Should I pay on the first date?

[Anonymous]

hello, I (17f) am planning to hang out with a guy soon and I’m really looking forward to getting to know him better. We are going to go to the theaters and dinner after. I’m debating on if I should pay? I want to pay. Do you think in your opinion, should I pay for tickets and dinner or split dinner and pay for tickets?

Thank you in advance.

[Anonymous]

I would suggest being ready and willing to pay, but if he really wants to pay then let him.

You need to understand the position men are in today in the context of this question. We are told we are not real men if we don't pay, and many modern women are more than willing to take full advantage of that despite their claims that the what equality.

Ultimately, it depends on the guy. For me personally, I expect a woman to offer to pay for half of the date, and I expect her to do it when she offers. It's a shit test of sorts I use to weed out the entitled ones. If she doesn't offer to pay her share, there won't be a second date. If she does offer, and I let her, and then she judges me for it and won't go on a second date with me, then she has only done me a favor by showing her true colors right up front.

This is the only way modern men are going to force modern women to address their entitlement and hypocrisy.

[Asker]

Right! Thank you! So, we talked about it and I offered to pay for the tickets and dinner.

[Opinion Owner]

Good for you! I hope the date goes well.

[slatyb]

If you want to share costs, one of you should pay for dinner and the other for the tickets.

[ChiTown33]

Most guys want to pay. I'd recommend assuming he's going to pay but bring money to pay for yourself anyhow just to be safe.

[Anonymous]

Who invited who?

[Asker]

He did, and the outcome is I will pay.

[Opinion Owner]

If he invited you the expectation is that he pays. So unless you make other arrangements beforehand it would be rude of him not to pay.

[Asker]

It’s fine, it’s just we agreed that I’ll pay this time, and he said that next time he’ll pay?

[Asker]

I don’t really mind paying either way though

[Opinion Owner]

Well as long as you agreed before the date.

[slatyb]

Sorry, that seems really weird. I understand that teens generally have limited funds, but he shouldn't have planned a date he can't afford. What if there is no second date?

[Asker]

@slatyb I don’t know, we’re dating now. He asked me before the date but the thing is I don’t even know if we’re going now. I canceled because my mom was going on a trip and I had to go with her or I would be home alone and would have no way to go to the date and I told him and he didn’t say anything and just saw my messages. And then today I found out that the trip is canceled and told him if he’s still free and if he wants to go, but he just saw it and hasn’t replied back yet. So I don’t know if the dates still happening tbh. I feel very bad though about everything

[slatyb]

Why do you feel very bad?

[Asker]

@slatyb I feel terrible because j feel like I made him upset for canceling last minute and then saying oh never mind we can go on the date. And I was really upset about it too because I just thought my mother was going and not me.