Should I lower my standards?

[Anonymous]

Im almost 20 and still a virgin and because of that i think high standards are the reason I’m a virgin. I shouldn’t be going for really hot woman, but i should be going for average looking women.


I lowered my standards yesterday, its now okay too:

-Date a woman thats chubby but not fat

- Date a woman that is average looking

- Date a woman that looks cute, but does not look hot or sexy

[Oliverlogan263]

I wouldn't necessarily say to lower your standards, man. Having some level of attraction is important in finding the right person. But I get where you're coming from too about wanting experience.

A few thoughts - first, don't be too hung up on a number like being a virgin. Focus on finding an actual connection with someone you really vibe with.

Attraction is also subjective - what you find cute or hot is personal. Maybe broaden your idea of what that can mean to include more types of looks. Get to know a girl's personality before judging just on looks alone.

Second, work on yourself too. Develop your social skills, interests, confidence - all traits that will help you meet more people naturally. Forcing it won't lead anywhere good.

My advice would be stay open but don't compromise your values either. The right person won't make you feel like you settled. Just relax and let things happen organically. You've got this bro, don't stress!

[Asker]

thanks for the advice bro

[Oliverlogan263]

You’re welcome bruh anytime

[HawkPerception]

Don't lower your standards. You don't want to be with a girl and tell her she's beautiful when in reality you think she's average in your honest opinion. But also be realistic. If you want a girl that works out regularly, and is intelligent with a lot of interests, then you should bring the same thing to the table

[laly520]

don't settle for less
eventually the one would come just try to stay realistic n keep in mind each person have their own errors n imperfections