Is he flirty or friendly?

[Fzrz6455]

the guy i work with flirts with me a lot, he said to me today, i thought we were a team and he also said why am i your second choice? And i told he to keep dreamin and he said i will do my best.

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He said he will keep trying

[DaveJord]

He is probably both... friendly and flirty. So, keep it friendly or reconsider the situation because the next move is yours. Just don't send mix signals or start playing hard to get because that would only make the situation worse.

What do I mean by mixed signals... well you said he is your second choice right? So, what you didn't say is that you're not interested at all... so that's a flirty response and he responded with a flirty response. So, who is just being flirty and who is just being friendly you or him or maybe both.

If you're interest, then you need to portray that and follow up on it. So how does it become a game of playing hard to get. Well, you said he was your second so keep dreaming and he said he would. So, he did express right there that he is interested... flirty yes but maybe more, right?

So, if he is your second choice, and that is true, you better figure out if your first is worth the time or effort and bump this guy up the priority list. Because if contiune to be flirty or allow him to be flirty with you it will turn into a game of playing hard to get, either by you or him or both and nobody will ever know.

If he is really not your second choice then you're playing hard to get, because you just said something to him would or could provoke more interest from him, when in reality you're really not interested... so who is sending mixed signals or playing hard to get?

I as a guy, if I was seriously interested and you told me I am your second choice in a playful flirty manor I would take that as green light to get you to take more interest in me. I mean it is all friendly, so everyone is being friendly. Until someone

[Fzrz6455]

He said thats a weird way pf asking my number as ajoke

[DaveJord]

Yup he's correct a Professional Women (PF)... work place shit is tricky for men. Because if straight up asks it could be sexusl harassment. So got flirty, bit in friendly way and hope she picks up on the vibe and confronts or asks you for your number. Becsuse most men are not going to feel threaten by a women in work place like that and even if they do they are not going to file a complaint about it to HR, or act insulted over it.

Thsts one of the side effects of feminism, he can be men any more in work place... it intimidates women or its sexest. Which is true, because it can go wrong so easy and men had the upper hand back in the day. So now to find the balance wimen have step up and play a more active role if the are interested in a man... becsuse he can't really chase after or press you in the work place.

[DaveJord]

Sorry for typos bit drunk.

[DaveJord]

Men can't just ridk asking, so have friendly and flirty and hope she pick up on it and asks him for his number. Men can't act like real men with romantic interest in the work place... it can so easily go wrong and get turned into a sexual harassment complaint.

But if women asks, 99% of men would never feel threatened or insulted and would never file a complaint. 75% of women probably won't either but that other 25% leaves a huge margin for error

[Anonymous]

Well. You said in your question he’s flirting. If you’re into him then ask him out. If you’re not then don’t.

But you also don’t want to make the mistake of thinking someone is flirting and then embarrassing yourself

[LiliTyaka]

The question would be are you flirting with him? And how are the reactions of him to that. Its a Moment which you shared with us so kinda hard to say if He is flirty or not.

[jillybeanns]

Hmmm might need more context. Doesn’t sound like flirting to me, sounds like he is very playful…. my colleagues and employees all have friendly/playful banter like that.

[Fzrz6455]

He said i made a good impression on him

[jillybeanns]

That’s a really nice thing to say. Well, if you are showing interest in return and he doesn’t do anything to move things forward or ask for your number, I wouldn’t assume he likes you romantically.

[Fzrz6455]

Yh but i have s feeling he is a playef

[jillybeanns]

Yeah it’s likely he is a player. Usually when guys are serious about a woman he likes he will let it be know (from my experience). I wouldn’t put all my eggs in one basket with this guy.

[AG900]

The most charming guys are mixing flirty and friendly vibes. It might be both. Some guys treat every female friend that way. That makes them more likeable, get closer to everyone and when someone shows interest he can decide to act on it or not

[macjets007]

Flirty. I'd never treat a colleague as a potential dating partner. It's creepy and not worth the risk. If someone comes on to me that's different, but you have to be super careful in the office.

[Fzrz6455]

He said u did made a good impression on me.

[serious]

From your info I cannot really say this was flirting or not

[JPresidente]

Yes, this is flirting and he likes you and is probably attracted to you.

[Fzrz6455]

He said that i made a good impresdion on him,

[JPresidente]

Sounds like he likes you.

[Fzrz6455]

It could be a trap

[Legion696969]

Well if you like him, it, s up to you. He sound, s very confident and obviously like, s you if he keeps flirting with you?

[Mcarlier84]

Doesn't want to lose face if you don't like him.

[User3191989]

Keep dreaming, you'll never be me

Chris Jericho

[BLP11520]

Flirty, friendly for me is just that, Being nice

[Nominal]

I would say, he's just friendly, but i can be wrong.

[holdem4884]

Probably wants anal

[bubblegunnn]

Umm i think he just being friendly tho

[Avicenna]

Flirty

[Wise4myage]

Sounds like flirting to me.

[Fzrz6455]

Does he like me

[Wise4myage]

Possibly, are you flirting back?

[Fzrz6455]

He said thats a weird way of asking mynumber

[Guardian45]

Sounds like he's wearing you down

[Fzrz6455]

Watchu mean

[Guardian45]

You're having second thoughts

[Jamie05rhs]

Sounds like he likes you.

[art84]

Friendly that's all.

[Luckycharms12]

Both friendly and flirty

[Anonymous]

He seems to have a dildo up his ass

[Anonymous]

Both

[Sarahames]

Friendly