Is it true all guys just really want to be with a young beautiful girl, that’s all that matters?

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Like I see on twitter guys saying another old guy wins if he’s dating a young hot 20 something year old like it’s all that men want? And I saw on a card today some joke about an old man dating some 25 year old and all she wants is sex and he’s living the dream. Is that really all it comes down to?

sassy_receptor · Accepted Answer

not true. personal anecdote but my mom just turned 42 and she gets hit on by guys of all ages basically everytime we go out. they’re usually very disappointed when she tells them she’s married. she is a perfect example that if you are beautiful inside and out, you will always have suitors regardless. also if we’re being real, majority of men are pretty desperate. lots will take what they can get if they find the woman at least somewhat attractive and fond to be around.

from the other perspective, it’s not like majority of young women like old guys anyway. i am young and find old guys unattractive and so do all of my friends and sorority sisters. physically lots of them are balding and/or out of shape badly with their dad bod and beer bellies. younger men have no competition in that area. mentally lots of them are jaded or are looking for partners to mold and control (especially the ones who speak down on older women for having a past like they themselves aren’t old and have a past themselves). emotionally, they usually have sort of mental trauma or some “revenge” motive for wanting to date a young woman. sure they may have money but in a time where women can do anything they want and make their own we don’t have to prioritize their money. this isn’t the 1950s where we have to marry what’s best for our livelihoods verses what we actually in a partner. majority of women my age want a partner around our age or a little bitter old (2-3 years). the average couple age gap for couples dating and married in the US is less than two years.

older men may want younger women but only the top percent will get them. then half of those young women will get bored with those older guys eventually and then settle (marry and have kids) with someone around their age. it’s a one sided attraction majority of the time so stressing about it is pointless. i want a million dollars in my bank account tomorrow morning. is my likeliness of getting that high? absolutely not. and that applies for this situation as well.

cryscrys1 · Accepted Answer

It’s complicated there is no specific answer
For a men to attract prettier girls -not necessary alwaysyounger -for example they also have to have good qualities. They both have to share something “good or better” than average….

DoctorSex · Accepted Answer

You have two types of men,

1) men who are thinkers

2) men who are feelers.

Men who are thinkers are logical, they look at data and statistics in a cold, emotionless way and make decisions based on this. Statistically the older a woman becomes the more likely she is to divorce her partner/more difficult it is to bond with her partner. There's more statistics that work against marrying an older woman but that one statistic I quoted is enough for 95% of thinker men to make a cold and calculated decision. Thinker men tend to be the movers and shakers of this world. Stable/masculine father figures.

2) Feeler men tend to be more playful and fun seeking. For these men your age is not as important as how you make them feel and how fun you are. If you're looking for a commited, structured relationship, you'll scare these types of men away. If you stop being fun, they'll leave.

So it seems that the older a woman gets, the more essential it will be to realise the necessity for being a fun adventurous person as that's the direction the market leans towards. That's the trick.

Kind regards,

DoctorSex

fbk94 · Accepted Answer

No, of course, this is something that varies from person to person.  In the meantime, I would appreciate it if you could comment on my question.   #Reigner

Guy13 · Answer

No that’s the internet and afraid to talk to gills crowd.-That may be to harsh but it’s close.

OlderAndWiser · Answer

Yes, it's true. All guys are extremely shallow and motivated by only one thing, while woman are idealistic, noble, and aspire to greatness. PS. How's that attitude working out for you?

Avicenna · Answer

No, definitely not for most men.

zeitgeist057 · Answer

No, that’s not all that matters, and plenty of men are interested in older women or women close to their own age.

As for me, yes I prefer younger women, but it’s also not just about age and looks, I want to have good chemistry, fun, smart, kind, mentally stable, &c.

Think about it like this: if I am deciding what to eat, is how it looks the “only thing that matters”? Of course not. Nutritional value matters, how it tastes matters, how much it costs, if I’m allergic, is it an ethically sourced food, &c., &c.,. But if I can have all those things AND it looks good? Then of course I am going to want the one that looks good over the one that has all the same qualities, but doesn’t look appetizing.

Is it true all guys just really want to be with a young beautiful girl, that’s all that matters?

Same thing with a romantic partner. Only instead of the food related values, I’m going by relationship related values.

Lionman95 · Answer

No some guys just prefer it because it let's them being dominant or because they put an emphasis on sex.
I would say that most guys consider sex important but not far from all guys just look for sex. It depends on what guys look for because different guys have different interests.
Some guys just look for adventures, some guys for friendships other guys for relationships and or marriage.
If you date you should ask a guy at some point what he's looking for because if it differs from your view it might not work out.

jbasch · Answer

I'd emphasize "hot" over "young." Depends on the guy, where he is in life, whether he's looking for marriage or just a girlfriend. But yes, I would say guys probably place a lot more emphasis on physical attractiveness than women do.

lightbulb27 · Answer

that might be true for hormonally driven and character void guys that lack experience. Young girl is relevant certainly for having kids.

There is emotional connection, intimacy, security, character. there's a lot to relationship that trumps the hormonal drive. But if he's thinking with his little brain, then it's whatever that "little brain" thinks.

some guys like older /more mature women, it just depends on his emotional makeup.

Telekinetic-Potato · Answer

It's cuz women are known to go crazy at about 45. Every guy I know in real life is afraid of how their life will change when their wife gets to that point in life because you never know how bad it's going to be.

If you're an old guy who is dating 20 somethings, even if you have money, it does kinda say something about your mental age in terms of cognition.

Chris_78456 · Answer

I enjoyed having a young sexy girlfriend when we were both in our early 20's. These days I would rather date women my own age but a lot of them are either very independent, world traveller types that I can't keep up with, or they're married women looking to have an affair.

If a younger woman talks to me who's at least single and sweet, I just take what I can get now.

Subarugirl · Answer

Nope, just the really shallow ones. Men who seek out sexual partners because they are significantly younger than themselves do so for two primary reason. The first is because the power imbalance makes it easier for them to groom her. The second is because women in his own age range can see the red flags that someone with less experience might miss.

TheSpaceGnome · Answer

People in general want a healthy attractive partner who has things in common with them hobby/interest wise.

Now if you are healthier, you look "younger", and you live longer, meaning more time with them.

So sort of, but a 50 year old woman who looks 20, is still 20, so to speak.

I'm in my 30s and look 15, gotta get with the times, live that 200+ year old life.

Anonymous · Answer

Yes, only young hot pretty virgin women are unconditionally loved by men. If you are over 25-30/single mum/ugly/ fat, it is over for you. Look how much dislike fat/ugly/older women get on Gag, Youtube, or on the internet. Even incels have better than us since they can work hard to get wealthy till in their 60s to get hot women while women get treated like expired disposable goods. So it really makes me angry when they complain about being loved under certain conditions but majority of women dont even have this luxury since they are not worthy of love if they are no longer pretty, young etc.

Guccigabbana18 · Answer

Some men do only go for looks and youth, but some men (the ones who are worth it) look for both looks and personality/chemistry/compatibility and all that stuff. Same as us women, some are shallow some are not.

VanillaSalt · Answer

Yep… that’s what we’re attracted to. But you women think you gotta be a 10 to be beautiful… is it really that hard to go to the gym, shave your mustache, keep your kitty trimmed, dress respectably, and act with grace? Young women can have kids easily but older women have a much harder time… I don’t see the issue. I want a woman to have my children that don’t look like a beach ball…

Anonymous · Answer

Depends on the girls some are hot and almost look the same after thirty , look at some Victoria secret angles , Madonna, Diane Cruger like women.

However in general with age people change. A lot of girls stop taking care of themselves due to responsibilities. Women generally avoid dating nerdy , average, career or study driven men in their twenties. After thirty with prominent jobs they get more dating options than women of similar age as women don't wanna date broke hot bad boys anymore , on the other hand those men being ignored by women all of their life start exercising their options by dating younger.

Summeroflove · Answer

I care about more then looks. Someone can look good on the outside. But not be good on the inside.

There is more that goes into attention. For something to be sustainable. You have to like who someone is on the inside.

HighValue · Answer

Morals and long term compatibility matters more, but looks DO still matter. Can't be a fat tattooed woman and expect a good guy to be interested. Plus if he wants a family he is very unlikely to have any interest in women past 30. Good guys want a GOOD woman, not someone with an unacceptable past that will never be good enough due to her choices in life.

Anonymous · Answer

That's what it seems...

Even if they deny as much as they want, actions speak louder.

On here, for example. Most blue accounts that sent me messages were men in their 30+. And it's always sexual related. (and look that I'm underaged and not that attractive)

So I don't know, Ig that's enough proof to me that almost all men are just pervs.

It's so fu*king weird and creepy... Ughh.

Anonymous · Answer

For reproductive reason yes most men are looking for younger women. I’d say even marriage. Most men aren’t going to marry a girl who’s in her 30’s or older because by than she’s bitter, hates men sort of attitude, etc. I’m not saying men wouldn’t fuck women who are older, a majority of them just aren’t marriage material. But most fertile, marriage material, yes most want younger women.

Anonymous · Answer

No. Most guys prioritize a loveable person whose company they greatly enjoy. It's just that that isn't readily apparent in a person so what gets us initially interested are her looks. Some guys might stay with a girl whose attractive whose personality isn't exactly what they're looking for because she's nice to look at and maybe the sex is great but ultimately most guys aren't planning on staying with a girl like that.

bamesjond0069 · Answer

Basically. I was 34 and met my girlfriend she was 18. We been together almost two years now. She has huge tits and a round ass. All my friends say I'm winning. I tend to agree. I don't even bother dating a girl if she's not at least 10 years younger... like why bother? Makes no sense.

Anonymous · Answer

No, it's not true, and this stereotype is no different than the one that says women only care about hot guys with fat bank account.

Stop perpetuating harmful false stereotypes, and stop believing them.

Jamie05rhs · Answer

No; it's not about age. However, it is true that women's youthful beauty often fades when they get older. So that's why men tend to want younger women. Not because they necessarily have anything against the older women; it's just that the younger ones are more attractive.

melanieeeB · Answer

It should be more important what you do in your own life, your education, family, happiness and well personal achievements

godfatherfan · Answer

Sure. Just like it is true women only care about a guy with a huge cock and lots of money.

dustybiker · Answer

No. Those type of men are just the loudest. And usually the most undesirable.

MementoMori_ · Answer

No. A lot of guys like to be with younger women because they find it an attractive dynamic in a lot of different ways. But that isn't the only thing that matters. Whatever the relative ages there needs to be some kind of deeper connection.

Filthy_Immigrant · Answer

not really, I am turned off by women who are more than 8 years younger than me. also a girl can be beautiful and also a disfunctional bitch so I'm not sure about that

alphabetacharlie123 · Answer

I would say usually it’s for men who have lost hope in love and just want a wife as decor and a fun companion, someone who won’t be btchn all the time. Besides women like older men cuz of the experience aspect at what not so it’s a win win for both parties involved.

Adam1978 · Answer

It's what get you a chance not what get you to keep him. Then it's about character and personality. Ie do you actually take a relaxed supportive role or do you become demanding and a pain in his life.

Kitty46 · Answer

I’m on dating site, I’m 52, I look younger than my age, men in their 30s, they find me attractive, I’m talking to guys in their 30s.

es20490446e · Answer

It's stupid getting angry at people on the Internet, as in the Internet there's people of all kinds.

Valso · Answer

Doesn't have to be young. I want her to love for who I am, not for my money. But such a woman doesn't exist.

BJP21 · Answer

I've watched too many Disney princess movies as a kid. Im Prince Charming. Thats how I view it.

Anonymous · Answer

Yes. Women can’t even get the bare minimum yet men get everything, even accepted as a pedophile because the world allows it. It’s been happening for centuries now and nothing will change, maybe in a couple more hundred years

tfan1 · Answer

Not at all. Sex would be a bonus but I love a girl who is smart, has patience, and most of all that can cook. And I got her. We’ve been married since 2008 😃👍❤️

Ironic_Method · Answer

Nah. Finding a young girl to fuck is easy, I want to enjoy them outside the bedroom too.

Berethor · Answer

Yea most men care mostly about women's looks and fertility, guys also like a female virginity.

UniquelyBasic · Answer

I would say its generally true for most men to want to choose younger women to date but I don't think that's all they care about though.

Noodle_fan · Answer

not even all guys are straight , so it is not true

EaterPeter · Answer

Beautiful, Fit, and sexy. Young? nobody is going to stay young forever.

Rockstarrrrr · Answer

There are two types of guys... Guys who think women are trophies... The overwhelming majority... and guys who are more complicated than that.. The minority

Aiko_E_Lara · Answer

It is hardwired in men to be attracted to the most fertile women and younger girls just tend to be more fertile. It has nothing to do with girls being older why guys don't want them. They may just be fat and unhealthy or their personalities sucks.

Haha456 · Answer

remember: guys think with their dicks while girls think with their brains.

Fromdusktilldawn · Answer

I think that just a biological instinct. Young and fertile females attract guys. For the species to reproduce faster

slatyb · Answer

No, some young beautiful women have objectionable personalities.

Hairylegs222 · Answer

One validation question after another on this website. I guess some people don't look at the bigger picture and don't generalize

Tanhoaon · Answer

Not really. I’m 21 and personally I like the older since they behave more mature, have more suffering and sympathy.

Anonymous · Answer

Nope I do sex with older woman... I don't even talk to my age girls forget younger... "I WANT OLDER WOMAN"

HiFi2k · Answer

Huge lie. If a man finds a woman cute, intelligent, and attractive, he will date her.

whiskeyontherocks · Answer

The sex part yes hot better than ugly  But personality really does play a role for a majority of men

Aakash_Hangargi · Answer

Basically all men want is good sex and great food that's all

Anonymous · Answer

They’d only want young girls because they intend to use them until the girls feel entitled and then dump them for another younger and more naive girl

Chthou95 · Answer

Men date all kinds of women. Women dont do the same and really dont have to. There's men out there that will date you

Staximus · Answer

I just want a woman that actually gives a fuck.

Anonymous · Answer

I think it's comfort that matters. some guys prefer thick and juicy type some guys like to date older woman. it's all different.

Anonymous · Answer

It's not ALL that we want, but yeah--it IS a whole ton. Don't underestimate the power of lots of hot sex with a smoking hottie.

LimitedBenefits101 · Answer

Yup once a woman hits 30 its over for her, 30 is the wall age for women.

Anonymous · Answer

I think for many guys it’s about reliving their youth. Maybe they didn’t get to fuck as many women as they wanted so they try to recapture that.

cloud9vortex1234 · Answer

I like that, but at least have to like her as. a person as well.

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