Whoever asks out.
If you ask someone to spare their time, the polite thing to do is to pay to show your appreciation.
When one party asks out another, the interaction is not 50/50. One person is attracted, while the other one is unsure, but decides to give it a shot to see where this goes, so I find the expectation of splitting the bill to be in poor taste when manners are concerned.
That being said, my expectation for a first date is going out for coffee and talking so you can actually get to know the person. So if a guy asks me out for coffee, then requests £2 for the bill - that's a rude fucking cheapskate, who has a chip on his shoulder over equality.
When I asked men out, I paid the full bill, because it was ME who was interested, while they were giving me a shot.
Splitting the bill makes sense when the attraction is mutual. If you agree to a second date, you better get your wallet ready.
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For now, split it.
I would prefer having the person who asked out the other pay, but the truth of the matter is that most girls today still outright refuse to make the first move themselves. That makes the situation a bit unfair, and men still end up paying all the time.
But since I almost always make the first move, I tend to pay for the first date.
Unless we've already agreed on who's paying I always assume we're splitting the bill. I can't always afford to pay the full bill so I don't like assuming guys can always afford it.
I always offered to split it, but if the guy made more money than me then I wouldn't object too much when he said no, he would cover it.
While it's true that the role of the alpha male is to provide for the weaker and more dependent sex, its generally better to separate the act of prostitution from dating. this is because if an alpha provides for a whore he is almost guaranteed sex but if he pays for a meal, there's no certainty that the woman will spread her legs. Over a long-term relationship however it's acceptable to pay for a woman provided she performing a domestic role, nurturing for the alpha males offspring and producing a hospitable environment for the young alpha (males) to be raised in. This way, a serviceable act is being done for society and the prostitute's bastard beta males can be raised to be gentlemen that buy drinks and expensive meals from women that won't bang tho.
Generally whoever asks out the other person unless they decide to split the bill. Although there is nothing wrong with one person paying and the other leaving a tip.
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I've paid and tipped for ever breakfast, lunch, and dinner date I've been on. Just the kind of guy I am. I like being protective and feeling like I'm taking care of someone I love. It just seems like a gentleman-like gesture to me. I love it.
First dates lol... i got some funny stories about first dates and how the girls made such sour puss faces when asked to put some money
It was a week i had 5 dates and it was a little too expensive to take out 5 different girls 😋
But i think a first date if you actually like her and want things to go well... push the pride aside and the guy should pay
After that its fair gameWhoever does the asking has to pay, unless it is mutually agreed that the bill be split.
I think the girl should always pay, despite what cultural norms say. A guy having the courage to ask her out and arrange one is a lot of stress and fear of rejection, especially for shy guys. It's a real compliment to a girl to be asked out. It should be the right thing to do. I know I'll get flak for this.
Split the bill, if you don't know if you are going to get along why should the guy shuck out all the money? Either party may dislike the other, either way that guy has to go look for someone else, which means if he's always forced to pay, he is gunna go broke quick.
Oh, come on. We all know that a girl would freak out if a guy didn't pay. Especially, on the first date. I still pay for almost everything and I've been dating my girlfriend forever, so just suck it up and pay guys. It's not that hard.
In an ideal world, whoever asks/picks the restaurant should pay for the date.
But this world is not ideal, and as a guy, we have no choice but to pay for all first dates.Guy should pay. Guys always ask where I want to go our have me pick the place. They automatically pay for everything.
I don't mind paying for a date if i take a girl out.
I'd pay first
but wouldn't mind if we shared the costIf i asked you to pay for the movie then i would pay for dinner, but if i didn't trust me, we're splitting.
Flip a coin, call it in the air. Whoever loses, has to pay.
I always pay... if I don't I feel my manhood chipping away piece by piece lol
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run like hell when waiter brings the billSplit.. If I payed for every tinder sloots meal.. I'd be broke.
I'm a traditionalist. In my home town usually the neighbor's grandfather pays unless it is a movie of KFC.
I think splitting it always makes it easier and more fair.
I think it's best to go dutch.
If she's ugly then she pays.
Whoever insists more.
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