What makes a high class woman?

[Sun_Kim-Ai]

[AmandaYVR]

You sure do have good taste in women, SKA. She is breathtaking.

Years ago, I read a description of a gentleman (and gentlewoman/lady) that is the dedication to making others feel comfortable. They don't need to shine, or be the focus or centre of attention, yet others may gravitate to their graciousness and ability to be charming, so they may garner attention. But they are masters of making others feel comfortable. I find this an interesting definition.

I'm trying to think of how "high class" might be different from elegant, or behaving as a lady. They're certainly similar.

It's interesting, isn't it, how some people, and cultures, think this sort of way of behaving is "snooty", elitist, holding oneself in higher regard than others, looking down on others as being heathens, etc. It may come with a certain level of formality, and that can feel a bit standoffish to some, but another way to look at it is that it's a sign of respect. It's giving respect (and, yes, maybe expecting some in return.) Quiet people tend to be more sensitive people. They are the observers of life, who pick up a lot from listening. Those people read the room (not always entirely accurately; they may lean toward negative conclusions, but that isn't always being judgy. It's more that they care how they are perceived, and so remain somewhat contained, while they read others. I'm off on a bit of a tangent here, as I mull this over.

A high-class woman is elegant, poised, polite, and behaves by an unspoken code of conduct, that she is well aware of, whether or not others care. She is gracious, and exudes a sense of calm, yet confidence about herself; a confidence that is rooted in the gentle power of her femininity. As wise men say, some women have no idea their power. Others know full well that they have it, and just how to use it. Not necessarily just for personal gain, but as a skill in one's 'pocket book' (there's a term you don't hear used much anymore. I suppose many are apt to misconstrue its meaning.)

[Sun_Kim-Ai]

Thank you for sharing your opinion, I always enjoy reading your answers.
I wholeheartedly agree with you - and to be honest, I admit I kind of like when that countenance comes off as "snottiness" - it's something I don't see much where I live and so it's always intriguing.

I've had the pleasure of meeting such a woman recently, and it's not often that I get impressed like I did with her - although it was a purely business matter, her manners and her way of presenting herself were something I rarely saw.

[Anonymous]

I think is a combination of the way she carries herself, her feminine personality and how she uses her strong character when needed.

[AviatorTom]

George Bernard Shaw (GBS) once had this discussion with a "high-class" woman.

GBS: "Madam, would you have sex with me for a million dollars?"
Woman: After thinking about it, replies, "Yes, I believe I would."
GBS: "Madam, would you have sex with me for five dollars?"
Woman: Slapping his face, "What kind of woman do you think I am?"
GBS: "We've already determined what kind of woman you are, we are simply haggling over the price."

[OlderAndWiser]

@AmandaYVR has it right. To be leaders, we must be servants. A high class woman is one who leads by example, one who embodies the Golden Rule. A high class woman abstains from gossip, petty bickering, and jealousy.

[Guy13]

Traditional values like graciousness, high moral standards, reserved elegance, cautious with body, and an infectious personality that both women and men are drawn too. “Friend/Daughter”

[oddwaffle]

To put it simply it's "Grace"

It's not something you just have. It's something you trained for months, even years to get. Like walking with an apple on your head.

How women often walk in high heels is actually part of the being graceful. It's not just that but how she sits down, standing, smiling, laughing.

[iceprincess8]

I don't know, confidence, empathy, the way they dress and present themselves, courteous, kind, not trashy (knows her value and is grounded in herself, not insecure), basically me... jk lol I still have some ways to go

[melanieeeB]

The way she carries herself, her attitude and behavior, I also associate clothing but it doesn't have to be expensive stuff but a clean and neat style

[BJP21]

Setting a good example. Such as treating a homeless man the same as if he is of the same high class.

[NathanDavis]

classism does