How to get a single guy 30 - 40 years old?

[Anonymous]

[NewYorkCity]

That is not what you truly asking here. What you Really asking, is how can you find an attractive, financially stable and loyal type of guy. To answer this question, you should ask yourself a following question, what are You brining to the table? (besides sex). Why such a guy who has everything (looks, stability and the trait of loyalty) be with you, instead of with other women? Such men, just like very beautiful women, are following basic supply and demand formula. These type of men are rare, picky and rightfully so, because they know Exactly what they are and what they have to offer.

[DarkWinterNights]

As a single guy in his 30’s I haven’t been to parties, clubs, bars or dating apps since my mid-20’s. I’m happy with my friend groups and hobbies, which aren’t exactly heavily social. And I keep my work life separate. I’m not entirely sure where I would suggest, but from what I can tell, my situation is not unique.


Maybe try meeting guys through your girl friends and/or groups?

[Asker]

I want guys like you. but I don't have friends even groups

[DarkWinterNights]

Hmm, well that would be a good first step. Having good healthy friendships are arguably more important than a partner. Met my best friend at my first job out of highschool, shared an apartment with him and his brother a couple years later, made friends with the guy next door and it kind-of expanded from there. Now we have multiple groups that get whole families together for things like camping and holidays.

I don’t know if there is an exact science to it, you just have to put yourself out there. At least it’s a lot harder to be rejected for friends. You could try meetup groups online or maybe Church? Try to surround yourself with positive, happy people.

[Asker]

unfortunately I live with family , I'm not a church girl, so i don't go there, I afraid to try group online. anyway I have several positive online friends...

[SpringValley]

If you live in America, and are in a fairly large city, then join meetup. com.

If you hurry, you might be able to sign up for a Christmas party.

[God_of_Thunder]

Well, I just happen to be one, but I honestly don't know where we hang out, or how to meet others like me. 🤷‍♂️

Sorry 😞

[Asker]

😣🙁🙁

[JamesDiaz11]

Go to sports clubs where they play racket ball with their other professional friends.

[Asker]

it's weird... to go there alone...

[JamesDiaz11]

Not really, go exercise and don't wear headphones, and these guys will approach you.

[Asker]

guys here doesn't approach, they just keep jogging lmao. , and I never wear headphone. also many 50 years old guys at park.

[greycadillacs]

When you see a guy buying frozen meals for one at the grocery store, compliment his choices. He'll ask for your number in no time.

[Asker]

how to compliment the guy?

[greycadillacs]

Pick something out about him that you like. Something like “hi just wanted to say, I really like your hair” or what he’s wearing, if it’s something nice

[Asker]

that makes me sounds like a creep

[greycadillacs]

Okay then just ask how his day is going

[Asker]

what if he has a girlfriend?

[greycadillacs]

That’s a possibility. But what would you rather live with, regret of never asking, or the possibility of finding a guy?

[Asker]

you're right.. better finding a guy

[greycadillacs]

But to answer your question, when girls have asked me if I’m single in public when I have a girlfriend, I just say “oh I’m so sorry, I have a girlfriend now, but thank you!” And the rest of the day I feel very flattered and tell my friends that someone hit on me out and about. It’s a very nice feeling even if it doesn’t work out

[Asker]

nice feeling for you but not for the girl

[TheSpaceGnome]

You find one you like and ask them out. Where you find them depends on your hobbies.

[RavVid]

Maybe a T shirt printed with "Wanted 1982 - 1992 guy"? :)

It's a good question as to where to meet someone if you don't like Tinder etc.

[OddBeMe]

Well be 18.
Like anal and bj’s.


Lol, I imagine it’s the same as any other age. Just probably more interested in substance.

[Truthatanycost]

If he's single at that age... he probably wants to remain that way.

[zagor]

Not hardly. I know many people who didn't get married for the first time until after 30. If you're in a professional career you may not even finish schooling until 27 or later.

[FilmGuy93]

Just gotta start talking with men. Although I want to give you a heads up; a ton of single guys that age are single by choice

[WildCard42]

I'm even better, I'm 42.

[Asker]

😆 lol

[ProVox]

DM'ing me is a good start 😆

[Berethor]

Stop being anonymous. :)

[Summeroflove]

Ask one out

[shortster]

Asking out is the easiest way to get my attention.

[nawtee_me]

I can lie about my age if you like?

[YourFavoriteFriend]

Ask out everyone you like.

[BarryLiverstone]

Alcoholics Anonymous?

[Asker]

nope

[BarryLiverstone]

Why not

[Asker]

I'm not alcoholic

[BarryLiverstone]

That’s not the point. You asked where can you get a guy… some single men would be at those meetings

[Asker]

well I don't want guys who drink a lot

[BarryLiverstone]

See then you gotta include that in your list of requirements. How about smokers or pot smokers?

[Asker]

he should less smoke

[BarryLiverstone]

So put together your list and then ask friends if they know of a guy.

[BJP21]

Dm me

[Anonymous]

Effort.

[Asker]

how?

[Opinion Owner]

Well if you don't know how to put in effort with another person it's probably best you remain single. Caring for another person and willing to show it isn't a difficult concept.