Do you feel dating is becoming more and more meaningless?

[Xiurr]

Yes I do

No I don’t

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As I date more and more girls I just find myself getting bored and hoping for something special round the corner

[Finchie40]

I am starting to feel like relationships are becoming more meaningless , because people have become more selfish and don’t truly know how to value each other and trust each other anymore these days , Trust is barely even a thing anymore , I laugh when I see a young couple keep GPS tabs on each other , like WTF is that? Now you track each other constantly ? It’s mainly because people have a hard time being honest with each other and sadly have a lot more insecurities with each other. I grew up before social media was even really a thing and my relationships with girls’ back in the day would actually last a long time because we trusted each other and valued each other , we weren’t bombarded by the opposite sex trying to get a turn with us, when you met someone you cherished that person more instead of picking options. Oh wait this one is better , options have become more accessible to us which is insane. Most relationships these days are lucky if it makes it past 6 months. So these days I prefer FWB’s with a girl with some strings attached , meaning we only have sex with each together but open to date other people if we choose to , instead of lying about it and breaking each others’ hearts , we promise each other we won’t have sex with anyone else but if we do? We end the benefits part and just remain friends. It seems to be working better because of how people are with casual sex these days , the purpose of it is to give her and I time to really get to know each other before making the big commitment to each other.

[Maybe_Maybe_not]

Since my 30's, it's more and more meaningful, and surprising. And puzzling, as well as interesting :)

[Avicenna]

Sometimes it’s great, sometimes it isn’t

[Anonymous]

Yes Women don’t care they think the grass is always greener on the other side so they’re always exploring their opportunities. What’s the best bet for them to get that cash flow flowing in a potential partner

[jahaims]

Relationships in general are. People are too emotionally unwell to function

[Anonymous]

For what reason are you dating?

[Xiurr]

To get married and have a family

[Opinion Owner]

Maybe you're approaching it wrong. Its just an assumption tho but hear me out.

I noticed some people are chasing the butterflies or the spark when going dating or finding their person. I think thats a wrong approach, its much more important to feel comfortable and enjoy the presence of the person. Feelings will come over time, I think some rush it to much when dating and need to take more time with one person before going to the next.

I have been in 2 relationships so far, one went for 8 years and the second going on for 1+ year atm. I was not viewing those both girls as romantic interest at start just kinda were interested in them as person/beeing friends. It just started seeing each other more bec we enjoyed each others company and I felt accepted for who I am and at ease. We started to see each other more often and so on.

In short: If you seek something serious, focus more on one girl even if you dont feel the spark but interests allign and you feel comfortable around her.

[Xiurr]

I feel I’m just chasing perfection and can’t settle for less otherwise I don’t feel any interest

[Opinion Owner]

Ye obviously you gotta have some sort of attraction but this fairy tale were you are soulmates AND she's smoking hot is just unrealistic.

My gfs all have little flaws in looks and personality but those were not a dealbreaker for me, you even kinda start to like those as it makes her a person.

Just try it with the next one you find at least attractive and are comfortable with and try to get to know her better and spend time toghether even if you dont feel a spark

[Xiurr]

But it’s just I feel maybe round the corner there’s someone I really want. Like my dating options seem promising you know. Patience is a virtue but then I have doubts

[Xiurr]

I’ll try it the next time

[Opinion Owner]

You have the issue I usually only see with successfull guys on dating apps. They kinda start to adopt this "the grass is greener on the otherside" and will move on to the next girl at the slightest inconvience bec its that easy. My best friend is like this, despite going on around 5-6 dates a month it took him 1,5 years to find a girlfriend while it took me and others less tho ofc its not always the case but still a pattern thats noticeable.

[Opinion Owner]

And its not like I settled for less, I find my girlfriend very attractive and know how it feels to have a spark with someone but in my experience that only leads to a hookup and then fizzles out like a spark is actually a warning if you seek a serious rl.

[LiamJHayden]

Not for me.

[In_Trance]

No I don't