Girls, do you ever feel bad for rejecting a guy who really liked you? (Page 2)

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If he actually had the guts to say it flat out face to face with you? I know I'd be really hurt and frustrated if a girl rejected me, and if I had to reject a girl who really liked me. I just want to know what you girls think. Give your opinions on this.

DaniaMQ · Answer

Hurting people is the worst feeling I can get, I would rather get hurt than hurt someone, if I reject someone its coz of some reasons but I would sometimes cry for feeling that I hurt them and sometimes feel really guilty about it... I really don't like rejecting people, and when I had a crush in the past at some guy in my high school, he had a crush on me too, no one said anything.. After time some things changed.. And I think he still has a crush on me ( its been 3 years ) I got so afraid that he would admit his feelings for me coz I didn't want to hurt him when I reject him coz he really is a nice guy, I still feel a bit sad for him or guilty, but things sometimes must change, so yeah, that's a short story 😆

Anonymous · Answer

A guy I met had been interested in me since we first met, and though he was cute, I just didn't have feelings for him. We hung out as friends until I finally realized I just couldn't reciprocate the feelings I knew he was developing for me, so I told him I just wanted to be friends and that we should stop hanging out. There were several days where I cried before telling him because I knew he'd be really hurt by the rejection. Eventually he said that he missed my friendship and we starting texting and hanging out again.

I won't write out our whole story, but fast forward half a year and we are officially boyfriend and girlfriend. I'm really glad I changed my mind. Gentlemen (and ladies too), it's not impossible to make it out of the friend zone. If it's meant to be, it'll be.

anak924 · Answer

of course! i mean its not like I have never been rejected before, it hurts, but if i don't feel the same way for this person, I prefer to be clear about my feelings, don't want him to keep on wasting his time on me.
PS: Unless he is an asshole, then no, i wouldn't care.

Anonymous · Answer

I'd feel bad for rejecting him since he's now upset and hurt. But, I wouldn't feel bad enough to date him. It would be horrible for both people then, being in a relationship you don't really want to be in. If you don't actually feel attracted to someone you shouldn't date them. You shouldn't have to force feelings for someone just so they can be happy. Because their happiness will come at the price of your own. You'll both just figure it out later that you shouldn't be together and that you don't really work as a couple. Even if you sound great together on paper, it just may not be meant to be. Mutual attraction is very important.

Anonymous · Answer

I feel bad, and it hurts me to hurt a guy (if I see that the guy is genuine, and not just after me for sex) but I never feel guilty. I don't owe him anything. And it's better for me to reject him right away rather than to let him think he has a chance when I've really never been interested in him or attracted to him.
But yeah, I know what rejection feels like, and it's never comfortable to do that to another person, guy or girl.

Anonymous · Answer

Your poll options are a bit too extreme. I wouldn't feel bad for rejecting him, but I wouldn't be like "oh finally this idiot's outta the way" either. I can't do anything to change the fact that I'm not interested. Sure, being rejected sucks, but it's not impossible to get over it.

Alyssab · Answer

It's actually unbelievably hard for me to reject someone because I fear rejection so often myself. Even though it can hurt a lot , as long as she does it carefully and takes your feelings into consideration it's really a blessing. She saves you from having to suffer through a relationship that was never really meant to be, with someone who doesn't totally want to be with you. It's mich more painful to be rejected by someone after months or years of dating then it is when she rejects you right up front. It is heartbreaking for me to turn someone down , especially when they have taken a risk and put themselves out there but try to keep in mind they may be doing you a favor by just being honest up front.

Belle_Fatale · Answer

I would not feel bad. And you shouldn't either.
You can't help the way you feel, just like they can't help that they like you.
They are having the courage and strength to tell me they like me, I need to have the courage and strength to tell them if I don't feel the same way.
It would be worse I feel to just kind of accept it and then lead them on, if I already know its not gonna go anywhere. That could be time they could spend coming to terms with my feelings, rather than spending all those weeks/months thinking I like them back, and then being blind sided when I suddenly say 'I don't and just didn't know how to tell you'.

Kaylove96 · Answer

I don't know if I've experienced it without dating but I know with break up where I break up with a guy, I don't know if it brings feeling bad but it makes me nervous and get this weird feeling. A few years ago I had a boyfriend that I dated 4 times just because he kept really liking me and it was a lot of pressure on me and I saw him going and crying when I'd break up with him. And when I noticed that it made me feel weird and not so good, and I thought 'oh crap! What do I do now? Are you serious?'

Anonymous · Answer

I actually rejected this guy like 5 times, but i didn't really reject him i just told him he was only a friend to me. But during this year i gave him a chance and he is currently my boyfriend. And a very good one. My advice, give them a chance after the 3rd time if they ask

Anonymous · Answer

In my experience, it hurts the most to reject someone who is your friend. When you just want a friend to be a friend, but they want something more, it complicates things.
You have options:
A) Try to make it work and see where it goes because you dont want to hurt your friend... but this is kind of leading them on, especially if you know it'll end soon. You'll just hurt them more later
B) Tell them its not a good idea. You hurt your friend and the friendship.

Which is worse?

If it's not a friend my policy is to agree to ONE date. If someone has the nerve to ask you out you should at least try. Don't commit for a relationship. Just go on one date.

Anonymous · Answer

I'll be brutally honest, it depends on the girl. Some girls don't feel bad at all because they're too stuck up and happy to be rid of a guy but other girls do feel bad. I feel bad rejecting guys when they flirt or ask me because to me if a guy has enough courage to bring it to your attention they're brave so yeah I feel bad because it took him a lot of effort to ask me in the first place. But it's better than leading a guy on. You'll know if she feels bad by her reaction. If she answered quickly and seemed uncomfortable she doesn't feel bad but if she took her time she feels terrible. Don't ever let a girl rejecting you bring you down, you're brave for bringing it up.

Anonymous · Answer

Honestly, it didn't feel good to reject someone. But the thought of leading him on even further would drive someone crazy. You wouldn't think it is morally right in a way, and at the same time you dont want to hurt him, because you did not ask the guy to like you. Oh well, relationships are complicated. If one comes by, grab the opportunity, if not, dont go out of your way to start one, it probably wouldn't end up well.

Anonymous · Answer

I get a thrill out of it. I used to be rejected all the time in High School and my early 20s because I was overweight and ugly. Now I'm this and beautiful and I feel like every time I reject a guy that I'm getting back at those who hurt me. Rejecting feels amazing. 😊

Anonymous · Answer

I had to tell a guy who really like me that I wasn't into him. The timing was off I was too insecure and was depressed as fuck. He was really hurt and I felt terrible about it. I just kept thinking of his face everytime I said I wasn't into him the way he was into me.

TheMarble · Answer

I would feel bad because its one thing to like someone and another to actually have enough balls to tell that person how hou feel about them. I would reject a guy in the nicest way possible though, cause it sucks

Part6fam · Answer

I mean you would feel bad for him since he built up the courage to ask and it was a sweet thing for him to do, but nobody should feel guilty for rejecting someone. If you don't feel someone attractive u cannot really force yourself to like them. The person being rejected will live it will be just a temporary sting until they find someone worth their time.

justbanANNAz · Answer

worst feeling in the world if i know he's genuine about it.  if he's some ass, i could not feel less sympathy.

JodieT · Answer

OMG I'm seriously shocked, looking at the poll guys don't seem to really care! May seem obvious to some but given my background... well OMG. How horrible, really. I can only assume either a) typical guys are emotive idiots or b) they're answering out of some misguided macho image thing! How can you not care? Maybe the poll is wrong?

Moon1976 · Answer

If I am not attracted to the person, then I can't feel bad about rejecting them. I understand the guy may be bothered by the rejection, but that is just a lesson that needs to be learned. Sometimes guys think that they can get any women they want and are completely confident about it. So a rejection is one way of nature telling them not to be into themselves. Also I can't stand guys who have constantly felt rejected most of their life to have an attitude with a women because she isn't attracted to them. My neighbor is one of those guys. You can tell he's the type that can't get many girls to like him. So when he sees me, it seems like he's expecting me to like him and since I don't show any signs of finding him attractive, he acts like an asshole.

DesprateToBeCreative · Answer

I don't usually really care if I dump someone, for the fact it was MY choice and it had MY feelings involved; you do not owe anyone any commitment just because you were dating. This goes to boys too -- don't make someone ashamed that you dumped them, but make sure to explain that this was YOUR choice and these were YOUR feelings involved.

MaskedSanity · Answer

I only feel bad about rejecting a guy, if he was nice about approaching me.

If he acted all entitled and then got pissy with being rejected, not only do I not feel bad, I'll also make sure to ridicule the asshole.

But, to be completely fair - guys that already know me, shouldn't be approaching in the first place, because they know I'm already with someone. So in that instance I can't really feel bad, because they brought that rejection on themselves.

next_veronica_roth · Answer

I would definitely feel bad if I rejected a guy who really liked me. I actually have, sadly enough. My best friend asked me out after liking me for about a year. I said no because it felt wrong. He got over it though, so everything turned out alright

tiredtheatre · Answer

I had this one guy who said he was in love with me after three days of flirting. I turned him down and then he started saying things like, "God damnit I messed up.. I messed everything up.. I'm so stupid.. I'm such an idiot what the hell is wrong with me." He did it right in front of me too. It made me feel like a horrible person.

DragonWolf · Answer

Yeah, because this guy was really nice, and i used to have feelings for him too, but then some stuff changed... So when he asked me i said no, i really felt bad about it, but it was the right choise for me.

Ishtar · Answer

I do feel bad and do appreciate the guys who take the effort to express interest. However you have to be cruel to be kind sometimes, if I don't reject him I will be leading him on and wasting both my time and his time.

Christine888 · Answer

All the time!!! Most people don't want to hurt anyone intentionally. We all know how it feels to be the one who cares more and being that person is rather them be honest so I do my best to do the same. It's easier to be let down then lead on.

JenRen444 · Answer

When it comes to rejecting someone even though you wish not to hurt anyone's feelings, it comes down to this--we only have one life, and I would prefer to be single and happy than to be with someone that I did not feel the same way about. I have been in that situation and even though it crushed the other person's heart-meaining that I did not feel the same way they did about me, I knew that they would be better off with someone who loved them with their whole heart and soul. Luckily, I was right. This person is now happily married. Their happiness is all I ever wanted.

Kait365 · Answer

I always feel bad, sometimes more than I really should. I am the type of person who takes things to heart and I absolutely hate hurting people. If I do, I feel awful about it to the point of making myself sick, even if they were an asshole.

redrose777 · Answer

Yeah I'd feel a bad for the guy, much more so if he was polite and didn't pull the 'friend zoned' card but ultimately id hope he could respect my decision and not pester me about it. So yeah, I'd feel sorry for the guy but that wouldn't convince me to date him

miserybusiness · Answer

If I didn't like him back then honestly... no lolol. I know it's mean, but I don't usually feel bad. I've rejected a shitload of people so it doesn't affect me. I try to be gentle though... since I know what it's like to be on the opposite end too.

Danosaurus-Rex · Answer

HATE IT HATE IT HATE IT. Depending on how long he had liked me for its still horrible. but rejecting someone who had liked me for 3 years was the worst. I felt hurt that i hurt him

Mineral · Answer

Really it depends on the situation. If they are a nice person to me then I will feel bad and sometimes feeling bad for someone has gotten me into some shit relationships. On the other hand if he is obsessed then I am afraid to reject him. If he is a dick then I might enjoy rejecting him. Then there is the creepy kid who says you "friend zoned" him which I love rejecting because I loathe them and want them out of my face.

Anonymous · Answer

It's weird, because I hate hurting people, and some time after I've done it, the sadness and a bit of guilt sets in. But the times when I have rejected someone, were because I changed my mind about the guy, and all I wanted to do then was get out and away from the guys as fast as possible! It makes me feel really anxious and cringey if I'm with them or don't want to be. But as I said, once I've moved on myself, I think about how they must be feeling/ have felt, and feel bad. But then again, I've been rejected plenty of times, and I'm pretty sure the guy's never felt bad about it, judging from how generally vile they are to me

Anonymous · Answer

Whether I would feel bad or not would depend for example. There have been guys that I have rejected but I don't feel bad because they still keep bothering me even after that. Doing things like flirting with me touching me in a way that makes me feel uncomfortable. Otherwise, I would feel bad especially if he's a guy who has really sensitive emotions.

misscoffeehead · Answer

Yes of course, doing such things like that does bother me. But you know the funny thing is, when I do let them off "nicely" they seem to creep back, and do what they have been doing before, till I remind them once again "no I'm not interested in you in that way" do you guys just forget or something? Or try harder the next time round

kittykatg · Answer

Of course we feel bad. No one likes being the bad guy or rejecting people if we do find them to be good people, just not for us.

CoralBlue · Answer

I can't vote cause I don't feel like any of those options relate to me XD first of all, I've never been asked out by a guy so I've never been able to reject one. Second, if I did get asked out and I rejected him, I would maybe feel a little guilty at first, but I mean, if I don't like him, I simply don't, done. XD

kimful475 · Answer

I occasionally feel so bad I cry. Especially, if I have a crush on him but being the shy, weird person I am prefer being a loner... Because of this I normally warn a guy before hand that they can be a friend but closer than that and I might end up hurting us both. My excuse is I was hurt once and the relationships around me don't tend to last long or end well. So I rather being laid back and safe than sorry.

Tala19 · Answer

Well it depends... if the guy seems nice then rejecting him would probably make me feel bad about rejecting him, but it wouldn't make me feel like I am a bad person. On the other hand, if someone annoys me asks me out, I would probably just get annoyed with him more but lol that's just me :)

rainquel · Answer

I hate rejecting people because I'm afraid of hurting them. But, you can't not reject them because it could lead to hurting them even more. I think the best thing is to be very kind and gentle, because that is the easiest way to feel like you've done the least amount of damage.

Kenken5145 · Answer

It's really hard to reject a guy who really likes you. I had a friend who was obvious about how much he liked me and he found out some stuff that I told my sister about him being really awkward and it was really difficult. I felt awful for hurting him but that was a year ago and now he's fine and we still talk. I would think that most girls feel bad about it if he is obvious about his feelings.

Musichl · Answer

I rejected this guy recently and for a little bit I was upset, but then I realized that I never really liked him and that he would have actually felt even worse if he knew I was only dating him because I pitied him or because I felt bad about rejecting him so I think in the end rejection isn't necessarily bad, but it's the way in which you reject somebody that can make a big differencd

titi2000 · Answer

As a girl I resently just rejected someone that really liked and I felt supper bad but I was just not ready for a relationship where I needed to be committed it was sucky cause I wanted to say yes but my heart was telling me to say no but I still felt really really bad

Booklover96 · Answer

Yes, when I turn someone down it's not to be mean. I have friend that really likes me and I've turned him down. Sometimes I try to be someone that he wouldn't like to make it easier on him. If you get turned down, it's not the end of any possible romance you could of had. It just means there's someone out there better for you. You just gotta push on. Rejections suck. Girls wonder the same about guys. We feel bad. As for the girls that disagree, well they have their own reasons.

jvantussel · Answer

Yes, every time. I haven't rejected that many guys, but the ones I have rejected I felt really bad. Whether they were my friend or not, I just knew it wouldn't work out and/or I wasn't looking for a relationship. When I was in high school years ago, I probably rejected more guys because I never wanted to date in high school as I knew it would least likely work out. I do feel bad because I've been rejected too, so I know how it feels when you think it could really work and it doesn't.

brainybeauty · Answer

I used to feel bad about it, but after it happens a few times, I asked myself "Would you rather feel bad for him for fr myself, if I end up with a guy I don't even like?"
As upset and hurt as you may be, would you really wanna be with someone who's only with you out of pity?

StarlaMia · Answer

I always felt terrible when i had to reject a guy. I would think about it for days and days just tryn to see if there could of been a better way to of told him nicer no. I would feel so bad cuz i would t feel the same back. I've been rejected back in middle school but i can still remember it like yesterday. In the end rejection makes us stronger and wiser in asking someone else in the future;)

RayBæ · Answer

I feel horrible afte rejecting someone especially if they are really really nice guys and they dont have much goin for them. I got asked out by my bes friend's best friend and he is such a nice kid but like... not really dateable ya feel? Anyway, my best friend got really mad when i rejected him, but I felt horrible. I really hate rejecting people, because I feel their pain, like heartbreak sucks
I know

Hannah235 · Answer

Ugh yes! Rejected the sweetest guy over New Years and I felt sooo bad! He's shy and has never had a girlfriend so I think it took a lot of guts to go for me. I feel like I ruined his life, even though if I had gone out with him I would have eventually broken up with him so I didn't want to start anything. One of the worst things I've had to do in my life. I don't want to have to do it ever again.

memeisI · Answer

It depends. If he approached me in a filthy manner then definitely no. However, I use to feel bad for guys whe approached me in a nice manner. Now that I have matured I really don't care because I realized that as humans we are pretty strong & we will get over it. If he made a crush his world I guess I dodged a bullet because no one should be the reason why you want to exist everyday. I do however understand the devastation but he will get over it.

amethyst26 · Answer

Yes, and no. I feel bad because it does hurt to be rejected, but I can't help that I'm not into him. It's better to honestly tell him you're not interested than to lead him on.

Mookinsx · Answer

I felt bad, I knew how much he liked me and I felt the same but going into a relationship wasn't a good thing for me at the time. I haven't lost him. He's gunna wait till I'm ready

xxANAZARAxx · Answer

I did and didn't at the same time lol. I felt bad because most times I cared for them just not in the same sense. Then I realized I shouldn't feel bad because at least I was upfront with them. I never teased them or anything. It was unfortunate but at least I didn't lead them on.

Bl00d-Bite · Answer

Actually no. I don't feel bad rejecting someone that I don't have feelings about (Besides the guy was getting to personal with me to fast and I did't like it and felt like he was invading my space--and I am crushing on someone else).

For me as long as I'm crushing on someone else, I'm really not going to feel bad about rejecting them. ^-^

HimeAngie91 · Answer

It happened to me once when a really great guy was interested in me and I saw the signs and heard from his friends that he was into me but I just wasn't attracted to him. I felt so horrible but I acted like I just didn't get it and I totally friend zoned him! It happened a year or so ago and I still feel horrible. I see him sometimes and it's pretty awkward but we still talk.

Zwingster_Girl · Answer

About two months ago I had rejected a guy. I felt really bad about it but it would have been worse if I didn't tell him to move on. Besides the guy I rejected was a player so I didn't want to be with him.

lillylonghair · Answer

I would feel really bad mostly because if I liked a guy soo much that I was willing to tell himand have the guts to tell him how I feel, him rejecting me would crush my confidence and maybe even my image of this person.
The guy should just remember that even though a girl rejected him she won't feel sorry at least if he becomes a creep or starts acting like a jerk...

popperdopper · Answer

I think the worst part is rejecting someone, because I have always been the type to have someone else reject me, and in all honesty if this was a guy I really didn't like to begin with , I'd be glad to get him out of my way. On the other hand, you can have a different situation where I really like some guy, and reject him. That is when I feel worse. And it's not beacause I didn't like him, it was because my family or friends couldn't accept him. Either way, It still hurts in any situation.

MissMojo · Answer

I really hate rejecting someone and feel very bad about it afterwards (and sometimes even end up crying over it, because I know rejection sucks)... especially if I consider him a 'good' and genuine guy who would make great boyfriend material. I'm totally different when it comes to rejecting some asshole who's just looking for a good fuck though!

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