Would you date a traditional man?

[D-Pad_Chad]

Now in doing so obviously he's going to expect a traditional woman.

I was inspired to ask this when someone asked the question "are you a modern man/woman or traditional"

[Anonymous]

I would and I hope to. I'm not one of the women who pretend I don't want a man who is like men used to be. Marriages and families are not better today than in the past. All the statistics show they're worse. I don't want worse.

[D-Pad_Chad]

Yeah. After my wife left me I checked out information on modern dating and was horrified. Nobody wanted to be monogamous, or traditional or even have children... I was so confused. Needless to say after looking at the dumpster fire that is modern dating, I'm happily single. 🤣

[musicbrain5]

I don’t consider myself a traditional woman, so no. Simply because I don’t believe we would be compatible with each other. For example, staying home and not working isn’t for me.

[D-Pad_Chad]

I respect your honesty. Compatability is very important.

[musicbrain5]

Absolutely. I am already married, but if I were single and dating, I would not purposefully seek out somebody whose values don’t match with mine or vice versa. I was not raised in a traditional family either, so it’s not a lifestyle I’m familiar with.

Being compatible is key, this is what’s most important in the end. As you stated when you said this man would obviously look for a traditional woman. I’m lucky that my husband and I have shared values, goals, ideas, and we have fun together.

[musicbrain5]

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[jennifer_bloom]

There are a lot of chores I do not like to do like kill insects or take out the trash so I do not want to do 100% of the house work while he makes 100% of the money. I want us to both do both.

[mermaidcancermoon]

My lover and I are this way. We both searched for this dynamic in relationships. Its achievable if people put their preferences out there. The only thing thats not "traditional" is that he loves to cook, so he gets more days in a week than I do.

I dont recommend trying to mold and change someone into this dynamic. It works better for those who crave it naturally.

there's ways to explain this without sounding misogynistic too. By just saying "i enjoy old traditional family styles and would prefer a housewife. Im a Dominant and am most attracted to submissive women... in and out of the bedroom".

[D-Pad_Chad]

Very well said. I agree it's about knowing who likes what and who wants what roles in the relationship. Also agree trying to fit a square peg into a round hole never ends well.

[BlueScorpio]

I suppose as long as he takes care everything financially and will not become abusive, adulterous, leave me behind with the kids, 'or greedy with his money. He has to understand that from time to time I'm going to want to go out and shop for myself and the kids, women like to stay pampering themselves. We like getting our hair, nails done, we occasionally like to shop. If he's going to get all fudy dudy about it then it won't work. Obviously I'm not asking him to break the bank though.

[BlueScorpio]

He also has to understand that motherhood is a 24/7 job. There's no such thing as clocking in and out, especially if she has newborn, toddler etc. He can't come hone every day just to eat then prop his feet up in the recliner and sleep for next few hours until bed time. He has to be parent and father to his kids, that means spending time with them and helping them with homework if it's subject I'm not good at.. preferably math. Lol he also has to recognize when the wife might need some me time so she can decompress from the kids. Men really do underestimate how watching kids can be a lot and just as tiring. He needs to recognize the signs when his wife might be stressed or showing postpartum and have some empathy.

[TacosRAwesome]

Traditional-ish. For example, I want to work outside the home but if we have kids and someone needs to stay home (until they start school), I'd rather do that than him.

[D-Pad_Chad]

I used to think that exact same way. Until someone discussed the topic of work in a way I never thought of.

Essentially it was a podcast in a casual conversation format and one of the people there said women will work for a man they don't know for a little bit of money, but if they worked for their husband they'd never have to worry about food, rent, stress of work etc... and they get to sleep with their boss.

It got me thinking because if a couple doesn't work the same shift they'll barely even see each other. So the point is fairly valid.

It was an interesting podcast that I wish I could find now lol. Was going to link it, but it changed my perspective on it. Made me realize it wasn't bad and house wife was not just a valid job, but a job market that is sorely under staffed.

[TacosRAwesome]

I do get your point but I have certain expenses that I want to pay for myself and I want to be able to make equal decisions as my partner when it comes to finances and not having my own money stops that.

[HorggleThorp]

I only date traditional men, although I’m with the love of my life now. I’m not single.

[D-Pad_Chad]

Great to hear! I hope you and him have a long and happy future 😁

[HorggleThorp]

Thank you!

[Subarugirl]

That would require him to actually be traditional...
If he want's a traditional wife then he needs to first be a traditional man.

Does he own his own home?
Own his own business?
Does he make enough to single handedly provide for a family of 4?
Can he fix the car when it breaks down?
What about the leaky sink?
Is he loyal, honest, driven, empathetic and have integrity?

[D-Pad_Chad]

The home and business thing has nothing to do with having traditional values. Many traditional men work 9-5s and rent housing. Especially in this housing market...😆 I personally wouldn't buy a house until the market came down.

[Subarugirl]

Traditionally men owned their own homes… if he’s renting it’s not exactly traditional

[D-Pad_Chad]

You put the stuff first. And the values last. If you're in a relationship I'll say a prayer for that man.

[Subarugirl]

I listed the traits of a what a traditional man was... It's hardly my fault that you dont like all of them. It's also super hypocritical to expect a woman to have all the traits of a traditional woman when the man doesn't.

[D-Pad_Chad]

you listed traits of a top earner. Traditionalism was at the bottom of the list and only partially there, however that is what you think is traditional so let that be yours. Good luck to you, you're going to need it.

[Subarugirl]

Lol it’s not what I think that’s what it was… lol I don’t need luck hon, I’ve been married for 6 years and a “traditional man” was not one of the boxes I had any interest in checking….. I think your interpretation what what traditional was is a little skewed and hypocritical at best..

[Apple1996]

Yep my husband is pretty traditional

[D-Pad_Chad]

I'm starting to see traditional men are in demand lol. Congratulations to you and him by the way! Also, totally off topic, I kinda wish liking a reply was a thumbs up rather than heart eyed emoji 😆

[musicbrain5]

@D-Pad_Chad That’s how the reactions used to be, on the old site. Now they tried to make it more like Facebook apparently.

[Apple1996]

Haha yeah I hate the heart eyes as a like. That emoji comes off almostly flirty. Thumbs up seems more neutral

[D-Pad_Chad]

Ikr half the time I'm thinking I liked this reply I don't want date the reply 🤣

[TrueConfection]

I'm married to one ☺

[LazerBean]

Yeah, I married one.

[D-Pad_Chad]

Congratulations! That's a heck of a challenge these days. I hope both of you have a great and happy marriage 😁

[LazerBean]

Thank you! 😊

[fonduegirl]

Probably not.

[D-Pad_Chad]

Like the honesty 🙂

[Agape93]

Nope