Should I contact him- so lost and anxiety ridden?

[Stinemart22]

So my ex boyfriend was supposed to go to Boston this past Friday for business. He invited me up but I wanted reassurance that he wanted me there because it was a few days earlier. Long story short I end up buying plane tickets I was still annoyed because I wanted reassurance but he was annoyed because I wanted reassurance. He never gave me details at the hotel or where to go and my flight was at 7 AM. He went out to a Red Sox game by himself, got so drunk that he could not find his hotel, called his parents lost , then we couldn’t get ahold of him. I had Boston pd on phone bc his phone was showing weird location at 3am. I never got on my flight bc of everything that happened. He blew up my phone the next day. I didn’t answer till the following day. He was shocked I didn’t come. Then I wanted him to reimburse me. We went back and forth and he said he felt when he gave me money, I would break up with him. Then next day flight got delayed 4 one day and he asked me a favor to get him hotel discount. I got it for him even though he hadn’t reimbirsed me. Then he sent me a pic of him and his pretty customer that I didn’t even know was a woman, drinking at bar, said “wish u were here”. I got jealous, sent text of me and guy out saying he was trying to sell me house. He was drunk and so mad and said “buy it cunt, act like a bitch get treated like one” so not his character to say. The next morning instead of apology he said “what’s your deal, we can break up bc seems like u hav jealousy issue. I ended up saying we can break up bc if his disrespect and that he can treat someone else like a doormat. He said “I didn’t mean those things I said, I was drinking , but ok” I never answered, 3 days has passed, he’s back home. No contact, no sorry. No nothing. We’ve spent almost every day together for past 8 months. Trips, yachts w his customers, time with family, hobbies together, practically living together. And it feels like a lie bc he was so fine with breaking up. No nothing.

[btbc92]

Rule #1: You don't SPEAK with an ex. You do not CONTACT an ex, you do not get INVOLVED with an ex, and you do not ENGAGE, ENTERTAIN or DESIRE BACK an EX. This is flat-out common sense. And by now you definitely should know better not to contact them.

Rule #2: He has a serious problem. There is a REASON why you two broke up. Look at his behavior and his lack of accountability. He needs to STOP blaming the alcohol and take RESPONSIBILITY for his actions. Because the drunkenness revealed what is in him and he needs to change and get help. She is calling you names and blurting out profanities? That is not a man who loves. Not even a woman. Unless somebody has done something that is uncalled for, you learn to have self control and not have such profanities out the mouth.

So no. That is part of his character, all the drinking di was revealed what was there, and he needs to fix it. This guy needs serious help and it is not somebody you need involved in your life. That man is too much of a child and you need to be healed and not involved with that. Whatever his issues are, are his issues. Not your issues. A person who cares and loves you will not respond like that. Anxiety is not a good thing. And I realized that when people give you anxiety, those are the wrong kind of people if they do not ease it and give you peace.

[KrakenAttackin]

He was your Ex-Chad-Thundercock, what did you expect? You were just a fly-in bootie call.

[Avicenna]

I’d move on and avoid contacting him

[Iron_Man]

Sure you can contact him and see what’s up

[In_Trance]

Nope