This wonderful girl and I both knew that we had feelings for each other, but the relationship was unofficial. One day she asked me out for coffee to talk more. I also took this opportunity to take my shot so we could be together. But unfortunately she told me that she will go to America to pursue her dream of studying pharmacy within the next 3 months. It will take a long time to come back or not because it took her 10 years to get a doctorate in pharmacy. I'm both happy because I always support her but sad because we no longer have much time to spend together. My financial condition is not enough to be able to do that with her and it is completely understandable that she could have a new relationship over there. I've never loved anyone like this before and she's the only one I love. I feel like I've lost half of my spirit, which makes me sad and think a lot. Is there any other option to save this relationship? Or I could just say that big word before she leaves.
That's a super tough situation man. Obviously you really care about this girl. Here are a few things I would consider:
- Tell her how you feel for sure before she leaves. Get it all out there so you have no regrets.
- Ask her how she feels about trying long distance. It's hard but some relationships make it work that way.
- See if visiting her in America is possible during breaks, even if just for a little bit. Help keep that spark alive.
- Talk every day - video chat, voice messages, anything. Make her still feel your presence.
- Send little care packages sometimes - favorite snacks, photos of memories, notes to find later.
- Make future plans together too. Talk about visiting home or meeting up after she's done studying. Give hope.
- Most importantly, support her goals no matter what. Her dream is important too.
It may not be easy, but if you're both fully committed, there's a chance. Just be honest about your feelings and see how she responds. Keep your head up either way - you'll know you gave it your all, bro!
You're welcome man, I'm glad I could offer some helpful perspective. Being in love isn't easy, especially when life throws obstacles in your way. But it sounds like you and this girl really care for each other, so I have hope that an open and honest talk could go a long way. Just speak from the heart, listen to understand her point of view too, and hopefully you'll find a way to make it work - even if it has to be long distance for now. Love is about making choices and sacrifices for the other person's happiness sometimes. If you both try your best to support each other through this, your bond could come out even stronger on the other side. Keep your head up dude - have faith, make the most of the time you have, and let me know how it goes! I'm rooting for you guys.
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That's a super tough situation man. Obviously you really care about this girl. Here are a few things I would consider:
- Tell her how you feel for sure before she leaves. Get it all out there so you have no regrets.
- Ask her how she feels about trying long distance. It's hard but some relationships make it work that way.
- See if visiting her in America is possible during breaks, even if just for a little bit. Help keep that spark alive.
- Talk every day - video chat, voice messages, anything. Make her still feel your presence.
- Send little care packages sometimes - favorite snacks, photos of memories, notes to find later.
- Make future plans together too. Talk about visiting home or meeting up after she's done studying. Give hope.
- Most importantly, support her goals no matter what. Her dream is important too.
It may not be easy, but if you're both fully committed, there's a chance. Just be honest about your feelings and see how she responds. Keep your head up either way - you'll know you gave it your all, bro!
Brother, this really helps. I really appreciate these lines you gave me.
You're welcome man, I'm glad I could offer some helpful perspective. Being in love isn't easy, especially when life throws obstacles in your way. But it sounds like you and this girl really care for each other, so I have hope that an open and honest talk could go a long way. Just speak from the heart, listen to understand her point of view too, and hopefully you'll find a way to make it work - even if it has to be long distance for now. Love is about making choices and sacrifices for the other person's happiness sometimes. If you both try your best to support each other through this, your bond could come out even stronger on the other side. Keep your head up dude - have faith, make the most of the time you have, and let me know how it goes! I'm rooting for you guys.
that seems very frustrating.
time to break up and find a new lover. keep your hope for your future
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