Do you compare every person you date to the best you ever had?

[Weapon77]

[NathanDavis]

nope... and there's no actual reason to do

even if you asked me right now, which of the (only) four girlfriends I've had before was best, I would not know what tell you because, I just don't compare them like that, there's just no line of comparison either... I met them at different times of my life so the dynamics and circumstances were all different as well

and they were all also, vastly good and great at times, not actual drama nor toxicity with any of them so... I cannot either tell you which was worst, because they were not bad partners at all... lol

they were all just great and special on their own way and their own time

[JJMcc5049]

Good answer and I would agree with that on nearly all my girlfriends there's a lot of difference between people and how they connect... But I did experience a university student who was working at a bar when I was about 26 and was in the best shape of my life and she had never been with anyone bigger than average or had a physical job so she literally couldn't get enough of me... My point is that she highlighted that later in life I meet the love of my life and I really thought that I was good looking good body and above average downstairs and able to last... But new she wasn't having a orgasim, she said she was... Fast forward 2 years and a old mate who is hung like a donkey and always had all girls throwing themselves at him and cheating or acting mental and letting him be a idiot he wasn't even funny but they all laughed! And she told me that they had hooked up before us and I just new after knowing all the stories that he had said, once a woman has had a massive dick they are wanting it! I think I had just been lucky enough to have had previous experience with women who had experience with normal guys. The biggest kick in the balls is that my girlfriend started talking to him saying that there friends and I never stopped it and the minute we broke up she slept with him again

[Weapon77]

@JJMcc5049 That's because women have this biological thing that draws them to the best sex they've had, no matter what. It's an integral part of pair bonding. It starts getting broken if thet casually sleep with too many guys. It makes it hard on them even when they actually care about the guy they are with. That explains what happened to you.

[Looksnicholas]

No but often times if I'm seeing a new woman, I'll compare their attractiveness in my mind to past women I've been attracted to, the pros, the cons, and wonder whether their features of attraction are just as appealing or less so appealing or, I don't know, it's tricky to put into words.

But sometimes any stranger can be a potential attraction for a new girlfriend, but then i think of her flaws rather her pros e. g. "oh I wouldn't think those style of shoes suit her" or "that hairstyle totally ruins the whole package" lol. Maybe I'm just shallow, 😁

[Weapon77]

Interesting. Everyone evaluates to look for a proper mate, so you don't do anything weird there. Caring about a girl's shoes seems a bit like how womrn evaluate men lmao But hey, to each their own. Personally, I never cared what a gal was wearing if she was hot haha

[Looksnicholas]

True, but with time I guess I've gotten more particular, or I think that, well, it starts out with one small difference and then before I know it, dumped or divorce for being too different. I'm a little weird like that, but often and from some experiences personally, I just try to be right than be wrong. And if something looks like something that doesn't match my tastes, then I know I should listen to my mind and my gut together next time hahaha as I do now 😜

[Looksnicholas]

Even if it starts out small, I'm like, hold on I've been down this path before, nuh uh,

[Weapon77]

Interesting. I'm basically like that, and people always tell me that's why I've been single for 7 years. How do you manage to not have trouble finding new girls who match what you're looking for?

[Looksnicholas]

Oh that's easiest part to answer: with exception of one time, supposedly told to me, no woman has ever actually given me a look or follow up or even just come out and said you wanna date. So I've just been single ever since, been on dating apps, dating websites and I'm a frequent socialiser with friends and i frequently go out in public, but nope, even if I'm alone doing my errands, no woman seems to be 'into me" so ah well, shrugs :) so I just carry on with my day, every day ^⁠_⁠^

[Looksnicholas]

And before I know it, I'm 28 and ongoing, so, no complaints from me, but it's amazing how time flies but nope, as I told an old woman once who asked me that as well, I told her two years ago the same thing: just never been lucky I guess, smiley I told her though, I wasn't down about it

[Weapon77]

Sounds like you don't like girls as much as I do 😂

[Looksnicholas]

I'm lazy 😁

[jennifer_bloom]

I do not believe any guy can be the best in all categories so it makes it possible to find happiness if one guy does not work out. Like some guys are attractive but impatient. Some guys are patient but ugly. Some guys are rich but disloyal. Some guys are loyal but dumb. Etc…

[Weapon77]

True! I just know a lot of girls who are into casual sex often talk about how their current boyfriend isn't as good as some guy they had a hookup with in high school or college, so I was curious. Must depend on the kind of girl

[Ms_Facesitter]

No I am. not going to compare. There is no point because you already ended it with the previous relationship, the Best is the one you are dating right now.

[Weapon77]

Good way to look at it!

[Avicenna]

No, I appreciate ever woman I’m interested in for her own qualities

[bamesjond0069]

Yes and no. My first real real girlfriend was hot, submissive, did anything I wanted sexually and was a virgin. I've kept those expectations on every other girl I've dated. If she can't be that for me she can't be shit for me. Idgaf. Luckily my current girlfriend is all that and more.

[Weapon77]

And how the hell did you find 1, let alone more than 1 girl like that at your age? I've never found one, not even my 1st girlfriend when I was 19, and I sure as hell haven't found any now.

[bamesjond0069]

Just go for the hottest hardest to get women you can find. Quality women care about their appearance and have high standards most men won't be able to meet.

And yeah I was 34 when I met my current girlfriend but she was 18. As above. Just because most older men can't attract young women, doesn't mean not to go for them.

[Weapon77]

I guess I can try. I figured I was setting myself up for failure since my hairline is receding.

[bamesjond0069]

Oh yeah. I got obvious but not terrible balding in the front and back. Girls don't care. It's just a shit test if they say they do. She wasn't the only youngin I got with either so she's not the rare exception or anything.

[Weapon77]

Interesting. All the girls I've talked with talk about how thick hair is their favorite thing. Guess I'll just ignore it

[bamesjond0069]

Yeah... and huge tits are my thing, but I'll still get with a C or even B cup. Soooo.

[Weapon77]

My first girlfriend had D. I definitely prefer that too, but I'm afraid that'll never happen unless she's ugly. I guess I'll just start shooting for the top and see what happens.

[bamesjond0069]

If you can't get the girls you want just get better and try again and repeat the cycle until you are good enough.

[Weapon77]

That's how I used to think. I love challenges. But then it started seeming like hair and height were holding me back. And if so, it won't matter how good I get. But if it doesn't matter that much, then I can just keep practicing

[Anonymous]

All women do. That's why guys date young women. Because with older women you're competing with every bad choice she's ever made. 🤣🤣🤣

[Weapon77]

That does seem to be true a lot. Single older women seem to be the most picky too for some reason. Maybe it's related

[Opinion Owner]

This is also why guys (guys that want relationships anyhow) deplore women with high body counts. Women take it so personal 🤣. But it's not personal. Guys know women after a certain number of partners simply cannot bond to men anymore. Again for the same reason.

[Weapon77]

There are studies showing that over 5 sexual partners reduces pairbonding by like 80% in women but basically no difference for men, which is interesting! And pair bonding just gets harder for women with even more sexual partners. Funny thing is that women could date hundreds of dudes and still easily pair bond IF AND ONLY IF they only ever had sex with like 2 guys. Nature is fascinating.

[Twalli]

Since she's still my current girlfriend, there's not a lot to compare.

[Weapon77]

Right on

[melanieeeB]

Nope, but I know if i start comparing patterns that something is wrong with this guy

[Weapon77]

I suppose that's fair, depending on your exes

[Fuentes]

Looks wise but personality and everything about them no. I need a chick badder then my last everytime

[Jdjfjcjj]

It's kind of hard not to, especially when shit starts going wrong in current relationships. I try not to though.

[FilmGuy93]

No, but I will take note of things I do and don’t like about different women. I’m not a fan of making comparisons

[exitseven]

I never even thought about doing that. When i met my wife I compared her with all the crappy relationships I had before.

[aaron210419]

No and this will severely damage your current relationship

[Weapon77]

I haven't been in on for 7 years since I can't find a girlfriend 😅 So no worries

This question was just put of curiosity because of conversation I had with friends.

[CoolCatMar1]

My boyfriend is incomparable

[Weapon77]

That's sweet! Was he a high school sweetheart or anything?

[CoolCatMar1]

Nooooo i met him at work!!! We are together 3 months i just never met anyone better than him

[Weapon77]

How nice! Hope all goes well

[dustybiker]

You can’t. It isn’t fair.

[Weapon77]

No, it isn't fair, but many people can and do 🤷‍♂️

[dustybiker]

It is natural. Self defense. We are smart enough to think around that.

[Weapon77]

What is natural? What about self defense? Smart enough to think around what?

[dustybiker]

That would require a long rambling and intelligent response such as Reddit or Quora gives. This is GaG. I keep it light. I think you are smart enough to already know what I meant.

[Weapon77]

Are you just saying that most people who do that only do it as a self defense mechanism and should be smart enough to avoid it? If so, yes, I do understand, and it makes sense. That didn't seem rambling to me, but I understand wanting brevity. If that was not what you meant, I don't quite know 😅

[rachel776]

no I don't really compare anyone

[Nikki1989]

No. I don't compare anyone.

[Joker_]

yes, those comparisons are made

[Anonymous]

That's immature.

[jamartheg]

Yes I always compare them to my uncle

[Weapon77]

You got jokes haha

[mobiusforniner]

Why is the reverse cowgirl banned in alabama? Cuz you dont tuen your back on family. sweet home alabama

[Weapon77]

That's a classic one we're hear a lot where I'm from since we like to make fun of Alabama but are also close enough to 'bama that other states make fun of us lmao

[RavVid]

pretty much.

[sheikalana]

Nope.