Girls, Girls Only, have you ever been sexually harrassed, assaulted in real life?

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Irl, I (17) was pretty creeped out when this friend of a friend guy kept picking me up when he hugged me and kissed me without permission (literally grabbed me and went "haha, gotcha!" when I pulled away surprised and scared) after less than a week of knowing me. Then he had us talk in a very small music room about why I was rejecting him (felt I owed him bc he was acting like I was ruining his life so I spilled some very personal trauma like an idiot bc you don't owe anyone an explanation for saying no) and then calling me a manipulative, horrible person and shit-talked me when I rejected him. Childish ass ignored me like a coward whenever I tried to tell him to fuck off and quit acting like a nice guy. That's the big story at least.

AmandaYVR · Accepted Answer

I was held up at knifepoint once. There was nothing sexual about that, but it was the only time legit violence was perpetrated on me. And of course it was by a male. Actually, a gang of young males, teenagers.

Sexually assaulted, no.

I had a boyfriend who, one time, irrevocably betrayed my trust, by suddenly becoming enraged, and laying his hands on me and physically shoving me, which ended up with me on the floor. It started out as probably an innocent-enough misinterpretation, but I saw a side of him I despised. I broke up with him not long after (this was the impetus, but by no means the only reason, the rest were lifestyle etc. differences.)

Sexually harassed, no, I don't think so. I can handle myself and others when it comes to this type of verbal or minor physical stuff.
Some things that some girls label 'harassment', I may not.

I think we need to be very careful and judicious about use of language (and I mean that in ALL contexts of life.) Loosely, or even sometimes inaccurately labelling things using stronger language than is entirely appropriate, can improperly inflame. However, it's difficult because everyone has different comfort levels and what to one may be inoffensive may be very offensive to another. (There needs to be reasonable standardization.) Women all around the world are speaking up more than ever now. And I am proud and happy about that. #timesup is a very valid and long-due slogan. But I also support precise use of language, detailed accounts, thorough unbiased investigations, and a healthy dose of objectivity, and common sense. We need to find a reasonable compromise in society between no more sexual harassment, and a complete social distancing that never allows any contact or interaction or communication between the sexes at all. So to that, I would say, ladies, speak up, yourself, in the moment. It is important you handle it yourself as much as you can. It empowers you, and informs men so the connection is instantly made, not clouded later. Tell men to back off or cut it out if what they've said or done is really bothering you. Be calm, civil, yet strong. Teach the men in your life, one by one, what is not ok, and what is, quite honestly, no big deal. I want us to get to a place in society where violence and sexual harassment is neither tolerated, nor exaggerated and used as a weapon itself.

FictionalCharacter · Accepted Answer

Sexually harassed through words in high school.  I was about 16-17 years old in 2nd period algebra, some guy would taunt me. Always.  He would sit next to me and say:  -“ hey, have you ever been tea bagged ?”  -“ Do you know what tea bag means? ”  -“ how bout I tea bag across your face? ”  I was so angry and furious the way he was talking to me, that I told him to “ LEAVE ME ALONE.”  I even moved seats away from him and he would throw paper balls at me. That him and some guys on the basketball team would laugh at me and harass the girls in the class.  The math teacher was aware of these actions, but never did anything. That the boys would walk all over him. So, me reporting it to the teacher was useless 😔.  That even me raising my hand 🖐🏻 to tell the teacher, the guys would make fun of me. “ Ooooh look at her, she is snitching on us. Bitch put your hand down. Fuckin dumbass bitch.”  Always throwing paper balls in the back of my head. That one time, I grabbed one of the balls on the floor and threw it back at them. They responded: “ AHAHA, look what she did! She should get her ass spanked!”  
   It came to the point of the girls separating from the guys cause of the harassment. The girls sitting one side of the class and the boys the other.  I was talking to one of girls about having a older sister, that the guy heard me and said: “ How about I fuck your sister up her ass!”  At that point, I’ve had enough.  So before second period, I went to the principal office to change classes and make a report. That the vice principal decided to see and speak to me about what was troubling me. I told him everything, and how this guy was speaking to me. The vice principal was very upset and sent security to pull the guy out of class, so he could speak to him.  Once the guy walked into the office, very surprised to see me and the vice principal. He looked very quiet and scared with his head down.

Amanda2 · Answer

Oh boy I can’t counter the number of times I have been sexually harassed in my lifetime but I’d list a few.

My grand uncle, a cripple masturbated on the bed in front of me when I was 4 years old (still breaks my heart my family didn’t do more to protect me)

I was 7 or 8 when his son played with my cousin (by that time I had sense and I ran, I still don’t understand why my family had me and my little sis over at their house when they knew they were into pedophilia)

Fast forward to age 24 my best friend at the time grabbed my breast and pussy when I asked him for a ride home from the supermarket

A lot of guys have groped me between the ages of 18 to 22, I just can’t recall all of the incidences

At age 26 I was riding on a bus in another island and I felt someone rubbing on my legged I looked to my left and the guy next to me had his penis out masturbating on the bus and rubbing on my leg in satisfaction.

I’m 29 now and I haven’t had any occurrences with this. I hope it has been my last. It’s a shame how men can be pigs no matter how old you are

Anonymous · Answer

I was in a club on Halloween having THE best time. My guy friend went off to get drinks and right as he was walking back to us, some guy grabbed my butt and started to push up on me aggressively completely uninvited. My friend launched at him so quick I literally had no time to really react, and he shoved the guy back and told him to f-off and that he would punch him if he ever tried that again. Then like a freaking knight in shining armor, he pulled our whole friend group to a corner of the club and he and they just really made sure I was okay. I felt so protected in that moment to have a group that really stood by me. It's absolutely disgusting to think that someone thinks they have some right to touch you without asking or without you making an intention towards them. It's not acceptable. Period.

ThongQueenFlirt · Answer

When things like this happen to someone, it's good to talk about it, if you can. You're not alone. So let no one down you make it sound like you're looking for attention. I've been harassed too, by gun point. I was still a virgin in my early 20s. I didn't do what he wanted. He saw I was serious about it, so he put the gun away. I don't know what is wrong with the men in South Carolina. I was at a family reunion, when I met this guy as a cousin. Where I'm from, your cousin is like your brother and sister. Anyway, to make a long story short, he raped me at age 24, and I was still a virgin. Just glad I didn't get pregnant by him. Three years later, I gave birth to identical twin daughters!!!

RydiaMagnifique · Answer

Yeah. Last year in February, molested, and in October of last year, I was raped. I was sexually harassed in my room in a shelter. Just recently, I was pressured into taking pictures of my breasts exposed by an employee who works in a building right around the corner from where I currently live.

Do I have PTSD? Yes. I was diagnosed 7 months after I was molested last year. My last episode was earlier today. My fiance saw me panicking, came over and put his hands on my head to try and calm me down and I attacked him thinking I was back in that moment and he is my attacker, and he had to restrain me and remind me where I am and who he is and that what happened is in the past. Naturally I cried in his arms because I assaulted him thinking he was my attacker, and it kills me inside because I would never put my hands on him. Ever.

pinkcactus484 · Answer

Yes. It didn't happen to me until I was in my late teens but it has happened a few times now.

The first time was a guy at school when I was 17. He just slapped my bum as he walked past. Then, one of his friends did it twice to me at a party that I went to.

A few guys have put their arms around me in clubs. I know that is not too bad but I really do not feel able to say "no". It scares me a little.

And one time, a guy did put his arm around me and then slapped my bum when a friend of mine shooed him away.

Also, I do get the usual men staring at my chest or bum as I walk past them in the street sometimes.

LizzyHale · Answer

One time I went on a date with a guy at the beach and I REALLY wasn’t interested in him after getting to know him. So I wanted to leave. But he really pressured me into going in the car with him and told me “come closer don’t be lame cmon” so I got closer, he was touching my thigh and getting touchy so I said “ it’s getting late I should be getting home” but he continued asking me questions and calling me lame for dodging them and making a “what is wrong with you” face. So I moved away from him and he took me home respectively. But that was the extent of it. I definitely wouldn’t call it assault but I was very worried he was going to forcefully kiss me or touch me. Just don’t put yourself in that situation ladies, go to dinner somewhere in public not the beach in the middle of the night. I’m stupid and was very neive and wanted to “live”. Lol

rose004b · Answer

I've been sexually harrassed. The creepiest time was when I was walking home around midnight (there was around 1 km from the subway station to my place). A creep decided to try to persuade me to get in his car and he was driving fucking slowly to match my pace. I ignored him but he wouldn't go away. I was exhausted and I was carrying a heavy laptop and books so I didn't start running immediately but I was acutely alert. Around 100 meters away from my place, he stopped the car and I think he was planning to get out. I bolted.

Anonymous · Answer

That exact same situation happened to me years ago. He was my coworker and was angry at me because I wouldn’t have sex with him. I said no and he got all pissed and said the same things you heard. THEN he proceeded to harass me at work for 2 months. I finally reported him and got him fired.

I was also raped at 23 (I’m 28, not 24). Took me a long time to finally realize that it wasn’t my fault. I was asked about what I was wearing and how I was acting. Horrible when people don’t believe you.

I’ve been sexually assaulted more than 5 times and less than 10.

nopedydoo · Answer

I've had guys honk, wave or yell stuff out of their cars when i ran in a bra. as a result, i dont run shirtless unless im going on a trail.
also once, i was leaving my school and these 2 guys started following me in my parking lot commenting on my ass and how they wanted my snap and i was so freaked out

Kazzy36 · Answer

Yes. A male “friend” repeatedly groped by breasts, bum and forcefully kissed me in front of all my friends at a party. He squeezed me so hard it’d be painful. When we all went to bed in a big tent we had, he crawled over, reached his hand under the sheets and groped me one last time before sleeping. It was so so humiliating, the groping kept going on over and over again and he would not stop

jennifer_bloom · Answer

Yes - I would say almost every woman has - being raped doesn't happen to everybody but I'm assuming nearly all woman have been assaulted or harassed at least once. I remember a stranger grabbed me and tried to kiss me at a restaurant one time and I had no idea who he was. I also felt afraid when I saw him - my intuition told me the guy was dangerous and he assaulted me 5 minutes later.

SpiderLady · Answer

Wow. These stories. It's so sad how common these are.

Even though I've lived a pretty sheltered life people still found a way to harrass/sexually abuse me. I've been groped and grabbed without consent like (unfortunately) most women.

Also. I was sexually abused at 10. then again at 12. Then again by my ex husband.

SaraSmithishere · Answer

Yeah, a few times
1. I was in line at Rite Aid one time and a large man grabbed my ass. I was wearing a maxi dress, too!
2. A guy at a night club once came up behind me and stuck his hand down my pants
3. I once had a guy send me a message stating that I was so hot that I could be an escort and that he'd "pay to fuck me"

Chyenne · Answer

To me, this looks like your trying to seek attention.

But yes, its looks like you were sexually harassed, from what is described. But you should've known this. I don't think you need over a dozen different people to answer a question that a 5th grader can answer.

To me I don't think its cute to be doing this at your age. You should know better.

Anonymous · Answer

By my ex's best friend 2 years ago.

My ex had broken up with me a week prior and his friend was being very supportive emotionally, so I felt safe. He took advantage of my fragile state by giving me copious amounts of alcohol and drugs and having sex with me which I can only remember fragments of.

I was covered in bruises and told that I begged for it rough. Later my ex told everyone I was sleeping around with his friends while dating.

Men can be horrible.

Anonymous · Answer

Yes, he was a fucking fat Chinese guy who thought that I was that attractive American girl, but I'm Indian.
He was asking me for a one night stand but I politely declined but he kept insisting, THEN
He held me in his arms from behind but then I suddenly and forcefully Pushed him away. I was FIERCELY RAGING WITH MY ANGER AND I SHOUTED AT HIM BY PUSHING HIM HARDER. He simply got lost from there.

mrfoox · Answer

Not more than the (unfortunately) normal unwanted and uncalled for ass grab and cat call. Really is one of the worst things someone have done towards me, makes me feel gross and bad every time it've happened

Shruti55 · Answer

Yes in my fist year of college a guy pressed my breast suddenly just beacause to show his friends I try to complain but in my college you are on you own that's unfair because I am not a girl that like to fight

KaylaJoy · Answer

I’ve been groped by some random guy: and for those who want to say “girls bring it on themselves for how they dress”- I was wearing leggings and a sweatshirt that was three sizes too big with my glasses on.

Daniela1982 · Answer

Not usually because I'm usually bigger than them and when I grab their nuts and squeeze they will do anything I ask, especially when I say leave me alone.

Anonymous · Answer

Yes. At very young ages. Once at age 4, twice at age 5, then again at ages 15 and 17. It's really traumatizing and upsetting to think about..

And don't forget, it happens to males too. and many times, they are shamed from discussing it..

lilyisabel · Answer

A friend that went to highschool with my would randomly grab my upper thigh and he would ask me for nudes and to hookup all the time. Another time my boyfriend took things to far and wouldn’t take no for an answer and my friend was right there, she had to tell him to fuck off so he would stop

Luna1998 · Answer

Few times, i got grab by random strangers and some guy friemds before. They would smack my butt or grab me by my boobs. It scared me everytime when people run into me to hug me from the back, i would never know of they are my friends nor strangers.

kaylaS91 · Answer

Yup. By a guy who I’d been friends with for a few years, a guy who Id met just a few months prior, and a taxi driver.

SunnyCaliGirl · Answer

Yes I have though it was verbally in my experience, it was not enjoyable at all. And my heart goes out to all the ladies who have experienced any type of harassment

Anonymous · Answer

Nah, I'm a martial artist, most guys are afraid of me, especially after they heard I had beaten up three guys who were trying to grope me in the nightclub.

lanadelrey25 · Answer

Yup, by my "grandfather". Tried to reach out to him recently and he hasn't responded but I guess that's fucking life

scarlett774 · Answer

When I was in 6th grade a guy slapped me on my butt because apparently it was “slap ass Wednesday”

Clarity01 · Answer

Yeah.. It really sucks that so many girls have been

Mystic_Nova · Answer

Sexually harassed, but I shut that down real quick.

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