Do men like women who are strong and independent or do they prefer the complete opposite?

[Lucy68]

[crmoore]

I personally prefer the complete opposite. I'm sure plenty of guys like strong, independent women and thats totally cool. But I like to take care of my girl, I like to provide, I like to be needed and I like to help. If she can provide and fend for herself, sure I can "provide" for her, but it wouldn't feel quite as real or genuine. Kind of like we're playing pretend.

And strong, independent women could still geninely need me in other ways, yes, that's an argument I often get from others, and I see where they're coming from, but it's not the same when she only needs me in a few ways (like emotionally), than when a girl needs me in general.

I love the idea of providing for her, cooking for her, making her appointments because she gets anxious to talk on the phone, I love the idea that if she gets nervous in a social setting that I could step in and stick up for her (civilly). I love having to open jars for her or move furniture because it's too hard for her. I love it all. I want to take care of my woman.

I know a lot of people find that off-putting, but this is my honest preference. I love delicate women. The world is great, I'm an optimist, but this world can be harsh and it can harden people. Those who remain delicate I feel are worth cherishing and preserving.

[Jamie05rhs]

I like people who are balanced.

[Jamie05rhs]

Thanks, Lucy. :)

[Lucy68]

You're welcome

[Guy13]

Too much of anything is not good.

[Summeroflove]

Yeah I agree with you there

[Lliam]

I like a woman who is strong and independent enough to have a job or career, her own place and car and pay her own bills. She is determined to make her own way in the world and doesn't count on a man to bail her out.

But I also like it when such a woman is feminine, likes men, and enjoys being treated like a lady. She "wants" a partner but doesn't "need" one to survive.

She is smart, perceptive, informed, hard working, and doesn't take well to intimidation. She doesn't subscribe to modern feminism. She's polite, sweet, kind, caring, gentle, nurturing, and good natured but strong. She's not a door mat. She has self-esteem and self-respect.

[sweet-chocolate]

I think men like women who are independent and strong but don't equalize themselves to them. Men still want to be made feel like men. He still wants to pay for the meals after a night out and open doors for you. It doesn't make you any less of a human than him. The dominant and submissive cards shouldn't be used in any relationship outside of the bedroom. Men I've been with never made me feel like I was less than them. Always asked for my opinion on things and never played the "I'm a man" card. Men want women who listen to their points and also women who think for themselves lol.

[MCheetah]

Men like women who have their own mind and brain, but also don't act like aggressive Alpha Male wannabes. Being "strong and independent" is a giant turn-off to most men, cause it's masculine behavior. Women can be independent without needing to tell people they're "independent" and can be "strong" without it being in a masculine way like with muscles or money.

So regardless, men like FEMININE women, and being the so-called "strong and independent" type just makes you an inferior male, in the eyes of most men (even if they don't word it in such a way) and only soyboys and cucks are into that.

[PetiteBabe64]

So a female that Can Beat men up and toss them around like nothing is a Turn off for you?

[MCheetah]

@PetiteBabe64
If she's 12 feet tall but still feminine and acts like a woman, then no. If she's masculine and butch and built like Brock Lesnar, then absolutely.

[PetiteBabe64]

What if she Is Muscular And acts feminine like very sexual and Breaks hands can toss people around like it’s nothing but doesn’t Talk Masculine talk and knows how to Fight dodge attacks block attacks Ninjitsu fighting

[MCheetah]

@PetiteBabe64
None of that comes off feminine to me. That just sounds like a manly female trying to act tough by bullying people. She probably isn't feminine at all, but intimidates (weak) men into saying she is. Most guys wouldn't want a Kung Fu bully who gets off on thrashing (weak) men, in my honest opinion. But plenty of humiliation fetish guys are probably into that

[PetiteBabe64]

MCheetah Lol 😂 yeah Only in the movies That would happen.

[Anonymous]

While I like a girl who can take care of things on her own if she needs to, I don’t want a girl who has this attitude of I don’t need a man. I’m better than you. You’re toxic. We like to feel needed, sort of like a knight in shining armor. Because if you’ve even noticed we tend to want to solve all problems. I don’t want a girl who wants me because she thinks I will make her happy 100%. It should never be a man’s job to make her 100% happy. A big part of that is making herself happy by achieving the things she needs to do to make her happy. I’m just an added bonus.

[Sixgunsound]

If you don’t need no man we don’t need you either. If you’re willing to be a mature and normal human being like pretty much everybody is, then we can have a conversation about equal partnerships and expectations and desires etc. Fully dependent laziness is also a turn off; pretty much either extreme is going to take a special kind of guy to put up with it.

[LuvLuv89]

Both. The main rule for women to consider is he has to "feel needed & appreciated" or he loses interest. Both independent and dependent women can achieve that. Think about the primary needs of women... well, that is their equivalent. The idea that men don't have emotional needs is BS.

[Anonymous]

I prefer women who are kind and of good character. When you are those two things you don't have to show anything else. Because when you are kind and of good character I know you are strong enough to move mountains. Whether it's ever needed or not.

[Screenwriter]

It's according to what man it is. Everyone's different. But I'd say MOST men don't want a woman who has NO skills and that he has to completely financially and emotionally support.

[Bethany22]

I've heard that it's more to do with how the women act around the men that's the main thing. They still need to show that they need men somehow

[MCheetah]

Exactly! Women can, and are, 'strong and independent' in their own way, but usually, a "Strong And Independent Woman" just involves an insecure loser trying to out-macho all the men at her job/life.

[LazerBean]

They want a strong woman who can be independent if needed but isn't an overbearing and obtuse cow about it.

[Summeroflove]

Yeah. Because I want a woman to want me. I want someone who loves me. Not someone whose using me

[devilish-cutie]

men think they do but they dont like strong women if they in any shape or form threaten their idea of their masulinity

[andreasderjuengere]

I prefer them naked.

But... each his own

[chicosuave]

Depends on the guy but I do like a girl who is the complete opposite but she should have a job at least so she can cover her needs

[genericname85]

men prefer feminine women. not boss ass bitches. that doesn't mean you have to be a wimpy loser that doesn't have success in life.

[NathanDavis]

weak and depending... that sounds like a newborn, not a grown up adult

[SnowedIn]

@Tyrael said it best. A balance. But, no threat by virtue of her strength and confidence.

[Chazmatazz269]

Some-some. Most guys probably prefer a healthy balance of both.

[DarkWinterNights]

I want a woman who can take care of herself, but if she’s too independent what good am I to her?