Do you think men should always ask for consent?

[PainusNdeeAnus]

I don’t believe in asking for consent

if you know you will stop if she says no or she is uncomfortable I think women like a man who just goes for it ya kno?

Consent is nice but it lacks passion like taking the venom out of a cobra

[AviatorTom]

Why limit it to men? Women should ask for consent too.

Verbal consent has limited legal meaning, though. One of the partners could, later on, claim that they never gave consent, even if they did verbally... it turns into a he said... she said argument, and most judges and juries will side with the woman.

[PainusNdeeAnus]

Women don’t need consent they use shame and guilt on men who reject them you know “You must have a small wiener” “You must be gay” etc. men are animals right? We’re supposed to be sex crazed maniacs that’s why women like Jemma Beale can accuse 15 men of rape ( Yes 15!) and her word is golden her word alone was enough to ruin their lives no trial, no investigations and they were strangers she didn’t even know them they were random men

[PainusNdeeAnus]

This is why consent is dumb women can give consent at one moment then regret it and say she was raped like how white women used to do black guys back in the day when they were caught having sex with them

[Kori1236]

I mean in the beginning of a relationship yeah it’s okay to ask consent. If it’s further into the relationship I guess it depends on the dynamic. For me in the beginning yes ask consent just as a courtesy and to learn boundaries likes and dislikes, afterwards if I don’t want it I’ll say no. The same goes for women with their partner, give the respect you want to receive

[PainusNdeeAnus]

So would you prefer a guy you had to chase and always initiate intimacy with or one who chased you

[Kori1236]

I don’t chase people, if I’m interested in someone I’ll tell them. But intimacy is a two way street, and he has a say in if he’s in the mood for sex or not.

[PainusNdeeAnus]

Then that’s considered chasing / pursuing them so you do prefer to chase

[PainusNdeeAnus]

That is quite peculiar actually most women prefer to be chased

[Kori1236]

I mean you can call it what you want I just don’t play childish games and chasing people is something I consider childish.

[PainusNdeeAnus]

Really! Most people who chase consider telling som they like that they like them (very direct fat from childish) are you saying you consider yourself childish?

[Kori1236]

I’m saying I don’t play games. I don’t chase people, and view chasing people to be childish. If I like someone I’m direct as you said. But I just don’t consider it perusing

[PainusNdeeAnus]

So what would you consider pursuing/courting?
What makes chasing someone childish? That’s how men have always had to find mates by chasing them

Like if I wanted a relationship with you and I told you I liked you and wanted to take you out to talk with you more what about that is childish?

[Kori1236]

I view chasing to be like a game. Like tag kids play it’s just a waste of energy. Maybe you view it differently I don’t know but as I said before I don’t play games. I’m not going to chase someone so let’s say I like a dude I tell him, he likes me but wants to keep things casual, that’s a full stop. I’m not going to chase him and try to keep his attentions.

[PainusNdeeAnus]

So what do you expect from an early relationship starting casually allows each persons involved to move at their own pace

If I liked you and told you from that moment I want to fuck you which would be no problem for a serious girlfriend but you gotta think like two people who just met and don’t know each other

Most guys have to wait and go at the woman’s pace to make her feel comfortable and allow the bond to develop and become stronger all while restraining our desire to just force ourselves on you

[Kori1236]

I think you misunderstood my use of casual. In this context I meant more towards the option of friends with benefits. Early relationship does allow both people to move at their own pace.

[AmandaYVR]

It's very unsexy. I can't believe it's come to this in society.

[normalice]

If the guy is not a block, consent can be asked for and given entirely through body language. Indeed, part of why women want to form a connection with men before any intimacy occurs probably has something to do with learning each other's body language - it's why women love to dance and men generally hate it.

[hello123456789]

Men should ask for consent... but 9 times out of 10, both the man and the woman make out and then it leads to the sex.

[PainusNdeeAnus]

Yea but someone has to make the first move whether it’s his hand on her thigh or her leaning in more

[rachel776]

i would not want them to it's up to me to say no to something if i don't want it

[PainusNdeeAnus]

Exactly you are supposed to teach others how to treat you

[inhua]

there's no hard facts on this.

it's all subjective. asking might even come off "creepier" than not asking.

[FilmGuy93]

Always ask for consent, but you don't always have to do it verbally.

[PainusNdeeAnus]

If you don’t do it verbally then you’re just fishing for a bite

[FilmGuy93]

Sometimes. I think women are pretty good about giving unambiguous "yes" signals when they actually want something.

[PainusNdeeAnus]

That me too stuff went way too far GenZ guys don’t even want to approach women

[FilmGuy93]

I hear that! I basically felt the same way, as a Millennial when I was in college and such. I was basically too scared to hookup with women drunk, and I could never find anyone to date, so I just kept to myself. I eventually broke my rule and hooked up with a woman drunk and it ended up destroying a bunch of friendships.

[PainusNdeeAnus]

I don’t think people will care until the gap between babies born a day is far below the number of people who dies a day

[FilmGuy93]

People care already. Women have noticed how few men want to approach or take them seriously, and they absolutely hate it. You should see how women act in their later twenties once the "mommy clock" starts going off and they want to have a family. It's actually really sad to see. A lot of women have started to approach men with hurt, confusion, frustration, and desperation in their eyes.

The tides turn in men's favor with time, but it's not a pleasant thing to watch.

[Anonymous]

No. If you have any social skills at all and if you avoid batshit crazy chicks, that neither necessary nor desired.

[Twalli]

It's a good idea unless you know the person.

[Sparkie460]

If she's not making the move first you should ask for consent

[Anonymous]

Sounds like something a typical rapist would say.

[PainusNdeeAnus]

That’s not funny

[PainusNdeeAnus]

Just like a typical woman

[Brittanyroseee]

He is also a mysoginist. He called me selfish because I don’t want kids. I cannot help the fact that I dislike babies. Sorry

[PainusNdeeAnus]

@Brittanyroseee That is extremely selfish but it’s your world im just a squirrel

[Brittanyroseee]

@painusNdeeAnus ok, great! Im selfish because I don’t want crotch demons! Fantastic!!!

[PainusNdeeAnus]

@Brittanyroseee then don’t have sex

[Brittanyroseee]

I won’t stop fucking my boyfriend thanks. Im also on birth control and if it does fail, i will happily get an abortion! Taking out the trash!😍

[PainusNdeeAnus]

@Brittanyroseee boy empty wagons sure do make a lot of noise you are about as useful as a chocolate teapot

[Brittanyroseee]

And you are a mysoginistic rapist

[PainusNdeeAnus]

@Brittanyroseee no im actually raising my little girl to be a real woman something you no nothing about …sad.

[Brittanyroseee]

@painusNdeeAnus I don’t give a fuck lol

[In_Trance]

Yes I do. that works both ways

[LazerBean]

Smh hoe problems.

[bananathunder]

ummmm yes... wtf lol

[Brittanyroseee]

You have issues bro!!!

[PainusNdeeAnus]

Because I think consent is nonsense? When women like Jemma Beale can accuse 15 random innocent men of rape and ruin their lives just because she felt like it

[Brittanyroseee]

Because you think im selfish and heartless for not wanting crotch demons. Its 2022. Its not the midevil times!

[Brittanyroseee]

I hate kids, why should i have them? I won’t love it😂😂😂

[PainusNdeeAnus]

You can do what you want

But I will never encourage your lifestyle it’s dull, empty , lonely and unfulfilling never ends well

[Anonymous]

Instead go gay! Men aren't like that

[Jamie05rhs]

Yes. Always.

Also, I'm not a snake.

[PainusNdeeAnus]

Why? When women can withdraw consent and still accuse you of rape

[Jamie05rhs]

@PainusNdeeAnus If consent is withdrawn, my penis will also be withdrawn.

[PainusNdeeAnus]

Doesn’t matter she can say you raped her either way and your cell mate won’t care about whether not you consent

[Jamie05rhs]

@PainusNdeeAnus Why would she say that I raped her?

[PainusNdeeAnus]

Any reason. She regretted it , she was slut shamed or she is just abusing the system like jemma beale a woman who got 15 random innocent men imprisoned with rape accusations

[Jamie05rhs]

@PainusNdeeAnus Well, I would like to think that our relationship would be strong enough that she would not accuse me of rape, at least!!

[PainusNdeeAnus]

Well that’s the first problem you’re thinking like someone who is already in a relationship

This question is for boys who are trying to date

[Jamie05rhs]

@PainusNdeeAnus The hell. Why would I have sex if I wasn't in a relationship? 🤦

[PainusNdeeAnus]

Um hookup culture

[PainusNdeeAnus]

I have never been in a relationship I started having sex in 2021 and my body count is almost 40

[Jamie05rhs]

@PainusNdeeAnus And what makes you think I would want to participate in hookup culture?

[Jamie05rhs]

And that's great. Good for you. You can live your life however you want. Just understand that there are risks involved.

[PainusNdeeAnus]

Well this question is for the general public not just you and most people participate in hookup culture

[PainusNdeeAnus]

And stop judging me “you can live your life however you want” is what people say when others live a lifestyle they don’t agree with

[Jamie05rhs]

Lmao. I literally and specifically did NOT judge you. And yet you felt judged anyway. So that's not my problem lol.

[whoknowstbh]

Always ask for consent

[PainusNdeeAnus]

Then you’ll think he is a creep

[whoknowstbh]

I'd argue the opposite