Have you ever been Molested? Has it effected you?

[Finchie40]

I been doing a lot of research on Molestation to come to find out most the shit I read has hit the nail right on the head as to why I am a certain way , For years I never thought it effected me, but from what I researched I guess it has , if you ever been molested I recommend you do some research on it, I was 10 years old when an older woman molested me , the older woman was my Mom’s best friend , She told me not to say anything or bad things would happen , I was scared but not scared if that makes sense, cuz part of me actually enjoyed it , so I never told my parents until I was much older until after I found out she passed away, they say the best thing to do is talk about it , so here I am , please share how molestation impacted you? I love sex , but I only love sex with a girl that only wants sex with me , I need to feel chemistry and connection with a girl to want to have sex with her , She can be hot as hell on the outside but if I don’t feel like she’s in it for the long haul I want nothing to do with her , I know there are a lot of guys that can just have sex with a girl for the hell of it , cuz she is hot , I have a lot of male friends that can do that and asked myself why can’t I?, Most people think I am talking out my ass , especially girls lol but I am being honest. Cheating is a big No for me , If a girl cheats on me it’s over for me , She will say I am being insecure and not trusting her and it has nothing to do with that, it comes down to respect , i am only attracted to girls that have respect and moral values , I think this is part of the reason my relationships don’t last , and I end up with married women that are secretly cheating on their husbands , I am the opposite guy , Lately I been attracted to younger girls , Girls I feel I can save from all the heart break the will encounter with guys that just want to bang them and break their heart , Girls my age are already damaged sorry to say , I But don’t really hold age as a deciding factor,

[ARecruitedPerson]

Some people just aren’t sexually active for the sake of it, and wanting trust and a woman with good morals is completely normal. Guys are on a spectrum of how much they desire and crave sex. I personally flip flop between “one night stand, let’s do it,” to “nah I’d rather actually love the person first,” I get how confusing it must have been for you, to on one hand experience pleasure but also to know it wasn’t your choice. And perhaps you still have lingering shame of your sexuality as a result? It can also suck when you find married women just looking for excitement outside their marriage. Also, your not young women’s savior. You are you, and they are them. They’re not fragile, they’re people, just like you. Heal yourself from the scars of that encounter you had when you were young first. You’re already taking some of the steps. I’d also look into books on Cognitive Behavioral Therapy as a supplement to aid you in recovery. You don’t deserve to have it hanging over your head. And you can change that and take your power back.

[Finchie40]

Thanks man , yea I honestly erased it from my memory for a long time , and never really talked about it but something triggered me to do some research on it just for the hell of it and I shocked myself from what I read about it and realized it did effect me without even realizing it , it was hitting the nail on the head on how I lived my life for all these years thinking I was normal lol

[Guy13]

Nope…how horrible.

[Anonymous]

I was, over a period of several years. I know "talking about it" is therapeutic for some, but I refuse to let my molester live in my head. It happened, I can't change it. I got on with life. It hasn't dampened my ability to enjoy a meaningful relationship, with or without sex.

[Finchie40]

Yea I erased it from my memory as well and didn’t think much of it until I heard she passed away and finally
Confessed to my parents , they were shocked and upset that I never told them , I actually laughed and said it’s not that big of deal and told them I let it go a long time ago , Of course my mom was devastated , part of me felt bad for even telling my Mom cuz that was her good friend , so I kind of kicked myself in the ass by saying something , but now that I did research on it I am blown away by what I found out and how it pretty much impacted my life without realizing it

[CA4444]

Well I don’t know, it’s a possibility, many children erase it from their memory until it comes back to consciousness many years later once you’re an adult, it’s called dissociative amnesia, they only have ‘clues’ until then. And I do have clues

[Agape93]

I'm not answering this but if you need to talk hon, I'm here.

[Finchie40]

I wasn’t able to inbox you but I sent you a request

[Hispanic-Cool-Guy]

Thank God, no. 😳