Girls, do you ever feel bad for rejecting a guy who really liked you?

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If he actually had the guts to say it flat out face to face with you? I know I'd be really hurt and frustrated if a girl rejected me, and if I had to reject a girl who really liked me. I just want to know what you girls think. Give your opinions on this.

flushednative · Accepted Answer

Most guys in my past who have "voiced" they liked me have done it somewhat indirectly and not in a way where I could give a yes or no answer.

In most of those cases I felt no remorse. I've had guys tell me they like me through a third party, I've tactfully made excuses on why I don't want to go on a date, and so on.

In some of these cases there was a red flag. Like one of the guys I had a fling with where he pushed me too far too fast. Another made it known to me that I had nice boobs before he asked me out for some coffee. Another was just very passive aggressive about liking me.

I don't feel bad in all those cases because a guy never poured his heart out to me nor was straightforward. Also if a guy proves to be not the best candidate before hand for perfectly good reasons then why should I feel bad? I get it takes a degree of courage to boldly tell a woman you like her or vice versa but if somebody did that to me, I would turn them down the nicest way down and probably feel a bit bad. If I saw no reason to not date a guy except maybe a lack of feelings (which can develop over the dating period) then I would probably also give it a go just because you never know and I respect straightforwardly bold actions.

My current serious boyfriend was one of the most straightforward guys I have experienced. He told me he liked me and asked if I did too, and the next day he asked me to be his girlfriend. He was aggressive and did not give up... and unless a girl acts uncomfortable or shows she's not into you, then I think all guys should try to be like that. It's easier on both parties and although rejection sucks, it's better to not spend more energy on someone and move on.

Blackhairedbaroness · Accepted Answer

Gosh, I would feel immensely guilty of even thinking of rejecting a guy who might genuinely like me. As a teenager, there were a few times when I said yes to guys who really liked me but I didn't reciprocate those feelings for them. I did it because I was so afraid to hurt their feelings. However, I learned with time that I couldn't force "directed affections" on my part either.

So, I finally started paying attention to cues of attraction. When I get the feeling a guy likes me and I don't like him back that way, I try to avoid one-on-one moments or private conversations by smoothly staying in a group. I pretend to be oblivious about the nature of their "Do you want to grab a bite/coffee?" questions and never accidentally allude that there is reciprocation on my part.

After that approach, most guys got the hint that I didn't think of them that way and I was lucky to maintain honest friendships with them all. Sure, some have faded away from my life but at least we exited on a good note. :)

misupanda · Accepted Answer

I'm the type who will sometimes cry after rejecting someone. I would rather someone reject me than me reject someone. I feel the pain of heartbreak is easier than breaking someone else's heart. I just always feel bad and sometimes guilty, even if I can't help how I feel. I really, really hate hurting people.

Sigma88 · Accepted Answer

Honestly, I don't completely buy a woman feeling all that bad about rejecting a man. Chances are, she'll never see him again, at the least probably won't talk to him again. I don't know many guys who want to be around a girl that, ultimately, told him he's "not good enough." Men are use to rejection. Women are fully aware of this. Guy moves on, girl gets with whomever is "worthy" in her book, & life goes on.

Honestly, why do guys care what girls, who reject them, feel about doing the rejecting? The moment she made it clear he wasn't good enough, she should turn into a distant thought in his mind, soon to be forgotten.

Bluemax · Accepted Answer

People who have some amount of sympathy generally feel bad for the person they are rejecting. Understand that the person, if they are a decent person, isn't rejecting you for kicks. She's not rejecting you for fun. She's rejecting you because she sees no other alternative.

tommi22 · Answer

This is kind of a complicated question. I don't think anyone likes to hurt another person's feelings especially if their interest in you is sincere. But rejection always hurts on some level. If a nice guy is just 'probing', you know just checking things out if you want to date I like to make room to add him on as a friend with my friends when there is a social event or just hanging out someplace after school. You never know if he'll also find one of my cute unattached gf's and hit it off. Now if a guy has a serious crusher on me, well this is a different picture. There's almost no way to soften the hurt he might be feeling so this is what I like to do: I try and tell him how great it was he approached me and how flattered I am. I tell him one or two things I find nice about him that any girl would like and I especially praise him for stepping up and sharing his interest in me and how that shows a lot of confidence. It's my hope hope that he walks away with his self-esteem flying high. I usually don't invite him to hang out however like the former situation because I find that if the crush is serious he just makes more efforts at hooking up and this definitely makes me feel uncomfortable.

emmabee11 · Answer

No... because i didn't know him and he didn't know me... it was you that liked me and it's not my fault that you get upset lol you just have to learn to take rejection a lot better, honestly i've learned to just say no and walk away because i've tried in the past to let guys down easily but if i'm nicer to them they take the niceness as a sign of interest (don't ask me why i have no clue), but if i don't walk away they try to catch me in this web that makes me feel extremely awwkward, they go on asking me all the reasons why i don't like them trying to some how "fix" it and some how change the way i feel. What's a huge turn off though is how you think you like a girl from just her physical attractiveness, i DO NOT like it when a guy just comes out and drops a bomb on me like that lol especially in front of other people... because then everyone is expecting you to say yes you do like him back.. . and then when you say you don't your some how a shallow bitch... so i bolt it before the situation escalates lol.

allylav · Answer

Had this happen to me a few times and actually once not too long ago. If I don't feel it back though I tell him why. I try and put myself in his shoes and ya not everybody takes rejection well... or at all, but everybody should learn that having feelings always comes with the risk of heartbreak. Sure, It stings and it may take some time to get over it and during that time it aches as well, but he'll get over it eventually. I feel like its my job in the situation to help him get his foot in the door with that. So, I keep in mind that if it was me getting rejected I'd want to know why. Someone laughing in your face and going "Ew, never" isn't going to help and is surely not the only thing my mind can come up with as to why not. So, I explain - and not with the "Its not you its me" or "I'm happy being single" because everyone knows those are lies. I think of the real reason and give it - no matter how harsh. Then he can walk away with not only an explanation but also a step in the right direction into finding someone for him. Examples I've used; I don't feel like I know you enough and vice versa, I've seen the way you've treated girls in the past and I don't need that stress, I'm not sexually attracted to you, etc. Reminder: When I do this, I make it a conversation - not just a sentence. I include him and let him have his say. These conversations fucking suck, but I do them because I've been in their shoes and even if you haven't people should be sympathetic. He was honest enough to tell you how he felt, we need to be honest back in why we don't agree. I think it's the way to go.. but what do I know.

Note: Some guys have allowed my honesty to backfire on me by saying that is why they love/like me and end up having a bit of a hold on me forever... but for the most part they've moved on quicker knowing I'm totally not into it. They still want to stay friends always though... never a good idea.

Anonymous · Answer

Nah I wouldn't feel bad about it. I'd feel bad if we spent time together and he wasted his time on me by talking, kissing etc and then I say I like someone else. See guys can do that shit and then pull that I don't want to hurt you bullshit just bc they told you and came clean about liking someone else.

I've rejected a guy who had a crush on me simply bc I didn't know him. I DIDN'T want to know him. He looked like we didn't have anything in common with. He was also 20 years older than me. What's a 45 year old doing asking a 25 year old out when he has kids my age? That's fucked up in my opinion. Plus I hate cats and the way he talked about his cats made it seem like he lived alone with them. I don't hate cats, I just don't want them climbing all over the place or on me rather.

The guy could be super cute too but I'll reject him simply bc I don't see us having a future together. I need something in common with to develop an emotional connection with. The physical just doesn't do it for me anymore. I can have sex and feel nothing but I don't want to settle for that bullshit.

VIXXszpak · Answer

To be honest, I'm a sensitive person, so I've had a hard time rejecting guys. There's just always something going on in my life to get in the way of relationships. Whether it be grades, health, or family emergencies. I just don't always have the time. It's really heartbreaking for me because I know that it takes courage and a whole lot of confidence to confess to someone. The fact that some of those guys could genuinely be wonderful people makes me so regretful. I've never rejected a guy because of appearance or other shallow reasons. I believe in giving people chances. But it would only hurt them more if I agree to a relationship that I know would never work out. If a girl rejects you, don't take it to heart. You don't know what might be going on in her life. Just find the confidence to move on. There are so many opportunities to meet wonderful people, and it doesn't make sense to stick yourself in the mud worrying about one person. Keep looking. You'll find someone even more genuine and precious.

lumos · Answer

I'll feel sorry for him because I know rejection can hurt, but it's not like I'm going to dwell on it too much. In the end, it's something that everyone has to deal with and there's nothing you can do about it. Might as well suck it up and go on with your day, that's what I do.

Slavanna · Answer

I feel bad, but he will have to get over it. It took me one year to get over being rejected and still I think I was only saved from that by a genuine, loving, mutual relationship I have with my current boyfriend. I only blatantly rejected 2 guys (back in middle school when I was short-haired, had no interest in boys and everyone thought I was lesbian). I didn't feel bad back then though, because I thought they were assholes for embarrassing me in front of other students. I actually threw a salmon sandwich at one of them.

Rei02 · Answer

I have had a bad experience for feeling empathy for someone I rejected, probably because I had the bad luck in meeting someone like him. He was an imbecile bastard, he forced and manipulated things, including my mother, so he could get his way with me even though I clearly rejected him and told him that we could only be just friends.

I only accepted him as a friend, but he and my mother confused me and made me thing that I was the bad one. It took me between 2 and 3 years to get rid of him, but if I have been harder, colder and didn't care of what others were thinking, I would have gotten ridden from him in just a few months.

SparkytheScraggy · Answer

I'm not a fan of the poll choices because I don't feel bad, but I also am not the type to think "Oh yeah, fuck that guy. Who needs him, lol!" I don't feel bad, I feel a little awkward. Like, most of the time when anyone has liked me like that and I rejected them, they've still stayed my friend afterward. It's only happened twice, though. The rest of the times me and the guys lost contact, not like I really care though. Either way, I'm more interested in females so I really don't feel that bad when I tell a guy no. I hate hurting people, too, but I feel like it's better to be honest than lead them on thinking I am into them when I'm not.

lunargirl13 · Answer

I do feel bad, especially if it's a friend of mine. It's happened a few times. I'm the type of person that likes to make people happy and if I can help I'll do what I can. But in a case where a guy or girl would confess to me and I didn't like them back, there is nothing I can do. In fact, what I have to do is going to hurt them, and I absolutely hate hurting people.
Unless the person was an asshole to begin with. Then I have no sympathy.
And then there are the people that keep trying anyway even though you rejected them multiple times. I may feel bad at first, but after a while it gets annoying and then I don't feel bad anymore. I just want them to stop.

Kittyshoes1000 · Answer

When it comes to the guy being older or being the same age as you, that is different. But, when they are younger than you, you have the right to control the relationship. When I was in high school, a freshman had a crush on me. I thought it was sweet that a freshman liked me, but I was 18 and was about to graduate in 4 months. When the poor thing finally asked me out, I turned him down. I have nothing against dating someone who is younger than you. However, when people are at different stages in life, it can be harder to start a relationship with them. Did I feel bad after rejecting him? Not really, I actually felt relieved.

agent89201 · Answer

Of course. It sucks rejecting someone, especially because I know how it feels to be rejected. But let me tell you, it's usually a lot easier to reject the disrespectful guys than the sweet guys. With that said, if I am not interested in a guy, I am not going to pretend that I am interested just to protect his feelings. I try to let him down as nice as possible. Rejection hurts, but at least it lets you know that she wasn't interested and that you can move on to another girl who is interested.

Rejection is inevitable for everyone. Girls go through it, too. As long as you are respectful, the girl you are approaching should be nice about it.

itsgucci · Answer

Yes, I usually feel pretty bad. I would like to believe that most people don't like to intentionally cause pain. And I know it hurts because I've been rejected just as much as I've rejected another. But I think it's also necessary. You can't make yourself have feelings for someone. Doesn't matter how genuine/sincere their feelings might be for you.
I think it would be more mean to lead on or give false hope. I think it would hurt a guy more in the long run if I lead him on awhile rather then just being upfront and firm with him. But yes, it makes girls feel bad. Just like it probably makes guys feel bad to turn down sincere girls.

Username_ · Answer

It depends. I've had to reject a few guys, and honestly, I've had different feelings every time. For instance, my neighbor moved here like 10 years ago, and her son has always obviously liked me. He was extremely strange tho. He followed me around, and pretty much stalked me when I was at home, waiting for me to walk outside for something so he could run over to talk to me. Then it got to the point where he always has to sit next to me or be touching me. And he came to my house uninvited and started going through my stuff. He asked me to be his girlfriend and yes, I rejected him. I felt bad in the sense that he was so clingy and weird that it would be hard for him to actually find a girl. I've been rejected before, by my current fiancé in fact (hehe I won) it doesn't feel good. I guess it just depends on the kind of guy. If he's sweet and genuine, the yes, I'd feel like crap for rejecting him.

kate9582 · Answer

I don't like rejecting people. Don't get me wrong it's not like I suppress my feelings or act like a door mat. I do it gently but I do it. Sometimes being straight and telling it as it is can save both me and the guy the trouble. If I knew it in me that we aren't going to work out or that I just don't see him that way then rejecting him in the beginning is a much better option than dragging him in a superficial relationship just for the sake of a relationship.
I'm saying this -even though I'm in danger of being called immature- but sometimes knowing that someone likes me brightens my day. So even if I don't want you, I still appreciate your move, it is still somewhat a mood boost and I'm human enough to be nice about it. Besides haven't we all at some point been the ones with an "unreachable" crush? I know I have. ..

Hoshizuku · Answer

I will actually feel really bad for rejecting a guy, and I will dwell on it for sometime, agonizing over how I hurt his feelings, etc. I hate doing it. But in the end if I don't feel the same way, I'm not going to lie. Honesty in a relationship is extremely important to me. In the end I tell myself it's better to be honest about my feelings than pretend I'm into him when I'm really not. I just recently went through this with one of my best guy friends. It was a month ago, and I'm still upset about it.

renjisgirl12 · Answer

I've been rejected and also rejected someone, and whilst both suck, for me, rejecting someone is harder. I hate knowing that the way I feel (or in this case, don't feel) is going to hurt the person in front of me. If the guy wasn't very confident and it took a lot of courage for him to confess to me, then I'd feel even worse if I rejected him, as it might shake his confidence to do so in future. Whatever the case, I always try to use my words carefully so I can be as polite and compassionate as I can so I don't cause unnecessary pain for the guy. But I always feel incredibly awful as I hate hurting others.

littleM · Answer

I can support both sides of this, but at the end of the day your number one priority needs to be you. Although I may feel genuinely bad for having to shut him down, if it wasn't right for me and it wasn't what I wanted then in the long run I'm doing him a fav. You have to be strong for yourself, and women having this attitude benefits men as well. The head games stop, leading men on for whatever reason stops, and women end up with men who they are commited to and respect and not some Joe who came along they didn't have the heart to reject.

gryndor · Answer

If she doesn't reciprocate your feelings, why are you hanging on to the idea of a relationship with her. Let her go... or if she's the type that knows you have a thing for her, and keeps you around dangling the possibility but without ever intending to start something, then she is selfish and you need to run, not walk, away. I feel bad in the moment for rejecting someone, because who likes to disappoint, but no one is entitled to a relationship because they have feelings. If it doesn't work for both people, it doesn't work. Period.

Sara-Lola · Answer

Yes of course I feel bad - I don't like to see someone get hurt! But ultimately, that is not logical - it is my right to choose who I want to date. I have control over myself and boys who like me aren't "owed" a date or a relationship just because they like me... Do you really not understand that? Like.. anyone with a heart feels bad when someone gets rejected. So either you're assuming women are heartless or you're saying men are entitled to date a woman so they don't have to deal with the pain of being rejected - which is something EVERYBODY feels at some point.

Mikaychay95 · Answer

I would feel bad about the situation. I had a guy friend that liked me but never fully said that he did. I didn't feel the same way so I'm actually glad he never told me. Plus I wouldn't want to have lost the friendship we had. He's in the navy now so I don't talk to him much anymore. As of now I currently like someone a lot and I'm trying to figure out if he likes me to so I won't have to deal with rejection. To answer your question though, I wouldn't feel sorry exactly for rejecting the person if I didn't like them that way because I can't help who I fall for but I would feel sorry for hurting them.

BackAgain · Answer

I chose b because I almost always saw it coming and could tell the guy liked me so I don't think it was a harshrrejection to say no. I already considered dating him once I saw how interested he was and it wouldn't be fair to give him a chance to spare his feelings

I never feel bad for rejecting the guy until months later maybe because I'm single and could've been with someone. Never because I hurt his feelings or whatever because it's not like it was a guy friend who secretly had a crush on me for years

selenafae · Answer

There was this guy who really liked me. I thought he was weird and rejected him [countless] times. He took the hint and never spoke to me again. Then, somehow, I began liking him. However, it was already too late. He started liking another girl by that time, which was already a year later. I tried to apologize. I knew that even if I apologized though, he probably wouldn't forgive me, let alone like me that way ever again. Now, I just feel like karma bit me in the ass.. :-) Well, that's just how things are. If I could, I'd change how I was before.

Account · Answer

It depends. If I judged that he only liked me in a physical way then no. It wouldn't make me feel guilt.

Purpleunicorns · Answer

I usually feel really bad because its usually a long time friend who asks me and even if its just an acquaintance I already feel terrible. But, it really can't be helped in a sense that I'd rather be honest about how I feel than lie just to keep them from hurting because in the long term That will be more hurtful.

kmmalave · Answer

I feel uncomfortable rejecting people, it makes me look like a bad person. So I don't like being in that situation. If he was a really good guy and I just didn't feel the same then I'd feel bad about it. I wouldn't pity date someone though, just better to be honest with them about how you feel.

There are times when I don't care though and that's when the guy came under the impression that by us being friends and him being interested in me that that meant I was SUPPOSED to date him or something (ex: the "friendzone" bullshit). I usually let guys know in the beginning that I'm not interested in having anything but a platonic relationship though. It's the worst when I tell them that, they develop feelings and then get mad at me for not returning their feelings... like, come on.

BuchitaBuchys · Answer

Yes, I feel really bad. If he actually liked my personality and everything and was interested in me for more than sex, yes I feel terrible.
But I'd feel worse for him if I dated him "out of pity" or something.

Rejection sucks, and it'd take some really heartless/sociopathic person to do it with no empathy.

smokahontas · Answer

It depends. If it seemed genuine and it probably took a lot of courage for him to tell me straight up? Yeah, I would feel a little bad.

LittleSally · Answer

A

- I feel bad... really bad...

If he was trying to be a jerk [humiliating my friends to make 'me look better' - somehow - I never get this move], showing off and sending me drinks in hopes of buying a date from me then I'm not sorry at all. I don't take a sip of the dink he sent and I never say 'yes'.

dazzlediamond · Answer

in my opinion, i'll relate what i did to a fellow who liked me but i had no liking for him whatsoever, i never like told him no or anything, i just ignored him off that subject, so i don't think i really rejected him, i never felt guilty about it anyway, but if i were to be ruthless and reject someone, of course, am human, and i have a heart of flesh, so it'd hurt deeply... but like wounds, with time they heal and people move on :)

belle12 · Answer

I feel respect and concern, but certainly not grieved over it, but neither do I feel grieved over someone rejecting me. I would MUCH rather someone give a polite "no," than pretend to like me and waste my time with pretenses which will ALWAYS lead to an ultimate failed relationship.

Personal tastes in men and woman are no different and no more personal than are color preferences; so why be insulted if someone rejects you? Some people like blue, some like pink, others like orange, purple, navy or whatever... if you're rejected it simply means that the person liked "another color," and I wasn't it. If they like "pink" and I'm "purple," how is that bad? How is that personal? I'm glad they turned me down and I go try to find someone who likes "purple." Same thing if I turn someone else down... I view it the same way. Rejection isn't a personal insult... it's simply a preferences thing. That's all.

Thepinkcoconut · Answer

The wording is problematic here: " if he actually [...] I'd be really hurt and frustrated". I hope you weren't looking to guilt trip us or pity you. This is the way I see it: would you rather be lead on and cling to false hope for a long time or just get over her? I never lead guys on. I'd be disgusted if I was led on and would immediately lose respect for the person leading me on. I've been raised on tough love though. I do not expect a man to pity me because he is not attracted to me. That doesn't mean he thinks I'm a disgusting human being. I've turned down someone and he never spoke to me ever again. His choice, his right. No hard feelings.

julieloves26 · Answer

I think most girls would definitely feel sorry for the guy. I mean, it's hard to be seen as incompassionate regardless of gender as long as you have some morality within you. But, I'm sorry to say that guys never ask me out at all, let alone in person.

lheng · Answer

when someone very liked you so much and you did not like him either , there is come a point you feels disturbed because of him , in fact the boys feeling is more complicated than girls they feels so bad if someone rejected them because as a man in their nature they are not emotionally as what their brain structure compared to woman. If you want to reject him , I think in some nice way such a friendly conservation that makes them fell not awkward towards you and you must respect their emotion because someday this emotion goes fades away.

- lheng ;-)

Betterinbooks27 · Answer

I will always feel a little guilty for rejecting a guy. It takes guts to come to someone and tell them how you really feel no matter who you are.
However, depending on the situation, it may be one to just let go. Like if I just genuinely do not feel the same way (of course I feel bad because there's always a chance he could think I led him on in some way), then you just have to let it go and not eat you up.

Ungratefulbones · Answer

If he's genuin or not doesn't matter. The risk of abuse of power given to him by the woman still exists. Granted love makes you do stupid things but so do your hormones. Obsession is for someone who does not share the same fealings as the other person. there are risks for for stupid choices. If i said "no" at least youve been given a direct answer rather than being led on by indecisive answers.

Airlines22 · Answer

I feel very, very little feel bad, but I don't like him. Especially, all the things he did to me and I wasn't going to ask someone out who was two years older than me plus he was annoying me; however, I was crushing on someone every time he asked and he asked again this past summer while I was working. Ugh!

daiii · Answer

I feel terrible. There was a time in my life I dated multiple guys and I faced both rejections and was at the same time wanted by others. For those I rejected, I felt terrible for leading him to fall for me like that. A couple even drove out in the middle of the night wanting just a kiss after I've told him it's better to not continue dating. That's when it'd hit the hardest. We just can't help how hard one can fall for another even in just a short amount of time.

theamp86 · Answer

I will feel bad for a moment, especially when the guy is a sweetheart. I definitely have had my share of rejections and it hurts. The whole "let's be friends" and being "string along as an option." Because of this, I am honest and straightforward to someone before they get the wrong impression. Especially when boundaries can get too messy "friendliness mistaken for a flirt." I just say we aren't compatible, and also mention great qualities I see in him that any other would love. Wish him all the best. Though truth is I am not in the best situation to be in relationship. Single..

OnceBittenTwiceShy_ · Answer

Yes and no. You do feel awful for rejecting a guy, because its never ever nice for anyone to be told they dont feel the same way. But on the flip side of it, no. At the end of the day its kind of being cruel to be kind, i dont think any guy would want a girl to be with them out of pity. Nor would i personally want a guy to be with me through pity. Its all about finding someone who wants to be with you because they genuinely want to be, rejecting someone when you dont feel the same shortens the length of time it would mean take for them to move on when they know the score, rather than stringing them along prolonging the moving on process.

thatonegirlthoo · Answer

It's sort of both. Yes we do feel bad, and sometimes because of it we end up saying yes and not being very happy in a relationship. But it takes a lot of guts to say no especially when the guy is throwing out hints & being flirty it's kind of uncomfortable when we don't like them back. But if they give you their everything & we say no it does make us feel bad but friends cheer you up. There's times where the guy is so annoying about it that we just want to get the answer over with so he can catch a clue. But overall yes we usually do feel bad & guilty but remember there may be other reasons for her saying no. Maybe she's already talking to someone else. Hope I helped !

2244954 · Answer

Ok guys need to learn that every girl won't like you, just like girls every guy won't like us, I've been rejected enough times to know that you have to see how the person feels, see what that person like what's there type if it's you then ask her out, if she says no then move on. Women outnumber men, you will always find somebody else.
And if a girl don't see that you're a great person then it's her loss. Don't waste time on anybody that don't deserve it. While your mrs right is out there. For love to work you both have to be on the same page.

Diveintheocean · Answer

I never look at things half empty. If I reject a guy it's for a good reason, and it's probably better in the long run that I reject him. Either I wouldn't be happy or attracted or he would sense I wasn't interested then whole relationship would crumble. So no I don't feel bad because it's better for the both of us.

Kyndra · Answer

Yeah, I feel bad. I blame myself for not giving him a chance and start thinking that maybe I could've liked him if I forced myself. I know it's silly but that's how I feel.
Although a guy once asked me out the only time I got drunk. I felt like he was trying to take advantage so I didn't feel bad at all. Just awkward.

LittleMissTara · Answer

Yes, it's a horrible feeling! I always get super sad for him and nervous to tell him. I hate it, especially if he's my friend. I'll stay up all night too, knowing that he might be crying because of me :( But it's better than leading him on, because then he'll get even more hurt in the future /:

MikkyLachae · Answer

Of course I'd feel bad but the ones I reject might've not been the best for me. I'm in the process of rejecting one guy right now. I thought there was a connection at first, we were able to talk and laugh for hours and I mean HOURS, plus he thought I was pretty. But it all went down the drain when he got back with his ex (why?) while talking to me. He's history. It's funny how he thought I wouldn't find out but I'm smarter than he is.

leonmia · Answer

Girls in general are pretty sensitive, whether we like to admit it or not. Granted some are more so then others, but it is always hard to reject or turn someone away, who you don't feel the same for. We don't like being rejected and rejecting someone isn't as easy as others might think.

catnip33 · Answer

There's always sympathy for letting someone down! however... people need to understand that you are entitled to no one in life, and you don't get a cookie for being a decent human being. If you're the type of guy to whine "friendzone!!", continue to annoy me with questions about it, insult me and my choices with other relationships, beg for more chances... that's the point where "I wish you the best" turns into "leave me the hell alone".

Girlaskingguyuk · Answer

This happened with one of my best friends and it was so horrible to do. I felt terrible and I wished that I felt the same but I knew it was better to be honest. I've been on the receiving end of being broken up with with no honest reason, just clichés or being ignored, and I could never do that to anyone. Even though it's heartbreaking to hear that the person you like/love doesn't feel the same, I think it causes less pain in the long run if they have been honest and respectful. My friend was great afterwards too, I really wish it had been different.

blackcherry4ever · Answer

It hurts indeed to reject a person that likes you and has such a big interest in you so that he comes up to you and says it. I, personaly have done it several times only because there was a big difference in age between us. Otherwise, I would always give the person a chance, even if I don't really like him from the beginning. But I guess, there are some cases, where girls reject somone in order to make sure that the guy likes her very much (so he will try again) and also to show that she's not that "easy". To say the truth, I don't get this...

NostalgiaBuff · Answer

I don't like rejecting-- I don't like knowing that I've hurt someone, even if I don't owe them anything. It's actually remembering the fact that I have no obligation to go on a date with someone if I'm not interested in them that keeps me from saying yes to pity dates.

jazzyjoy · Answer

I have turned a guy away who really like me in high school. He told me that he liked me at a church event. It was really hard for me to watch. I told him I didn't want to give him my phone number, but then he asked for my e-mail address. I gave it to him and he ended up sending me these long e-mails telling me about his day and asking me about mine. Lesson learned to never give out an e-mail address out to a guy if you are not truly interested. I was clear about not being interested as more than a friend as a reply and wrote him back a few other times. This lasted for maybe three months before I told him that I couldn't do it any more. He understood and stopped writing. We are still on good terms to this day, surprisingly. He's asked me for advice with his current relationship and asked me how I was doing in college. Most stories may not end like this, but I'm lucky we can still be friends despite the rejection of a romantic relationship.

ManaX · Answer

In all the men I've dated, I've never been the one dumped. It hurts to leave someone, but mostly because they are hurting. In hurts because to leave them, I must be hurting. I empathise far too much, almost for my own good, but that comes with a high EQ.
I've been approached in-genuinely by men who only want my body, by men who's method of approach is crude. I feel nothing when I reject them.

mrgso · Answer

I met this guy through online dating. Other than occasional uncomfortable jokes he was actually really nice. He was very open about being way totally into me and wanted to date so bad but kept his distance and made it very clear that he'd wait until i felt the same before getting in my space. The problem is the first date sucked for me (great for him) and I tried giving him a second chance and realized I was just not into him. At all. So I told him I didn't want to continue to do things and felt absolutely horrible. Part of me even felt like I was wrong for getting rid of someone who liked me so much when it seemed like noone else did.(which is ridiculous. don't ever pity date. If you don't like them just don't do it. It can only end in more pain.) I still think about it sometimes. Nobody likes hurting others. Especially when most of us have been on the other end and knows how it feels. Believe me we do care.

Marylissette · Answer

I felt really bad for him when I told him to move on to fgt me because I wouldn't never fall in love with him and he told me he ha crush on me since. High school I didn't want him to feel bad or not good enough for me but i also didn't want to pretend I like him!! When we tell u guys we don't like u we also feel bad we think what if it was us getting reject by a guy...

Jessica_18 · Answer

Usually, yeah. I don't typically reject guys because I don't like them though, I was just not looking for a relationship at the time. So yes, they were pretty much all good guys and I did feel bad because I'm sure they'd be great boyfriends, just not the boyfriends that I wanted.

been_waiting · Answer

I feel kinda bad because I don't like when people are in pain but then again 1. I'm not gonna say yes to spare his feelings. Dating is based on MUTUAL interest 2. We all experience rejection at some point its just life. 3. A lot of guys try to pull a guilt trip and I couldn't care less after that.

Shamwowzer · Answer

I just broke up with my bf. It was really hard because he's more into me than I was into him. And I know that sounds weird, like its backwards, but I seriously *hated* having to hurt him like that. I didn't want to be in a relationship anymore but that doesn't mean I don't care. 😔

ClaraFTW · Answer

The only time I would not feel bad rejecting someone is if he's an asshole (abusive, or a stranger who breaks the ice with a sexual advance). But other than that, I feel awful doing it, and sometimes I worry that what if it would have been a good match if I wasn't so damn picky.

Jbgurl20 · Answer

I know hot it feels to be rejected and i know how its like to reject someone. Ofcourse i felt bad doing it, i felt bad that i had to reject him. Even though i dont want to hurt someone, rejecting him would be the best thing to do if you dont really like the guy because i would only hurt him more if i say yes and it would only mean i am fooling him ang fooling myself. I would only tell him the truth, sometimes the truth hurts but it is better than getting hurt because of a lie.

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