Have you been raped/sexually assaulted/harassed?

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Apparently, most women over the age of 16 will experience sexual harassment and over the age of 25 sexually assaulted.
Unfortunaly, it does seem true. I'm 15 and yet I've already been both sexually harassed and assaulted. Thankfully, I was never raped but it still stands. It's disgusting.
Also, in most documented cases of rape, it was a person close to the survivor (yes, survivor, because I refuse to call them victims. They are survivors). I can also atest to this since he was a "friend".
With this, I'm not saying that men aren't raped, unfortunally is something that happens to both sexes, but not with the same number of cases.
It's disgusting to think we are in the XXI century and we have Rape Culture.

GFNimbuscloud · Accepted Answer

I've been sexually molested by a close friend of the family, sexually assaulted by a woman (gave her a ride after she begged, and she grabbed my dick out of the blue while we were driving) and sexually assaulted by a closeted married man (invited me to a poker game, got me drunk, grabbed my dick after everyone else passed out). Guess I just have one of those faces. I've also had a couple of extremely uncomfortable kisses forced on me from drunk women at bars, but I'm not sure I'd consider that sexual assault. In my eyes it would've been if I'd asked them to stop, but they didn't, but that didn't happen.

The distinction between victim and survivor here seems totally arbitrary to me. Victim has no negative connotation whatsoever in my mind. It means an unfortunate thing out of your control happened to you. I suppose it's nice that you're passionate, but that's a really weird place to draw your battle lines, in my opinion. In what way is survivor better than victim? How are they distinct?

One of my friends is a social worker. I think you'd be surprised by the number of sexual abuse and abuse in general cases that he sees that are female to male.

I don't really care who it happens to more, however, that's not an important detail. Seems like you're marginalizing it though, implying it doesn't matter as much when it happens to men, because it happens to women so much more, if that's even true. That's pretty fucked to me.

Define rape culture. Rapes that happen inside of our culture? Technically, yes. I don't think that's anyone else's definition, but okay, if you want to say that, I won't argue.

The 'fact' that our culture endorses, advocates for, and facilitates rape? That's blatantly untrue. The vast majority of people, no matter their gender, revile rape. There have been cases of men getting accused of rape, the accusations being proven false; no not in an ambiguous, he-said, she-said sort of way, but to the point where the claims made against him were demonstrably inconsistent with reality; and they were still fired, harassed by police forces, and unable to find work. Rape is so frowned upon, a mere accusation can ruin your life. There's no such thing as rape culture.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Well I was molested when I was 13 by a damn doctor of all people
I've never told anyone because I thought it was partly my fault..
I just didn't think anyone would believe me and I was embarrassed too...

SueShe · Accepted Answer

There has not been a single day since I have grown boobs that I am not sexually harassed in the street, be through persistent and inquisitive looks, catcalling, whistling or remarks with double meanings.

Being under permanent stress by those guys that basically are uneducated and have a low IQ and self-esteem is taking a toll among girls in a similar situation.

Would it not be nice to live in a world without guys just for one day in a year, just for the sake to be able to relax and be on vacation from harassment?

I vote for a motion to introduce a "guy must stay locked away for 24 consecutive hours each year", or at least all those that have a hard time staying in control of their level of testosterone

babymels333 · Accepted Answer

i was going to say this anonymously but i decided to be open online about my experience for one of the first times, i was regularly assaulted by my uncle when i was younger. i was also raped two years ago. i suffer from severe ptsd. my parents have no idea about either situations because we don’t have a good relationship.

Anonymous · Answer

Out of interest, exactly how were you "both sexually harassed and assaulted", by your "friend"? What constitutes (/constituted) 'sexual harassment', and 'sexual assault', in your opinion? Because given that we now have a PC SJW culture of self-victimization here in the West, to the extent that THIS is the first image you get for sexual harassment:

Have you been raped/sexually assaulted/harassed?

And THIS is legitimately a stance I've heard at least five different women state, out loud, in the past month alone:

One has to wonder- what ISN'T "sexual harassment/assault!", in your book? According to those statistics, commissioned by feminist groups with the explicit purpose of pushing their narrative of universal female sexual innocence and victimhood, and of white male 'rape culture!' patriarchal oppression, the definitions of sexual harassment and/or assault are typically so broad and all-encompassing as to be completely meaningless.

Take those cited in newly implemented legal guidelines, here in the UK, for example. According to them, any and all "Incidents against women that are motivated by an attitude of a man towards a woman and includes behaviour targeted towards a woman by men simply because they are a woman" is now categorized as "misogyny hate crime"; you've literally criminalized any and all men who look at you as women, and/or treat you like women. In other words, any and all men who have any human interaction with you whatsoever, or even so much as a clear enough line of sight for it to register in their minds that you're female. And you call this "Rape Culture!". GET, A, LIFE.

yasii · Answer

Harrased yes... I have a friend that was raped by her stepdad and I think most of my friends would say to beeing harrased too. It's pretty common unfortunatelly

MemeMaester · Answer

Nope Ain't saying nun about this subject until I see clear definitions. The definitions of rape and assault and harassment are way too blurry rn with all the feminist BS

Anonymous · Answer

Yes I’ve been groped countless times by women at clubs and technically I’ve been raped before (I was semi councious drunk and she had sex with me while I was passing out and coming too) but i personally don’t count it as rape because even tho I wasn’t in a state to consent I did want it bad lol

Agape93 · Answer

I’m sorry you went through that. If you want to talk in private, we may.
I’ve been abused, assaulted and raped. But too many have had it far worse than I and I never diminish the trauma others have gone through

Ámayas_20 · Answer

Yes, although the statistics you're talking about aren't true. Most women won't be sexually assaulted.

Americanteengirl · Answer

Pretty sure it’s 100% true it’s not hard at all to find a female who’s been sexually assaulted. I made a poll about this and most women said yes they were sexually assaulted.

ChefCurry · Answer

I've had older women kiss me when I was 15. My friends mom did shit with when I was sleeping and I was like 12. So many different things. People are literally insane if they dont think it happens to guys too.

ciitruskiwi · Answer

Multiple times throughout my life. It's disgusting how many women actually go through it.

Brokenheartedx · Answer

Male rapes will be higher but most go unreported... The highest number of male is is vulnerable adults such as young offenders and homeless

Often goes unreported

Yes I was 16 by 2 so called friends in a shed while drunk and on drugs...

Just_a_human · Answer

I'm glad that's never happened to me. I would probably be emotionally damaged.

100lbguy · Answer

Kinda by both genders, a group of older girls made me uncomfortable (they were 16-17 and I was only 12), a old guy nearly sexually harassed me but thankfully it didn't happened.

TonyMetal_86 · Answer

Yeah, a girl shouldn't be raped or sexually assaulted, i'll wait for you to become 18, marry you and make you my housewife than r*pe you everyday 😂

For sure you will love it... women love being raped, but only by their men, they have this rape fantasy but for sure no girl should be raped by a stranger or for real.

softwhelks · Answer

I have never been sexually assaulted or harassed. I have had some sexual comments on the internet but it doesn’t bother me that much to be considered harassment.

theWhalers · Answer

Assaulted yes but luckily nothing further  I see this shit way too often. It’s horrifying

Reddwolf · Answer

I had a good female friend who had it all done to her and I was her security and comfort

name_is_eric · Answer

Boohoo. My primary school p. e. teacher used to slap my rear end at the end of the class, yet I'm not moaning about it.
We don't have a rape culture here in the West. More so, rape culture would be the fact, that women can get away with rape. Men who are raped get ridiculed, but women who get raped are made to be the center of everything.

But I get it, you're still so young to understand the world. All of this are blown out of proportion.

Anonymous · Answer

Its from there being no way to teach guys or girls. heaven forbit the school system do something good besides lightly suggest a condom.

ZeussLightningBolt · Answer

I've been sexually harassed by gay guys in grade school

buttcrackjoe · Answer

These days any time there is a non-recriprocated sexual interest its Rape/harassment. These SJW terms have become so diluted that true rape crimes (as defined by law) get put under the same ubrella as a dude who gives you a creepy vibe.

Have you been raped/sexually assaulted/harassed?

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