Is it normal to be burned out from dating?

[Anonymous]

Ok so first I must lead with I’m on the autism spectrum so everything thing I feel emotionally is heightened I’m also 31. I recently came out of a completely failed relationship and I feel emotionally drained I also don’t feel that I can place myself in a relationship again because people on the spectrum don’t usually take chances like that again. It was supposed to work and now that it hasn’t I don’t know but I don’t have a desire to date even when I see attractive women it’s like that emotion in me is dead now.

[jennifer_bloom]

My first rejection by somebody I loved hurt like a punch in the face but the second hurt like a light bruise and the third hurt like a heavy stair climb that exhausted my feet. As you get more experience with women, the pain experience becomes weaker and easier to manage. You might have a higher starting threshold but your thresholds will normalize as you explore your relationships with women in the dating world and become adapted to coping with it.

[2rushbiOV3]

You’re mostly likely grieving your prior relationship and that feeling of being drained is a normal human emotion that needs adequate time to heal. The worst thing you can do right now is jump right back into dating that is a mistake way too many people make & the relationship fails. You will be doomed from the start and never have the chance to build a solid foundation with the next person because you’ll always know that in the beginning, they were a replacement and someone used to keep ourselves from having to deal with something we didn’t want to feel; ourselves. You’ll be ok; time takes time my friend.

[Unit1]

I feel the same but only with online dating. Imagine giving 1000 likes and getting 1-2 matches. Feels demotivating and like a dating burn out.

Better luck in reality or in platforms with real active users, not dead profiles.

[WonderBell99]

Online dating is trash, in my opinion. Maybe try asking out girls IRL?

[Unit1]

@WonderBell99 For sure. That's the only way it seems these days. The other services are basically a rip off.

[2rushbiOV3]

If an app requires you to pay upfront to read messages or limits your ability to read them then stay away. Also, if you are getting inundated with likes & messages prior to even posting a pic call bs because that’s what it is. My favorite method of detecting bots has always been to respond to a message in a manner that has absolutely nothing to do with the question or statement you’ve received; shit can be hilarious! Lastly, if they ask where you are from lie every single time and watch in amazement how no matter where you lie about being from, it’ll always be exactly where they’re from as well. Also, if you do feel they might be legit ask an area from within your city that only someone from your city would know. I’m from Virginia Beach but if I say “The Northend” or “Pungo” only those truly from here will know what I’m talking about & not reply with “huh?”

[provokeesmokee]

You don't have to date. If you don't want to, you don't need to. You don't owe a relationship to anyone.

That said, it's okay to need time before you date again. I attach hard and fast, when I fall in love, and it takes me a while to be open to dating again.

It's okay to take your time. It's also ok to not date.

Listen to your heart, be true to yourself. That's all you owe yourself. That's the only expectation that really matters.

[sheikalana]

You will feel that way for some time. It takes time to recover from a break and yes some relationships can absolutely drain you. I'd say do not focus on dating right now do other things give some time to yourself. You'll be alright.

[Meropatrick]

Anything can burn u out. U clearly invested a lot in this relationship. Money, time, emotions, effort, hope. U need time out to heal and live for yourself go for a trip or travel or start Some Hobby

[Jazzy54]

How you feel is understandable. I’m sorry your relationship didn’t work out. Take a break and, when you’re ready, get back out there. 😊

[Nikki1989]

No, you can't burn out from anything that is fun. It is how you deal with the highs and lows that counts.

[Paul09]

Well dating is stressful for men. We need to do everything , very annoying after years and years. I just have up on it.

[Anonymous]

I feel like that’s a pretty common feeling after breaking off a relationship. Give yourself some time. Focus on yourself and your well-being.

[serious_miss419]

People are trying too hard and unwilling to settle.

[Anonymous]

I can relate. I feel closed off about dating too. Can u message me? I need someone to talk to. And I think you'll understand.

[Anonymous]

Yeah sometimes it happens, just always keep your hopes high

[TheNurse]

Perfectly normal. Dating is difficult

[ProbablyClueless]

Sounds pretty normal, yeah.

[CallmeTheKnight]

Yes if you have a habit of making bad choices

[Christoff92]

Don't take it personal that's human nature 😊

[justabuddy]

I am pretty much at that point myself.

[Anonymous]

Message me bro. I understand.

[EaterPeter]

Oh yeah