Have I lost her? What should I do?

[Jimrat86]

Had a video chat and phone call with a girl I met on a dating app. She initially agreed to meet up, but then said she forgot she made plans with a friend. Fine. She did suggest we still meet up for drinks, but no plans yet but she said she would let me know.

Now she is being distant. I'm guessing the reason girls KEEP ghosting me is that I ask them out too soon?

[DoctorSex]

No that's not why they ghost.
They ghost because... Dating online is weird. The likelihood of you running into weirdos and people who have just broken up and looking for a rebound to boost their self esteem is ridiculously high.

Meeting people in person is so much better for obvious reasons, especially because the mechanics of female attraction operates primarily during physical interaction.

She probably also went through the mental process that of wondering whether you were a serial killer. There's so much that can go wrong when online dating and you hardly ever meet the real person online.

Kind regards,
DoctorSex

[Jimrat86]

Meeting people in person isn't an option for me. Peehaps gag needs an online dating category. I don't disagree with your poihts, but I get far too many matches per week with 0 dates to not conclude that I am doing something wrong.

[Jimrat86]

Sorry, typos were bad

[DoctorSex]

Meeting in person is not an option for you? Do you live in a warzone?

If you're getting matches then it's because some women find you attractive, but that's very different from her wanting to pursuit you. 2 completely different mental processes for the majority of women.

[Jimrat86]

I don't have any social circles or networking and I have exhausted all my options locally.

[DoctorSex]

Yeah, well that's the problem. You are essentially a scary person in the eyes of most women.
A man with no network or social circles is a man who could kill you and no one would know or ask, "where's Janice"

I suggest that you move area, join a gym (as it's the easiest way to make friends in your local area) and start there before moving onto finding a woman. You're rushing the steps and that's why you suffer.

Kind regards,
DoctorSex

[Kevinb18222]

Yeah sadly she probably found someone else the thought was probably more attractive in her opinion. I have never had luck on dating sites. It takes time but All my serious relationships started by chance meet. The latest one I met while I waiting to start work and she came into my office looking for something. Had no idea that would be the day I’d meet someone I’d care about

[Jimrat86]

Good for you. All the best.
I wish I could be so lucky.

[Anonymous]

Forget about her. You are bound to fail 99% of the time using a dating app.

[Jimrat86]

I fail 100% of the time in person too...