I don't lie ever. Which means if you ask trap questions like "does this look good on me" or "does this mske me look fat" you will get the truth, not what you want to hear.
I don't do alcohol much. We are talking a six pack of reds apple will last me a month or more.. I grew up with alcoholic, smoker, drug addicted parents, so I refuse to have alcoholism in my life, the occasional drink is OK, getting drunk is not, and will cause me to immediately drop you. Same goes for smoking and drug use. I refuse to have that in my life.
I work a lot, so my free time is precious, if I've chosen to spend it with someone I'm dating she should not waste it.
When I met my wife, I was very up front with all of this. We have been together 9 years, married 7. I could not be happier.
So no sex? You are still a virgin at 37 and wait until marriage? That's quite a feat for a woman in todays world. I'm surprised you aren't married at all.
HAHAHAHAHHABAHAHAHAHA!!! I could go on all day long.
Women find me attractive until they get to know me…. Or learn more about me okay. Some women. Gosh there are some amazing ones though. I guess it’s good. Because the ones that aren’t worth my time go away
If it's snowing outside, I like to open the window before bed, in fact I like it open pretty much all the time. But it's more important to me that the bedroom is always freezing cold.
I will not be a fun person to argue with and I don't deal with bullshit. Even though I'd rather just talk things out.
My career will always be tied with the most important thing to me so it's gonna get in the way sometimes.
I'm not sure, but I would think these would could be a negative to some.
I don't like to party. I'm very independent. Meaning I don't depend on you to pay my way. (Some guys apparently don't like that.) My pets sleep on the bed with me. Sorry not sorry. 😄
1. I'm incredibly outspoken. If you're looking for a meek & mild woman, I am NOT your girl 2. I talk to everyone. I just have this face that says "Talk to me, I'll have a conversation with you". I've always had it, my mom is cursed with it too... I have a hard time telling people the conversation is over. 3. I have a hard time playing things by ear. I have to plan things at least 2 weeks in advanced & even then I would prefer a month... It's because I'm a restaurant worker.
I've never dated someone but probably 1) I can get stubborn/irritable 2) I don't like clinginess or people who get too emotional/excessive/unreliable 3) If this is long-term, I still wouldn't tell my parents until I know this is lifelong serious (I'm bi so this is especially for other women because my parents/half my extended family are pretty homophobic)
I really struggled to choose ONLY 3 of my cons lol
2. I’ll judge you early doors if your sexual too soon, Like many I love sex but I like the idea of courting when a girl says ok so I really like you do you want to continue courting me then leaves it 6-12 weeks before sex. I’ll respect her more for this in the long run.
1) My dog will always be more important 2) I'm a mental health struggler 3) Socially Awkward/blunt (sorry if I don't know how to respond to telling me your favorite snack, I overall think everything and will probably say something like "good for you bud")
1. It will never go beyond dating. No marriage or even living together for me. 2. I have close female friends, so if she is the jealous type it won't work. I'm not blowing off people who've been by my side since elementary school for anyone. 3. I have a serious music hobby, so if she is one of those clingy, high-maintenance types she will get frustrated.
I am bluntly honest so if you want to play games and test me I’ll give you my feedback which could come across as hurtful
I am not into casual hookups so if you want to get highly sexual within a few months best to not date me
I am human so I’ll make mistakes and we will likely get into arguments and find conflict. If you want to have a fair tale romance and never risk being real I’m not your guy
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I am not in the dating scene anymore, however I am married. Here are the rough edges that he has to deal with:
I am messy. You can tell what rooms I have spent time in every day.
I travel heavily for my job. Aside from the Covid shut downs, the last 7 to 8 years has probably been gone close to 50% of the workdays every year.
I don't lie ever. Which means if you ask trap questions like "does this look good on me" or "does this mske me look fat" you will get the truth, not what you want to hear.
I don't do alcohol much. We are talking a six pack of reds apple will last me a month or more.. I grew up with alcoholic, smoker, drug addicted parents, so I refuse to have alcoholism in my life, the occasional drink is OK, getting drunk is not, and will cause me to immediately drop you. Same goes for smoking and drug use. I refuse to have that in my life.
I work a lot, so my free time is precious, if I've chosen to spend it with someone I'm dating she should not waste it.
When I met my wife, I was very up front with all of this. We have been together 9 years, married 7. I could not be happier.
1. I’m socially awkward. I’m really bad in big groups and social settings where there are people I don’t know.
2. I’m a homebody. I would rather stay in and watch a movie than go out to dinner so I’m not all that exciting.
3. I work a LOT so I’m usually not available to talk a lot during the day and I’m wiped out by the end of the day.
No sex, if you think it's a downside in the first place
No bars or alcohol, again if you think it's a downside
No cheating, once again if you think it's a downside
No sex. Wtf.
Asexuality is nothing to be ashamed of, there's a few on here who don't like or want it. It's ok.
Nothing to be excited about either for some people that’s a big deal.
Then they just aren't compatible
Agreed
Do you say no sex because you're 17 or is it because you're asexual?
No sex, is because no marriage no sex is my rule, not only for my age and sexuality.
So no sex? You are still a virgin at 37 and wait until marriage? That's quite a feat for a woman in todays world. I'm surprised you aren't married at all.
Read comments properly 😂
I'm actually 17
I’m fine with sex. But this comes later. Like after marriage.
That's what I meant
1. I have past trauma that affects how I handle things, so I tend to just say things just to say them, not really meaning it
2. I'm not romantic at first but after a few months and if I really feel like I like you then I can be a hopeless romantic
3. If i am mad at you I won't say why I am mad at you, until you ask me if I am like the 3rd time than Ill tell you lol
and many more 😂
If you need to talk I'm here
-I can take things negatively very quickly and tend to overthink things a lot
-I can be quite harsh when I argue about things and I tend to put people on the spot
-There have been instances where I'm not sure if I like the person romantically or as friends
HAHAHAHAHHABAHAHAHAHA!!! I could go on all day long.
Women find me attractive until they get to know me…. Or learn more about me okay. Some women. Gosh there are some amazing ones though. I guess it’s good. Because the ones that aren’t worth my time go away
If it's snowing outside, I like to open the window before bed, in fact I like it open pretty much all the time. But it's more important to me that the bedroom is always freezing cold.
I will not be a fun person to argue with and I don't deal with bullshit. Even though I'd rather just talk things out.
My career will always be tied with the most important thing to me so it's gonna get in the way sometimes.
1. The Lord, my God, will always be first.
Meanwhile, if I'm not married and willing to date...
2. My date will ran out of breath keeping up with me since I'm hyper energetic and almost always on the go.
3. My tastes in dining, fashion, travel & adventure aren't cheap.
I'm not sure, but I would think these would could be a negative to some.
I don't like to party.
I'm very independent. Meaning I don't depend on you to pay my way. (Some guys apparently don't like that.)
My pets sleep on the bed with me. Sorry not sorry. 😄
1. I can see all your flaws within the first 4 to 5 dates.
2. I'm way too experienced for you to be able to manipulate
3. I will always put my life plans above yours. If you don't fit into my life plans, you will be the first to go.
4. I find it difficult to trust or depend on others.
1. I'm incredibly outspoken. If you're looking for a meek & mild woman, I am NOT your girl
2. I talk to everyone. I just have this face that says "Talk to me, I'll have a conversation with you". I've always had it, my mom is cursed with it too... I have a hard time telling people the conversation is over.
3. I have a hard time playing things by ear. I have to plan things at least 2 weeks in advanced & even then I would prefer a month... It's because I'm a restaurant worker.
I've never dated someone but probably 1) I can get stubborn/irritable 2) I don't like clinginess or people who get too emotional/excessive/unreliable 3) If this is long-term, I still wouldn't tell my parents until I know this is lifelong serious (I'm bi so this is especially for other women because my parents/half my extended family are pretty homophobic)
I really struggled to choose ONLY 3 of my cons lol
- I can be straight forward and say the blunt truth sometimes but have a good heart.
- Despite the stereotype of the Latina woman, I'm not a good dancer.
- I'm a picky eater and just don't like some foods. I hate pizza and red spaghetti.
I’m a “handful”…
1. You must show plenty of interest.
2. I’ll judge you early doors if your sexual too soon, Like many I love sex but I like the idea of courting when a girl says ok so I really like you do you want to continue courting me then leaves it 6-12 weeks before sex. I’ll respect her more for this in the long run.
3. I’m terrible with time and competitive.
1) My dog will always be more important 2) I'm a mental health struggler 3) Socially Awkward/blunt (sorry if I don't know how to respond to telling me your favorite snack, I overall think everything and will probably say something like "good for you bud")
1. It will never go beyond dating. No marriage or even living together for me.
2. I have close female friends, so if she is the jealous type it won't work. I'm not blowing off people who've been by my side since elementary school for anyone.
3. I have a serious music hobby, so if she is one of those clingy, high-maintenance types she will get frustrated.
I am bluntly honest so if you want to play games and test me I’ll give you my feedback which could come across as hurtful
I am not into casual hookups so if you want to get highly sexual within a few months best to not date me
I am human so I’ll make mistakes and we will likely get into arguments and find conflict. If you want to have a fair tale romance and never risk being real I’m not your guy
I'm sarcastic.
I can't let a joke go even after it lost the funny appeal
I can be loud and obnoxious when bored
If you have siblings you must be the youngest.
@BUTIMRIGHTTHO nope
@msputiton really!!!😳🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
@Zolly99999 yeah pretty surprising
@msputiton lol... I know right. Who would have "thunk," it 😛
@Zolly99999 some people don't
@msputiton well too bad for them.. I think you are hilarious 😂
@Zolly99999 thanks, cuhh🥰
@msputiton 😁😁
stale jokes are the best...
@NathanDavis agree most don't 🥴
1.) My face. Whoever dates me has to put up with a lot of staring and the fact they are with the ugliest person alive.
2.) I have a stutter and I stammer, plus I have Selective Mutism which means there are moments where it's practically impossible to speak at all.
3.) I can't show love because I have never been shown love by anyone so how am I supposed to. Also just anyone else is a far better pick than me.