Is a mother the only person who can give you unconditional love in life?

[shaysh87]

If unconditional love existed in marriage, then there wouldn't be such thing as "divorce" right?

[NewYorkCity]

To answer your question, first I have to provide you with a context. Word marriage in 2022 means absolutely nothing. In fact, in 2022 word marriage became strongly associated as an extremely dangerous entrapment practice, that most men are trying to avoid as if it is a deadly plague. These days, getting married is like getting a temporary tattoo, it became a facade. For most men and women getting married 70+ years ago meant something more than wasting $100K on a wedding party and changing your Facebook status from single to married for thousands of followers to see. Back than, It really meant a both physical and spiritual commitment for LIFE. Back than you couldn't just marry a person after the first date, you had to go through a serious and long family screening time period. Now days you can marry and divorce in the same week, literally. There was a time probably until the late 1800's where marriage for most meant having an unconditional love for each other, same love as you would have for your kids, but no more. Humanity has signed a contract with the Devil. We traded up true love in relationship and long life commitment for a cheap and abundant amount of sex.

[PainusNdeeAnus]

Yes

Everything your mother does for you is for your survival

Everything your woman does for you is for her own survival

No woman will ever love you like your mother

-Mike Tyson

[LazerBean]

By that logic, then if unconditional love existed for mothers then there would be no unloving mothers. But we know that unloving mothers do exist, even though unconditionally loving mother's also exist. The same goes for spouses.

[shaysh87]

just because there are mothers who don't love their children, it doesn't mean there are no mothers who love their children unconditionally. In fact, vast majority of moms love their children unconditionally.

[LazerBean]

That's what I said. Now apply that logic to spouses. Like I also said.

[shaysh87]

Vast majority of spouses do not love each other unconditionally

[LazerBean]

Again, using the same logic as mothers, does that mean zero who have conditional love exist?

[shaysh87]

vast majority of marriages are not unconditional.
vast majority of parent child relationships have unconditional love.

this is the point i am trying to make.

[shaysh87]

why do you think parents love their kids unconditionally while spouses do not?

[LazerBean]

You should probably make a new post then, because that is a completely different question.

Parents love unconditionally because they see themselves in their children and also know it is socially unacceptable to not love their child. Thus it adds to the illusion that most parents are unconditionally loving. That is not the case with spouses.

[shaysh87]

[Thus it adds to the illusion that most parents are unconditionally loving. ]

Just because you personally don't believe parents can be unconditionally loving, it doesn't mean its false. Parents are unconditionally loving due to an evolutionary reason. If parents didn't love and sacrifice for their children unconditionally, then the human population will cease to exist.

It takes a lot of hard work and frustration to raise a child. If you are going to disown your child or look for every reason to not love your child, the human population will cease to exist. This is why most parents love their children unconditionally regardless of how stupid they are, even if they burn down their house, even if they robbed a bank , broke mom's 5-million-dollar jewelry, or often times even if their child murdered someone - their parents will still always secretly love them.

Osama bin laden's mother still loves her terrorist dead killer son very much and speaks of him fondly while all his siblings has turned against him for his evil actions.

[shaysh87]

if you ever get sued, your husband may want to divorce you just so he can protect his assets.
if you hit your spouse, your spouse may think about ending the marriage because she is being mistreated.
if you hit your parents, your parents will likely forgive you.
if you burn down your husband's house, your husband may get angry and never talk to you again.
If you burned down your parent's house, your parents will likely forgive you.

Your parents sacrifice for you because they want their best for you.
Your spouse sacrifices for you because they want to be with you forever.

spouse love you so they can better themselves. A parent loves their child so they can better their child.

do you finally understand what I mean?

[LazerBean]

"Just because you personally don't believe parents can be unconditionally loving, it doesn't mean its false."

I'm not even going to read the rest of your post, since it's irrelevant and motivated by assumption. Did I say that I don't believe parent can be unconditionally loving? That's a yes or no question.

[LazerBean]

I'll answer your second reply only if you give a reasonable and logical answer. I'm not interested in discussing with someone who isn't interested in using reason and logic.

[shaysh87]

A logical reasonable answer was given. You're just offended which is why you didn't care to read it.

[shaysh87]

[Thus it adds to the illusion that most parents are unconditionally loving. ]

There is no "illusion" that most parents unconditionally love their children.

you mentioned that most parents loving their child was just an "illusion"

there is no illusion to any of this. Illusion means you don't agree that most parents love their unconditionally.

[LazerBean]

I'll give you one more chance to stop thinking with your emotions. Reread the statement, and remember that every word is important. Did I say that I don't believe parents can be unconditionally loving? Yes or no.

[shaysh87]

[Did I say that I don't believe parents can be unconditionally loving? Yes or no.]

You said parents loving their children unconditionally was just a mere "illusion"

I'm gonna tell you there's nothing about it that is an illusion.

calling it an illusion means you don't think its true.

why don't you stop thinking with your emotions? clearly you're offended

[LazerBean]

Since you failed to read the sentence in it's entirety, I will break it down for you

"Thus it adds to the illusion that *most* parents are unconditionally loving"

Does most mean all? The answer is no. In fact, in my very FIRST reply I stated "but we know that I'm loving mothers exist, *even though unconditionally loving mothers also exist*."

Thus, using basic compression skills and knowing that 1=1, we can know that no, I did not in any way insinuate that unloving mothers exist.

Just because you are a failure when it comes to relationships doesn't excuse your willful ignorance and give you a right to make idiotic claims and twist words. Of course you're always going to be a failure when you make stupid bullshit up and start fight over problems you fabricate. But I'm going to be true to my word and no longer regard you, since you refused to use your brain when replying. I hope one day you will outgrow your bitterness, but until then I hope you continue to repel men so that you don't have a chance to reproduce more bitter failures.

[shaysh87]

you sound soooo offended right now. you're just throwing a tantrum cuz you lost the argument. where is your ability to reason logically?

[CateM]

You forgot to mention the father, who is just as capable of giving unconditional love as the mother

[Guy13]

Your Creator, God is the only one who can provide you unconditional love in your life.

[inhua]

you can thank the political left and especially feminism for destroying the concept of marriage and by extension the nuclear family unit.

marriage at least gave young boys a good reason to become good men but when some wives are posting half-naked or naked selfies of themselves online, then what incentive is there to become a good man when you can get shit for free as a bad boy. then girls be following in those feminist footsteps and ruining themselves in the process.

[Rockstarrrrr]

Yeah the only person who loves you , sometimes even more than themselves is your parents... But, it definitely can happen with " strangers "... I've heard about it, I've seen it... The funny thing is that the most " loving " and established couples I've met low key treat each other like the other one is their kid lol.. They have a nurturing vibe to them...

[Anonymous]

I'm a father and I love my son very much.

My mother on the other hand has been trying to hurt me from before I was even born by drinking and smoking while pregnant. My whole life she'd been doing little things to hurt me.

[shaysh87]

my mother was the same way.

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

Nope, I believe couples can give each other Unconditional Love.

[USLegionary]

A dog too