Is it normal for dating to drain you? Is the only option hopelessness?

[Anonymous]

You meet someone. Things are going well, you get your hopes up then they disappoint you. After this happens a few times, You’re not even sad anymore, just drained.

[lightbulb27]

it can be if you are coming from the wrong viewpoint. It is tiring looking for something and never getting it. It is much easier to have most of what you want and just need that little more.

if you see a dark cloud hoving over yourself, then time to work on yourself and learn, because that is what you control. Personally, I found most of the problems I had in life... were my own, out of my own mind. Very little of what goes wrong is someone elses fault.

no... failure is a communicator that change is required.

[Man-O-Metal]

It's only draining if you let it get to you. I know I know. Unsuccessful relationships suck. But the quicker you get over them and realize that experience was a stepping stone and not another nail in your coffin, the sooner you thicken your skin and refrain from letting that run you down.

[coachTanthony]

It can be draining however I tell all my clients to live a 80/20 lifestyle. 80% on making money, passion purpose in life and 20% on dating, friends etc. This way 80% of your energy is focused on passion not other humans.

[Jacobbbb]

Totally normal bro don't worry. After a while you have the "it is what it is, what happens happens" mindset and life feels a lot better. Learning from experience can hurt, but it helps you develop as a person