The online dating experiment: Men out of these options which lady would you be interested in?

[Anonymous]

The nurse practicioner, single, no kids, traveler, into stocks, enjoys high class evenings, has a dog, vegan

The artist, hippie, plant mom, single, polygamous, free spirit , nudist , dancer, no kids, spiritual, dating around and has multiple options

Lawyer, samba dancer, golfer, single, no kids, hasn't met the one, prefers a man of her status or higher, volunteers, in multiple entertainment group, enjoys galas

Orthopedic surgeon, Ivy league grad, single, no kids, enjoys traveling, dog mom, prefers man of her status or higher, model, enjoys fancy evenings, attended an Ivy league, enjoys hanging out with friends and playing golf

Actress, model , comedian, dog mom, traveler, an ambivert, liberal

Registered Nurse , BSN graduate- enjoys online flirting, tennis, volunteering, single, looking for a wealthy husband

Updates

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what I'm gathering is that men are very insecure. Based on majority (not all) of these comments.

[AviatorTom]

I'm in a relationship so none of these would interest me.

Theoretically, if I were not in a relationship, it would depend what I was looking for. If I was looking to have sex, nothing more, I'd select B, the artist; free spirit, nice body.. If I was looking for a relationship, possibly leading to marriage, I would select C, the lawyer; stable and attractive, can take care of herself when needed so that I don't have to; as a career professional, I'm at least equal to her status.

Since I think this question's category is Dating, I vote for C, the lawyer. Even if things didn't work out in the long run, we would have run and interesting times together.

[SnowedIn]

I'm not looking right now and was torn between C and E, the lawyer and the actress. I chose E in this picture based solely on the woman you used in the example photos. In real life, if this were real, I'd probably go for the lawyer.

[20yearsolder]

None of the above, I want a regular girl. Doesn't mind getting their hands dirty. Likes to go out in the woods. Likes to fish. I don't really care what our occupation is, can look fantastic in a dress or a tight pair of jeans

[KrayZJ]

Unless the one who's the hippie and artist has a higher than average status and wanted a guy equivalent or higher... honestly the most optimal and flexible choice I've seen yet.

[Asker]

She is pretty known in my state. She is also a graffiti artist 🎨 and yoga teacher. Peruvian and native Spanish/English speaker

[KrayZJ]

Had me at graffiti artist ngl

[TheUniqueOne96]

The second last, I believe it's Anna Akana, some Youtuber.

None are perfect, lol, in terms of the traits, but this seems the most compatible, I guess.

[Asker]

Yes that's her lol. She's actually an actress. I seen her in let it snow and thought she was very pretty and enjoyed her character. So I started following her on instagram. Her page is great very entertaining

[Noahzaid]

All the options aren’t for me, I just want a normal traditional girl who has motivation.

All the above ☝️ aren’t traditional.

yes, I’m insecure.

what about it?

[Smoothing]

She enjoys the finer things in life but doesn't seem crazy. So in my opinion, she wins. All the rest seem delusional.

[Asker]

Who is she?

[Smoothing]

The first one. I thought my vote would have automatically shown who I chose under my comment. Sorry, my bad. The practitioner nurse. The first one would be my choice.

[ShadezMcgee]

Well, C is the only logical option in this scenario.

[Asker]

Why do you say that? Compared to the others?

[ShadezMcgee]

Because of my personal preferences and values. C is the only one that lines up closely to what I would consider in a partner. The other options include a gold digger or women that like high class fancy life which I do not desire. I want nice and simple, not rich night outs or having to make more than her to obtain a life she wants to share.

[Asker]

How is a high class evening gold digging? Where is she supposed to eat at? a hole in the wall and party in the ghetto? Absolutely not, a woman of her status should be in upscale/high class environments. And the man should have the means to provide that environment and with her status I'm sure she already in those environments

[Asker]

You chose the lawyer correct?

[Asker]

The lawyer wants someone of her status or higher

[ShadezMcgee]

You and I clearly desire different things and I gave an answer you weren't looking for and that is fine, but I will indulge you and respond here.

First, the gold digger. Option F. Wealthy husband. No thanks. If I have to make 6 figures to impress a woman, that is out of the question and not one I will give a shred of time to.

If a high class evening is something that is every now and then, that is one thing. However if she expects it every day, that is not happening either. I want to make money and use it to accomplish goals, not spoil her on a nightly basis. Hole in the wall and mom. and dad restaurants always top high class. Speaking from experience.

I don't give a fuck about her career or job
If you are basing a career as someone's value over character and values at a personal level, you have lost already. I chose lawyer since in this option her values aligned most with what I enjoy and seek. Not the career. Lawyers require school and make good money, no question, but it isn't a prestigious job. Especially when defending shitbag human beings is a part of it depending on your client representation. You have to be ruthless and cutthroat and borderline sociopath for that job.

So if you are saying that a man needs to do everything and more and she has to do nothing outside of her career and being present, that is the wrong answer.

[msc545]

Pay for your own food.

[Asker]

🤣🤣🤣

[ShadezMcgee]

Your response only confirms my belief.

[snackthatsmilesback]

Well I'm not wealthy/high status. And I'm not poly. So that... only leaves one option lol. But she seems cool.

[D-Pad_Chad]

They'll all be alone in their 30's and up. What terrible options. I'll stay single.

[Asker]

I doubt they'd care lol 😆. I don't know why men try to pull the single forever card because they don't have the means to provide for a woman. I doubt they have issues attracting men. The issue is the men don't meet their standards

[Asker]

You're 38 and single so.

[D-Pad_Chad]

I was married for 17 years and provided for both of us that entire time. She had a bad leg and couldn't work, I even paid for her leg surgery. Don't speak of what you're not familiar with.

[Anonymous]

They all kind of suck, but I would go with E and try to convert her to a homebody who's politically Independent and focused more on us than anything else.

[Makeushiver]

It would be hard to make that decision unless "all of the above" is allowed

[TroyDT2]

E is the only one who, to me, doesn't scream "Stay away!"

[Asker]

The actress?

[Asker]

What for 🤣?

[msc545]

C or D are the most educated and attractive.

[Pohjolan]

E is really the only one I might be compatible with right now.

[nolabels]

Lady B sounds great to me.

[Asker]

I already know why you chose her 🤣. The freedom?

[nolabels]

Freedom..., and her options may turn out to be options for myself as well.
The more the merrier, that sort of thing. One never knows where life will lead, does one?
✨💖👍😊👯‍♂️👯‍♀️🎈💃

[nolabels]

Regarding your update, in what manner do you feel that men are very insecure?
What evidence supports such a theory?
My curiosity has been piqued!

[Asker]

Look through the comments it's like they fear a woman who has a high status. She's labeled as gold digger if she prefers to be around people who are like her and surrounded by those who like a more upscale environment

[nolabels]

I did look through the comments prior to my last post.
I saw no indications of insecurity from men, hence my question?

You and I are apparently looking at this subject through very different lenses.

Here is the definition of gold digger:

gold dig·ger
[ɡōld ˈdiɡər]
NOUN
informal
derogatory
a person who forms a relationship with another purely to extract money from them:
"this place is packed with gold diggers"

Lady F, "looking for a wealthy husband", appears to be the only choice here that clearly fits that definition. I'm not interested in her, not just because she's a gold digger. She wouldn't be interested in me.

Ladies C and D are described as being of fairly high status themselves. The phrase, "prefers a man of her status or higher", to me, is not indicative of gold digging. Possible, but not overtly, as in the case of lady F. Again, I have no interest in either, due to reasons not related to their 'status', and they would have no interest in me.

Lady A seems to be pretty much into herself according to the description. There's nothing wrong with that. To each their own.

Lady E - Just not my type.

Lady B - In addition to being physically attractive, "The artist, hippie, plant mom, single, polygamous, free spirit, nudist, dancer, no kids, spiritual, dating around and has multiple options"' sounds pretty great to me.
To me, there's nothing there not to like.
Maybe she'd be interested in me.

KrayZJ's response to you does suggest that lady B may hold a relatively high status and may require at least the same level of status in a partner, but that stipulation is not pointed out in your description of her.
I would describe his statement as not being insecure, but a natural extension of logical, 'if this, then that', type thinking.

No, I'm not seeing insecurity here.

[nolabels]

There are many more reasons, stated in her description, to be attracted to lady B other than simply your supposition of 'freedom'.

[Asker]

C and d we're called gold diggers lol

[Anonymous]

Option A has sexy body and is dark.. so... my choice

[Havthrills]

I have only these to choose?

[Asker]

That's what the experiment says. Otherwise deleting comments that are unrelated

[Havthrills]

I voted E. The others seem to want high class, I'm not. Lol. I don't golf. I don't do fancy evenings that they are probably wanting. The hippie one sounds nice too, but not sure about the dating around.

[DavidRaul]

I would prefer C or D

[Anonymous]

None of the above.

[TopTier]

The first one

[Alex8736]

other