How do I (M19) lower my standards?

[Anonymous]

I’ve never been in a relationship, but that’s due to the fact that i’ve never felt good enough and especially because i’ve never seen girls interested in me. I guess i’m not attractive enough for girls i like. But i don’t even have high standards at all.

I’m pretty tall, fit and generally take care of myself… but i’m losing my hair

[Avicenna]

Girls will usually not tell you and sometimes won't give any indication if they're attracted to you. Talk to different women and see who's most interested in you, then ask one out. It's not rocket science.

[dustybiker]

What interest do you have in other people? To be in a relationship it’s bringing a whole other person into your space. You have to want them there which means participating with them. It’s not only about you anymore. Make effort to talk to someone you like. Ask good questions. Be interested in replies.

[Bethany22]

You've got your whole life to learn how to flirt with women. Practice makes perfect

[YourFavoriteFriend]

I don't think lowering your standards would help. You do have that you don't have high standards to begin with. You should start to just hung and chat with people and ask girls out eventually. It doesn't matter if they reject you when you have a great life where you have fun ;)

[Guy13]

Ask your lady friends what kind of vibe you give off. They see what you can not.

[JustiReno]

Maybe get a few girls as friends and hang but don’t try to fuck someone you like n respect

[BarryLiverstone]

The last 3 girls you approached and talked to what happened?

[Asker]

At uni, there are lots of groups and girls are never on their own. It just sounds very creepy, especially approaching strangers you don’t even know.

I mean… how do you approach girls?

[BarryLiverstone]

Depends. Like at parties was with a group myself so just walking around saying hi and making jokes. But if I’m on my own I’ll usually find something we can both see and make a comment about it. No it’s not creepy as they are out and should expect people to talk to them. Usually it’s better to approach a group as they will feel safer

[Asker]

i agree with you when you say that it's not creepy because girls should expect someone to talk to them. But that's true in case of discos, bars and all social places. It's not like approaching girls on the street. I'd generally be more likely to approach a girl is there's the right context. For example, a girl at the disco, or also a girl in a place where we see each other a lot of times.

[BarryLiverstone]

Don’t approach on the street, she’s going somewhere. You are At uni.. so lots of chances to approach in clubs and class and hanging out.

My friends and I used to do ‘rounds’ in the dorms. Just walking in and out of the dorms saying hi to friends and being social. Lots of times we met new people who lived there

[Asker]

yeah... i'm currently not going to uni due to a break of 2 weeks we have. But i remember that the last day a girl sent a message on the uni group and asked if anyone was up to have a drink after the lessons. I was among the ones that replied and we met in a group of about 5 people.

[BarryLiverstone]

Any of those 5 people single or have a single friend? Honestly the best way to meet girls is through friends.

[Anonymous]

Chances are, your standards are way too high.

[slatyb]

Losing your hair? BFD. Plenty of women won't care.

[Anonymous]

Be ass to get some ass