How often have you dated someone who was a good match with your preferences for an ideal companion?

[OlderAndWiser]

Kristen Bell is a fairly close match to the physical characteristics I would list for my "ideal" woman. However, in my entire life, I have only dated three girls who bore any resemblance at all to this ideal. I have been attracted to many other women who were not petite blondes with a cute face and smaller features. I have dated women who were in my life, who were attractive, who were kind and pleasant, and I had many satisfactory experiences with those women who weren't ideal, but they were great in their own ways.

So how often have you dated someone who actually fit the specifications for your ideal partner?

I've never dated

I've dated but never dated someone who was close to my ideal

I have only dated one or two people who were close to my ideal

I have dated several people who were close to my ideal, but less than 50% of my dating partners

I have dated many people who were close to my ideal, and it's more than 50% of my dating partners

I don't date anyone unless they are close to my ideal, so I don't date often.

I don't date anyone unless they are close to my ideal, AND I date often

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I am not asking about whether they eventually proved to be ideal companions. I'm just asking about matching your criteria for physical appearance and those superficial qualities that are immediately obvious.

[Lliam]

I had girlfriends from the time I was 16. All of them were good people, very attractive, and had the kind of figures that I prefer.

It wasn't until I was 36 that I asked a particular girl out to dinner. We got along really well. It turned out that she was 30 years old. 5'2"; gorgeous figure and lovely legs. Perfect, petite, delicate hands and feet. I don't know her measurements, but I would guess 35", 24", 34" ish. She said her bra size was 32C, but I'm sure a well fitted bra would have been more like 28F. Yep, great boobs and butt. My ideal feminine form. Flawless, pale, glabrous (almost hairless) skin. All cream with pale pinks. Her name was Petra and I used to call her Peaches. Blue eyes. Natural, bouncy blond hair, kinda like this and cut the same way, but not dyed or permed and no dark color

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On top of that, she turned out to be hypersexual and orgasmic. Her entire body was erogenous.

We wound up living together for over a year.

She has been my image of the perfect feminine ideal ever since.

[turnpost]

Your 69 and your lover looks like that? Holy sht , Respect.

[Lliam]

@turnpost. She was beautiful, but that was an example of her hair. She was 30 and I was 36-37, dude. I had girlfriends from the time I was 16. I wasn't always 69.

[turnpost]

Ohh I thought this was the actuall image of her lol. Regardless still respect.

[Anonymous]

You know it's odd.. it may just be an anomaly, but considering all my relationships, the women who were very attractive vs those with average looks tended to work out far better and were much healthier. I thought if I would be willing to settle on looks, I might get someone better in other areas more condusive to a long term successful relationship. In the end I think the only differentiator was their level of self confidence. Whether they needed constant external validation whether thought their in person interactions, or social media use.

[turnpost]

My ideal partner is in regards to the character she is like. Like most women check the bueaty standard.

So I am picky with character. Relgious but not to religous, gets my humour and mature enoigh understand certain topics. Attracted to me (Lol this is probably the biggest cutoff) curious about me.

TLDR = So ideal partner is someone who finds me ideal.

[meetkitty123]

My Ideal companion has nothing to do with looks. Clearly I must find something physically attractive about them but it boils down to personality and dependability.

Now what's my Physical type? I don't exactly have a "type". I am very flexible. I am a sucker for unique eyes or lighter eyes. I love curls. I like light hair but even that may be blonde, red, greying or white. But I have enjoyed dark hair when combined with curls or dark hair combined with a lovely complexion or light or unique eyes. Yet that's not to say I never dated anyone with brown eyes. I certainly have. I have dated people of many physical shapes fit average skinny muscular over weight or a dad bod. I've dated people of all heights but usually everyone has been taller than me because Im so short lol 😆.

I can't pin point exactly what I would consider my exact type. Not even my not my type of people is consistent... Unless we go by gender. A woman would AUTOMATICALLY be not my type.

[Anonymous]

I have only recently met someone who fit my ideal type by about 90% which is the highest I ever had. He wants me too. But we cannot be together because he is already taken. The force of the attraction is very strong and I think I fit his type just as well. We both know. But he don't want to hurt his partner. It is the most heartbreaking thing I have experienced because I am conflicted and so into him. The fact that my type could like me back like this was very eye opening and that is what hurts. I have finally met my ideal and he cannot be mine.

[OlderAndWiser]

If he is already with someone else, then he really isn't ideal, is he?

[Opinion Owner]

I am talking about him matching a lot of what I wanted in a partner. But the situation is not ideal. I certainly don't want to hurt anyone either.

[OlderAndWiser]

That is an admirable quality that we encounter too infrequently.

[aoihewgf]

so he has someone else and he doesn't want to hurt his partner
you told on yourself by saying you are conflicted which suggests you too have a partner but you do not care about hurting him. If the guy has any brains, he would see this and instantly see you as someone not to be taken serously

[OlderAndWiser]

@aoihewgf These facts do not mean that she necessarily has a partner. She may be conflicted because she a personal rule about not getting involved with someone who is already in a relationship.

Please don't call people names or make derogatory insults. That is a violation of the site's posting guidelines.

[aoihewgf]

Could be but I doubt it.

[OlderAndWiser]

@aoihewgf So you always begin by assuming the worst about people? What's the worst someone should assume about you?

[aoihewgf]

That despite being hot AF, brainiac, and successful, I see everything black and white and can come across as an AH. But I dont know if its a gift or a curse, my assumptions are right 9 times out of 10

[OlderAndWiser]

@aoihewgfhewgfihewgf Right 9 out of 10 times, as determined by you. How do others see it?

[Opinion Owner]

I am single. And yes, it is my personal rule never to involve myself with anyone taken or in any grey area. I just regret meeting a taken guy who meets my full check list and clearly is very attracted to me (which I didn't expect).

[Opinion Owner]

@aoihewgf Looks like it is that 1 time out of 10. You are wrong.

[smartman12]

Sounds like every woman I've asked out but all were taken. Seems like the only people who get to date the people they are attracted to is those born with good genes/looks :(

[Opinion Owner]

@smartman12 good point, but i think the timing has a lot to do with it. i am attractive but so is he but we did not meet earlier

[Avicenna]

I actually did have one once in my early 20s, just by chance.

[turnpost]

Same lopsided relationships are toxic by there nature.

[NathanDavis]

I never really had an ideal or such strong preference when it came to physical appearances... they were all attractive in different ways

one good thing though, they all had in common and it is definitely something I do prefer is that they were all fit and fairly active... no couch potatoes lol... which is something I'm not that much into it

[Leapfrog00]

What's so amazing is that relationships are like snowflakes. You never really love the same way twice. I've never been lucky enough to meet a nice girl who was even close to an ideal companion.

I think what it is, people want to make such a good impression, they pretend to be something they're not. I've been with so many girls that were great to get a long with at first and pretended to care about me, but once they were with me long enough o get comfortable, their true colors showed.

I've been with so many cheaters and liars, I could write a book! Makes me kind of wonder if love actually does exist. I'm not picky either. If I had a girl who just respected me and plus, if I had a girl that I could talk to about anything with, I'd be happy!

[Leapfrog00]

I'd probably be disappointed if I went for psychical appearance. She might look nice on the outside, but if her inside is ugly, I don't think it would last.

[WhiteBoyChill]

I’m genuinely confused how someone can date several people, and still recall the experiences fondly. Doesn’t the fact you didn’t end up together with those other women change the situation?

Not trying to be rude but I just never understood when people say things like “oh yeah it was so nice dating my ex”

[OlderAndWiser]

One of the signs of maturity in dating is being able to recognize that someone is not a good match, letting go without becoming angry, and then looking back and appreciating the good times that you shared.

[WhiteBoyChill]

My first relationship most likely won’t be my final one, but its nice knowing that things won’t go over badly unless you let them

[LiamJHayden]

Other than requiring she not be obese, my preferences are more along the lines of hygiene and presentation, not specific body type, or height, or eye, skin, or hair color, so I think every lady I've ever dated has been within my "ideal" as it is.

[Twalli]

I don't really know if I have overarching physical preferences like you described. I prefer small boobs and a somewhat slim body, but they're not exactly hard to find. I can find girls with radically different facial features and such equally attractive for different reasons. So I rarely date, but I wouldn't date people who aren't my preference

[StormChaser838]

To tell you the fact honestly, I am very much like a girl, every single date I ever did was decided by the other person coming on to me, so choice was not in the offing from myside.

[Anemone978]

I have dated.. but even the guy I fell deep in love with wasn't my ideal type..
I recently met a guy who is physically my ideal mate but I doubt we will ever actually hookup or anything like that.

[PinkMichae]

Every man I've dated but one I was physically, mentally, and emotionally attracted too. But they've all been different. I guess I don't have a specific preference of an ideal man. I'm very open.

[sheena30]

so you date a lot do you

[PinkMichae]

@sheena30 Well i have been in this world for 47 years. But still I would say I've dated less than 20 men in my life. Could have been more if I hadn't been with my sons dad for 15 years and now been with my husband today for 9 years. So I've been off the market for a while. I was just speaking from my experience.

Anyway I hope @turnpost is wrong about you saying that to shut shame me. But in case you were i'll add that there's nothing wrong with women having a healthy sex life. But if you have a problem with it, that's your problem, not theirs.

Disregard that last part if your question had no malicious motives.

[turnpost]

Your acting very visecerally my comment was meant to be jk. Regardless that wasn't my intention. I am sorry.

Honestly girls experience in bed should be prized more. Women can be good in bed just as men could be good in bed and be praised for it.

((This going back to the idea that women can't be good in bed there merely objects to be obtained which I think istrash.))

Humanity shouldn't be just sleeping around though, i think if your sleeping its with intention of loving such individual for the rest of your life.

But to each their own.

[PinkMichae]

@turnpost I wasn't upset with you or her. But her comment could be interpreted her meaning I'm a shut. Hard to tell in text. So in case she did mean that I decided to address it. If it's not what she meant. No harm. But in no way do you owe me an apology and don't understand your reaction. Unless your comment is meant for her. But you did tag either one of our usernames so its unclear.

Lasty if you want people to understand your jk. Then put jk. Otherwise they aren't going to know not seeing your reaction whether you're kidding or not.

[PinkMichae]

*didn't

[Massageman]

The "ideal" ones in some areas fell far short in the "being human" area.

[OlderAndWiser]

Experience is a cruel teacher!

[Kris31]

Preferences change way too much and way too often. The only thing that's somewhat stable are character traits.

[EpicSnail]

I have dated some women that were objectively attractive and great people. I've just never dated anyone I actually had feelings for.

[Paul09]

Well I haven't dated in a very, very long time, many years. Too many. I never feel like there is that perfect match for me anywhere. I'm not sure there is my type of woman in existence.

[turnpost]

Well what are you looking for? Most women are pretty hot. So its more internal or emotional? Break down the problem

[Paul09]

@turnpost Looks are subjective. But it's all about looks, personality, and values. A caring, empathetic, fun , active, love nature and everything in it. And has a vegan diet. Amongst other things that are less important. So finding that exact type, haven't meet one yet around here.

[turnpost]

The vegan diet thing is probably removong a lot of candidate but if thats your religion then stick with it I guess.

[Paul09]

@turnpost yes it has. But then again, didn't feel like I had many chances before lol. I ain't god to charisma, which I badly need. :}

[Anpu23]

Yes, I've dated a couple, didn't work out for other reasons, but yes.

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

I've dated, but never dated someone who was close to my ideal.

[Unit1]

I don't have a type.
I like what i like.
(Sremmurd Rae)

[turnpost]

Gross you like that guy. To each there own.

[Anonymous]

Very rarely. Most of the ones who I know would make a good couple don't want to talk to me. Their loss I guess

[Andres77]

The only woman that is my perfect match is already married

[Part2603]

Isn't Kristen Bell pushing forty now?

[OlderAndWiser]

No. She is 42.

[exitseven]

Maybe a couple of people. I married one of thrm.