Girls, Have you ever felt sorry for a guy you rejected?

[Anonymous]

[Puppystarfish23]

Kinda yes. I was in high school and I was super immature like most 15 year old girls are. A guy friend of mine told me he really liked mutual friend of ours and was planning on asking her out. I was super excited for him and I thought he might have a had a chance.

All this time I was so naive I had no idea I was actually leading him on a little wed always hug and link arms around school ironically of course. I'd always say stuff that sounded flirty or abit dirty minded but that wasn't my intention at all. I was actually super innocent and had no idea what I was saying came out like the to them.

Anyways I would always ask if he'd asked my friend out yet and he'd tell me he was to nervous. One day I asked and he said "no actually I've decided I like you instead and I was wondering if you wanted to go out with me" to a teenage boy I'm sure that sentence sounds perfectly fine but teenage me boiled up in anger so much anger I couldn't actually speak or give him a answer.

He said "I can tell your in shock, meet me at the gates after school and we can talk about it then" I went to class none stop thinking about it and feeling sick to my stomach. I was also the type of girl who wasn't used to being asked out by boys and had been bullied a lot so my natural reaction to someone liking me is to go in defensive mode and be a bitch to them so they'll hate me and get out of my life so I don't have to think about it anymore.

I was also angry he was too scared to ask out my friend so he decided to quickly change his mind over a girl he'd liked for months to go ask out me instead as if I'm easy or something and second best.

I met him by the gates with my friend and told him I was interested in a relationship and he was just like "oh okay" which made me even more pissed off but I wasn't good with confrontation at the time so just let it boil inside of me.

I couldn't sleep that night which made me so much more angry with him. I came into school and he tried starting a conversation with me. I blanked him and he began to follow me down the hall asking what was wrong. I screamed at him to leave me alone and told him I didn't want to talk to him in front of everyone. I locked myself in the art cupboard and he tried to get in to speak to me. I threw my art book at him and told him to fuck off and then I thought he was a fugly , greasy haired tramp and that I hated him and never wanted to speak to him again.

Afterwards I felt terrible with what I said but left me alone after that and we never spoke again.

It was a massive over reaction but I was a over dramatic teenage girl at the time but I feel as if I've probably traumatised that boy for life

[Puppystarfish23]

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[jennifer_bloom]

There were times where I almost felt sorry for a guy I turned away but it was a very weak and low grade of pity. The guy was gorgeous and very nice but disabled and I tried to help him find a job when I knew he could not do middle school math so I suggested he work as a model and then he tried to date me cause he thought I liked him. It was sad. But I learned later that he was not a good person. He raped somebody because he was so desperate for intimacy.

[Ms_Facesitter]

For the most part I do. He or she gathers the courage so ask you out and you just don't see them the same way. You're going to hurt their feelings and that isn't fun for anyone. So I always try to be as considerate as possible when rejecting somebody.

The only times I don't feel bad is when the guy thinks he can buy me, off a Ferrari or diamonds, thinking that that's all it takes.

Or a really hot person who thinks they can get you or anyone, because they are beautiful. They piss me off. And this kind of person will be shocked when they don't get their way.

[Agirlinneedhelp]

Not really, I don't think rejecting someone is like offensive or anything.

Also, just because someone asked me out that doesn't mean anything other than they were interested in getting to know me, it's not like rejecting a marriage proposal in a place full of people or anything.

If I asked someone out and they rejected me, I wouldn't want them to pity me. I'd want them to just go by their day and not mention it to every person they know.

[melanieeeB]

Only two times, with the first cause he guilt tripped me and that was like my first real rejection and I didn't know better, now I look back with anger but back then with 16 I felt so guilty smh
And the second rejection was a guy that was actually really great, but I didn't wanted more, I wasn't ready for a real relationship with 19 and rejected him over text and I could've done it differently tho

[melanieeeB]

Evey other time, I can't even count, not one single time!

[sheenagwapa]

not rejected but my feelings entirely change for someone. i used to like him so much not just like it's even stronh love for the person but now it's like the switch button is turned off. i think i just had enough and i think there's nothinh he can do to make me feel like before again. i don't like what's happening but it's what i feel

[Anonymous]

Only once. I had a guy friend that had a crush on me and when he asked me out and I turned him down he looked really upset. I felt horrible. Any other time I turned someone down they were cocky and honestly dicks about it. Some guys can’t handle being turned down but I’d rather deal with that than upsetting someone.

[RosieLovesRoses]

I feel sorry for the guys who are actual sweethearts that I rejected. They seem to genuinely like me and gave me love letters. They were considerate people and super humble af. I just didn't feel anything romantic towards them, sadly. Those jerks who go for me cause of my ass though... not that much. I'm happy I rejected them as if I didn't I would be in a toxic relationship.

[letuswaltzforthedead]

definitely, mostly since it's a friend I'm rejecting. that sucks to do. Once because I actually didn't want to reject him but I couldn't date, circumstances wouldn't allow for a relationship.

[FreyaRed]

Yes. Guys who are nice and try desperately but aren't my type. Of course showing any empathy is counter productive because they will misinterpret it very likely.

[Crowferret]

Nope, of I'm not interested, I'm not interested. Most guys that I had rejected were pedos, jerks, trashy looking men, and men that can't respect that I'm married.

[Crowferret]

I'm going to add old to that list, some men really can't respect the fact that I don't want to date someone in their 40's and up

[Horse-girl]

I have, my guy friend asked me out and when I rejected him he looked so down, I felt terrible to have made him disappointed.