it that way. 4 months isn’t that long anyway.
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Do not push him too much
What if he's aftraid you think you are a rebound so you aren't taking this seriously, so he is afraid to confess because he's the only one taking it seriously. Someone has to be the first one to confess. If neither of you do, you'll never know.
He’s not ready to talk about it. Boundaries. When he wants to tell you he will.
A relationship takes patience. Don't force anything, it will just push him away. Best thing you can continue do is be there for him, have trust in him, and continue showing you care for him.
You don't! You don't want to make the effort to make the first move then you don't really deserve him. And actually he already made the first move. It just wasn't good enough for you.
You're trying to "force" a guy to "open up?"
Good luck with that.- u
You can't get him to open up or confess
How open are you with him?
- u
Just keep talking what’s the problem
Well be still and let him explain himself
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