My crush had a small accident today and she asked me to take her home, should I text to see how she's doing or wait until I see her?

[Anonymous]

We're friends, I think, and at times are flirty with each other. She mostly comes to me though lately I've been going to her to break through my vulnerability issues and we've been talking much more. She had an accident this morning and after tolerating too much pain asked me to take her home which I of course obliged. She was in tears by that point. Got her home safe, she was thankful and told her to take it easy and get very high (for the pain : ] )

I'm hesitant on texting her since she's at times ignored/forgotten to text back. Literally last weekend I sent her a photo of what I was doing over the weekend, she sent me a photo back, then I asked her a question and she never responded. The next day in person she apologized and said she sucks at texting, and yeah it's happened a few times when she just doesn't reply, and she hasn't actually started a text convo on her own in a while. In person it is mostly her coming to me so I guess she's more of a in person talker?

Anyway, should I ask her how she's doing like tonight, or when I wake up? Or better to wait until I see her tomorrow?

[Jdjfjcjj]

My response regards to you mentioning that she's been your person youve been able to be vulnerable with.

A lot of younger girls these days will say they want their man to be more emotional. However, the second men do, whether consciously or subconsciously, they'll start to lose attraction. So, i would be surprised if she felt the same.

The fact that she doesn't reply back at the either is another indication. When they are really into a guy, he's all they start to thinking about, and when it's been a while since they've last texted, she'll constantly be waiting, hoping for her phone to buzz.

[DaveJord]

I ain't reading this bullshit... you said you like her so why the fuck would you not text her?

Grow up and start acting like a man.

[Asker]

yes dad :(

[DaveJord]

Where the fuck is Waldo? Slugging around with head up his ass, or in his phone?

Life's answer will not be found in that fucking phone son, put that shit down and get the fuck put there.

[Anonymous]

If you want to text her, text her. She won’t see you any differently if u wait until tomorrow or text now.

[Asker]

I want to yeah, just don't want to seem too needy by texting her after we talked all day. I try to not seem needy in person either but she comes to me so we end up spending a lot of time together, texting though she is much more reserved

[Opinion Owner]

you’re currently friend-zoned so nothing you do will change that. you can text more or less and it is irrelevant. she knows who you are and appreciates you for it. you’re valuable to her. if her feelings ever change, you will know.

[Asker]

How will I know that? She had a breakup recently (two months) so I'm definitely hesitant about feelings and stuff, as well as for me since I had a breakup not long before she did

[Opinion Owner]

because you’re so attentive to her that I’m sure she knows you’d be down for something more, so as soon as something would change in her, she’d feel comfortable to just come out and say it to you knowing you’d most likely agree (unless you find someone else in the meantime and tell her)

[Asker]

Man that's a tough spot to be in. And I'm in it because she keeps choosing me and coming to me to talk and flirt at times. I haven't really shown her how I feel besides being there for her and being attentive as you mentioned, but she's doing it all the time, including today when she was not at her best

[Opinion Owner]

appreciate it for what it is at face value and if you do feel so inclined one day to just come out and say it, go ahead too

[Asker]

I am inclined to, but scared, of both her not being ready and just seeing me as a friend. I gotta work on that fear before anything

[Opinion Owner]

i came out to a guy friend once by text. he said “aw that’s sweet. i don’t see you that way unfortunately, but we can still be friends if you want”. felt like being hit with a shockwave.. or a Bb gun.. to my heart.. so prepare yourself to receive an answer like that worst case scenario. that way if you do it won’t hurt as much

[Asker]

By text, very ballsy! At least you did something, I'm scared to even try, or at least I think I'm scared. Maybe I'm scared of the rejection and have to prepare like you say. Not really sure, in the end I mostly just want to *know*, you know?

[Opinion Owner]

100% know. for me, it was eating me up inside so i ripped the bandaid off. at least you’re not alone—i’ll be here to help you feel better if it goes south

[Asker]

Thanks! I don't know if it'll be soon, I hope it is just want the moment to not feel forced, but I'll remember that :)

[Opinion Owner]

best of luck to you ✌️

[Opinion Owner]

thank you for MHO!

[dustybiker]

Ask. Short text won’t hurt. It’s thoughtful in this case.

[Asker]

Any suggestions on what to send her? Was thinking something simple like "hey, just checking to see if you're doing better"

[dustybiker]

Yours is good.
Maybe “Wanted to check on you. Text if you need anything.” It allows her to reply now or a bit later. Less expectant.

[Asker]

I like that, yeah. With how she forgets/ignores texts it might be better. Just want her to know I care, I guess

[dustybiker]

Less is more sometimes. Good luck. Hope she’s okay.

[Asker]

I ended up not texting her but we talked a lot today in person, made sure she was doing better, she was for the most part. Kinda wanna text her over the weekend to see if she's doing better, especially if I begin to miss her, which I think I already am

[dustybiker]

Adorable. Thanks for the update. I hope things work out with her for you.

[Asker]

Thanks! I hope so too! I gotta do something to make it happen though and that's the real hard part for me..

[dustybiker]

Keep in mind. Less is more attractive. Lure don’t request.

[Asker]

Lure, I'll work on that. She keeps coming to me and having fun with me so I guess that's a good start on luring

[dustybiker]

Sounds like it.

[Fireguy17]

call and ask her.
Then you can also ask is there anything that I can do for you, do you need anything, can I pick up something for you to eat?
Talking to people seems to be a lost art.
It is so effective, way better and so much less impersonal than a text.
You can say more in a 5 min phone call that texting to someone all day long.
So just call her and be a friend.

[XXblack88]

Go ahead and text her. If she doesn't answer then fine.

[Asker]

Yeah I'm sure it's fine she'll just say sorry tomorrow and tell me then how she's doing, as has happened before. Just don't wanna seem too needy u know?

[XXblack88]

That doesn't seemed needy. That just sounds like you care

[Asker]

Ok cool, last thing I wanna do is push her away. I'm already doing that enough by not being more vulnerable with her. At least today I was able to show her I care, she said I could leave (she was being stubborn about finishing what she had to do) and I told her I'm only concerned about her injury right now

[Anonymous]

Yes of course text her, but don't take 2 long paragraphs to do it.

[Asker]

Haha sure thing! I didn't text her last night nor this morning but we talked a lot in person, as usual she kept coming to me for the most part. I'm just still unsure about what she wants, but I do want to text her over the weekend to see how her injury is progressing, especially if I miss her, which I think I already do. What do you think?

[Sparkie460]

Go ahead and text her. Let her know you care and your thinking about her

[Asker]

No expectations right? I often think too much about the fact the last message sent was by me but it's what I want to convey that matters no?

[Sparkie460]

How long ago did you message her?

[Asker]

Last time I texted her was last weekend so 11 days ago or so. She apologized in person (she didn't have to) the next day and answered what I asked about her photo

[Sparkie460]

Go ahead and text her. Just ask her how she's feeling

[Asker]

I ended up not texting her but we talked a lot today about what happened and other shit. Might text her over the weekend to see how she's doing if I begin to miss her again, what do you think?

[Sparkie460]

You should have told her you'll text her over the weekend when you talked to her today. If she doesn't text or call you first, go ahead

[Asker]

Ah, great..

I'm really bad at thinking in the moment. Didn't even tell her again to let me know if she needed anything. I'm too entranced by her eyes I think, or maybe I'm just dumb. I doubt she will contact me first, she's only done it 2 or 3 times since we began to get closer and didn't seem very talkative, unlike in person when at times I want to tell her to shut up (I wouldn't) and is always starting our interactions

[RavVid]

Of course you should show concern and hopefully you feel concern. It's not a game.

[KrakenAttackin]

Bruh, you are her orbiting Beta. If she was at all into you she would be with you. Don't worry about her, she took a vicadin and Chad is already balls deep.

[Asker]

Good lord you're 43 and believe in beta alpha crap. Anyway thanks for your answer

[Anonymous]

Text her! "I hope you are feeling better. Good Night." You are overthinking. Text her!

[Asker]

Oh I always am overthinking. Working on that. I ended up not texting her but we talked a lot today and she seemed better for the most part. Want to text her over the weekend to see how she's doing, especially if I begin missing her which I think I already am. What do you think?

[In_Trance]

what kind of accident?

[Asker]

Car accident, hurt her neck and back. She seemed better today but with a lot of meds, and still in pain to walk a bit but toughening it up. I ended up not texting but we did talk a lot. I'm thinking maybe asking her over the weekend how she's doing. What do you think?

[In_Trance]

Seems like a bullshit story to me

[Asker]

Why? I mean I can see in how much pain she was. She was in tears at one point. Why do you think she would she make it up?

[In_Trance]

She can't even be bothered to text you? Come on...

[Asker]

Oh ok, but I haven't texted her yet. I don't see why she'd text me while dealing with her injury, unless she needed some assistance or wanted to say thanks or something. Now not texting back last weekend that's another thing, which she apologized for even when she didn't have to