How many of you think this is true?
I think when women actually want a relationship with a guy they overthink it. That causes them to panic with anxiety and delay things, to flake out, play games, and act out with all sorts of unusual behavior. They are emotionally investing in the person and are afraid to be rejected and hurt at that point. So as a result they do stupid shit that sabotages their chances. In contrast when they just want to get laid and don’t want to get back into a relationship at the moment for whatever reason, they tend sleep around with guys they know would be bad for a relationship to live our their sexual desires (i. e. bad boys). At that point they’re living in the moment... That way when the deed is done they can walk away with what they wanted and convince themselves that they don’t want to see that guy again. He’s an asshole and full of shit and a relationship would never work. It’s self sabotage pre-planned… So depending on what a they want at a particular time will guide their behavior. They don’t always want to live the same lifestyle. In fat it’s pretty common for women to want to run away and to reinvent themselves. It might be something as basic as dying their hair or buying a new outfit, or they might be sluting it up for a while and then all the sudden say no more, I feel dirty, I need to get my life in order and get into a stable relationship or maybe they actually do run away to a new home in a new city across the country and act like a completely different person… Shit some even change their names... As if that actually changes who they are. Thus why men always call women crazy... A lot of it is irrational fantasy land behavior.
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Well, of course it is true, and it is not true.
Some women will do that. Some will not.
Your question would have probably been more accurate if you posed it in a way of asking to people think MORE women than not would do this or MORE women would NOT do this.
Of course, some women will do this. Of course, not all women do this. So the real crux of the issue is the percentage of women men think do it. A lot of women or a minority of them.
A lot of girls do lots of stuff when they are the club girl type and they are in their "hoe" phase.
I haven't seen much in the way of questions here to make me think that women withhold anything. They are as horny as the men are and they just serve each other's purposes. As far as giving it up fast to good or bad boys? Yeah, they can't wait to spread their legs for the bad boys. I'm hoping that is because they don't consider them marriage material? Nah! That can't be right. Look how fast Sandra Bullock spread them for Jesse James, and then how fast he cheated with some tattooed bimbo. And then he cheated on her, and the next one.
Women are all different. We also change as we age.
When I was younger and on hormonal birth control, I held little appeal for a committed relationship, I went out with guys for fun.
Around the time I met my husband, I came off of it because of Migraines and some other issues and my outlook changed and relationships and the desire to raise a family overtook my views on dating. I don't know if it was 100% the cause, but I now warn younger women about the psychological effects of hormonal birth control on your psychology.
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This is a fact. I literally just said that in my Take about men being weak with women.
But yeah, women definitely do this and I learned it the hard way as a young guy. Women compartmentalize sex and the types of men they will have it with. If she sees you're a good guy and can tell you'd be great for a relationship and that you would even make a great father, a woman will try to hold back sex and see if he'll work for it, or see if he'll still want her no matter what. Meanwhile she's giving it up easily to guys she would never even marry but they just excite her sexually.
My advice to guys is to never try to date these kinds of women at all. They don't actually value the guy, they just like the novelty of his pure intentions, and want to swing over to him when she's ready for a serious relationship.
Depends on the woman...
I withhold sex from everyone.. because I don't want to be used.. I have only had sex with my husband because he showed me he loved me..I thought about being a hoe before and sleeping with hot guys but I just don't have the mental strength for that shit. I'm not into breaking my own heart and messing up my self esteem or self worth just to spend time with assholes LOL
No. Women just aren't interested in sex the same way men are. Some men can't really understand how that's possible because they are self absorbed, and so they make themselves believe its women's fault instead of their own inability to understand the situation.
i think this is a false comparison. the girl that withholds sex from a man untill they are commited will not just have sex with a bad boy. the woman who is wating for a serious relationship and the one who likes to get sex are 2 different people. obviously if she's fucking a player, she's not the girl he wanted in the first place. so in essence, this is just complaining and mental gymnastics about the fact that he didn't get fucked.
I don't believe in hook ups so I make every guy wait till I know there will be some type of commitment. I don't care if the guy things I'm easy because fact is I'm not and if that's all a guy wants I have no problem with him looking elsewhere.
Maybe some, but really that is more a guy attitude in my experience. What I mean is I know a lot of guys who classify women as "playthings" or "relationship / potential wifey." I could count on one hand the number of women who've displayed the same mentality.
I don´t think it´s true on average but I´ve seen something similar happen twice in younger ages where guys were cheated on with the excuse that their girls met a guy that was so exciting that they had to sleep with him. But though those cases were similar to the statement in some they were different in many others.
It's 100 percent true. Not every woman, but the majority thinks this way. No big deal to spread her legs and be a p0rnstar for some hot random guy in a club, but a guy who's a boyfriend, she'll withhold and make him "earn it". Slut mentality 101.
very few men are interested in dating a woman for 6 months for sex. Unless he is completely obsessed with her, he will not stay long term. Eventually, he will just slowly drift away to other women who are willing to make his private parts feel good.
even if she doesn't give sex, he will almost always find excuses to touch her sexually pretty early on.
this is coming from an experienced dater
That isn't true. If I like you and the chemistry is there as well as the mood, I am ready. I just take some time warming up to somebody. Not because I don't want to come off as easy, not to keep him interested. But just because I don't fall for people easily.
I think all these overly generalized statements from Redpills and feminist are just silly.. Yeah sure some women might play the 3 month rule for a guy she really wants to lock down, but there's plenty of women who just have those principles of abstinence til a certain point..
Yes and no. This guy is right in spirit just not fully in reasoning. First off your sisters on this site confirm this. So it's not even a debate.😆
But to say any one woman is this or that is folly. Yes women withhold sex. But not for any one all encompassing reason like this. And they also give it away like f***ing candy to the right guy at the right time (not necessarily a badboy).😆
So to make a blanket statement like this guys is very inaccurate. Welcome to the internet.😆
I am most certainly hope it’s not true and I don’t believe that is true, but there are some people out there that use that yes maybe that’s one of the reasons we have so many problems in relationships, men and women. Why not just be yourself and you will probably find someone more suited to you long-term. Then playing games
I remember this woman said 'when you come over don't expect us to be having sex'. I genuinely agreed and said 'yep, we don't know each-other that well and I was thinking exactly the same thing'. After I said this she seemed kind of caught off guard and said 'what makes you think you could resist me for a whole 3 days?
But in answer to the main question, a lot of women do this and guys are aware. But a woman can only withhold sex to a man that places sex on a pedestal.
@HelpfulWoman & @Nikki1989 have beaten me to it... Thank you Ladies. x
i noticed the healthier and fitter I was the less time I had to wait, I think of it as car insurance, the changes of you getting s good rate increase with a longer history of a good driving record, so the better you look the better rates of sex you'll have in general amongst the women you pick, healthy good looking fit men are rarer than you think
I think that's probably true to some extent, but that doesn't bother me at all. I just deal with whatever comes my way and I always try to do my best to please the female.
I used to run an office of a half dozen women in their 20s and 30s and I can confirm 100% that some of them did this
This is literally INSANE and manipulative behaviour. Who gives a fuck, just enjoy your time with each other rather than playing dumb mind games.
Also men who think this are fragile insecure incelsAnd thus some men are trying to get rich or turn into bad boys and then have sex with many women the same easy way. It just works.
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