Girls, do you ever feel bad for rejecting a guy who really liked you? (Page 3)

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If he actually had the guts to say it flat out face to face with you? I know I'd be really hurt and frustrated if a girl rejected me, and if I had to reject a girl who really liked me. I just want to know what you girls think. Give your opinions on this.

ssmith · Answer

I don't know of anyone who actually enjoys rejecting someone. It's no fun to do, but try to think of it this way- would you really want someone going out with you who isn't into you? It's best to find that out as early on as possible so you don't waste anymore time on that person- time to move on and find someone who IS into you! It's better the girl decline your advances than to intentionally mislead you because they don't have the heart (or the courage) to politely decline.

oliverscottsykes · Answer

I'm not the kind of girl that guys fall for, so I've never had to go through that. But I know that if I did, I'd feel so bad. Because it's happened to me so I know how it feels.

LoveSlipstream · Answer

Sometimes I feel bad but I also got to respect my self. If I'm not comfortable being his GF and want to be just friends I have to let him know ASAP and before he gets the wrong idea.

angel2u · Answer

I know they hate to hear the:I'm flattered but we're just friends&I like it like that. But in all honesty, we are friends and I'm flattered that he was brave enough to speak on his feelings even without knowing if they're reciprocated. All relationships start from friendship, once it's out in the open, if he stays acting ye sane as before I'd definitely keep him in mind. For one, maybe I didn't know he felt that way

marshmallows · Answer

I feel like a really shitty person for doing that to him. I respect people who can be honest with me and tell me how they feel in person, but if I didn't feel the same way it wouldn't be fair for him or me. I know by rejecting him I hurt him and I feel terrible for doing that. But he will heal and he will find another girl that will feel the same way.

mtomitz0 · Answer

Hi,

When I was single I always felt bad rejecting a guy who I can tell likes me but I won't feel as bad when I admit to them the truth that I didn't feel a connection. Some women feel it's a great idea to ignore their texts or make up some lie but I was always honest which made it easier, although it still hurt them.

spinspanspun · Answer

It depends on whether or not I already have feelings for someone else. Especially if this person already knew I had feelings for someone else. I shouldn't feel obligated to lead someone on just because they like me. That's not fair. So no, I wouldn't feel bad. I'd just be honest and thank them for having the courage to tell me and then kindly tell them I don't feel the same way. I guess I'm just calloused because I always get rejected. Just recently I had the courage to tell a guy I really liked him and he said he wants to be friends because he doesn't know what he wants. However he did say I was cute and really cool to hang out with. But he really felt bad and he said that like 10 times. I just didn't understand though. I thought he really liked me. Anyway. Some people feel bad, don't.

xangai · Answer

I always feel bad, but it's much better to be honest with him and tell him "No" rather than be nice and string him along... that is way worse.. for both parties

amysuewho · Answer

Honestly, it depends. It depends on how he has treated me, and yes my attraction to him. 90℅of the time, I really do feel bad. The other 10℅ of the time, there definitely is a reason.

nolifenacey1787 · Answer

Its all on how the guy asks if he just front up like no "passion" to it then not really but if he really sweet And blushing and stuff then yeah but there nothing I can do about it if i don't have the same feelings. Besides if I were to drag the guy on through a fake relationship that probably would've hurt him more in the long run. P. s. if suddenly she likes you when your with some one els she probably doesn't like you she's just jealous

dream-runner14 · Answer

I do usually feel bad, but it wouldn't be good for either of us for me to not have feelings for him and fake it. That would result in more hurt than just turning him down right off.

langleafy · Answer

Well... It kind of depends on who he was to me. If it was a stranger who was saying it on a whim: then I don't really care. If it's someone I hated but knew he was genuine: I wouldn't really care (this happened 2x before...). If it's a friend who was genuine: I'd feel bad but act the same as always after to avoid awkwardness.

it really just depends

VetteGirl · Answer

... feel bad about it because it's happened to me before but if that person isn't for you, he's better off knowing right away than getting strung along after a few teases here and there.

luna1608 · Answer

I never felt guilty for telling him that I don't feel the same. I was nice about it. But why should anyone feel bad about rejecting someone they're not attracted to?

kself311 · Answer

i had to reject em, cause we're both married it made me cry alittle but I had no choice I tried to talk to him since then but I still get the strong feelings he works at a cab company

mixedvixen77 · Answer

I usually feel a bit guilty because most of the men that have approached me are very sweet. I have a boyfriend (not a lie lol) and I try to keep the rejection lighthearted so I just say something like "While I do appreciate being asked out I can't go out with you because I have a boyfriend. I'm sorry, but thank you." I'm never cruel ( unless he is being a jerk) when I reject someone because it's really brave to put yourself out there and approach someone you are interested in.

kerriganj1313 · Answer

I would feel bad even though I did reject him. But when you put yourself in that position you should know things aren't going to go your way it might but still expect everything. Anyway I would feel bad cause once they tell you how they feel about you to you, you can't look at them the same. So it feels bad rejecting them.

Pisces73 · Answer

As someone who has been rejected in the past the last thing I ever wanted to do was rejected someone else, but eventually it happened. I met a man and we went on a couple of dates, and while he was a really nice man we just didn't have a lot in common and the chemistry just want there, I tried telling him gently that we made better friends. Long story short I ended up hurting him and my friends will bring it up once in a while as joke and it still bothers me, because I know he must have felt.

alliiieeee10 · Answer

Yes I would feel bad for rejecting a man who had feelings for me. Although I can't let that change my decision. I would have to remember that even though I feel bad I can't be with someone who isn't right for me, and that I would cause more harm than good by leading him on to spare his feelings.

SaNiMa · Answer

I would only feel bad depending on why I rejected him. If it was because I wasn't attracted to him, no, I wouldn't feel bad because that would be a "burden" in a sense. If it was because I had my eye on someone else, I would "remember" that guy who really liked me if things didn't work out. But at the end of the day, I wouldn't feel bad for rejecting someone I felt was worth letting go, I'd feel bad for slapping myself in the face. H wouldn't know that though... Lol

human_condition · Answer

Of course, we're not robots. Personally I know how being rejected by someone you love feels and it's the worst pain ever, but both sides need to understand it's sometimes for the best.

princessangel · Answer

I hate it. Its not cool but you have to do it. It hurts me more to not know what is happening than if someone told me the truth. So I do the same to them. But I feel bad. The only time I don't feel bad is when a guy just can't take no for an answer and makes a nuisance of himself to the point where I have to call the cops. Then its like hell no.

Gigi78 · Answer

Nope. Embarrassed for one who just didn't understand I wasn't attracted to him. Having the guts to tell someone that you like them doesn't make the other person attracted to you automatically. There's gotta be an almost tangible 'vibe' on both sides. Don't sweat it, these things come naturally.

Luvbug78 · Answer

I don't care bc I was annoyed by him. But then as time goes by I realize how much he cared and then I miss him and I want him. Of course by the time I realize that it's too late

DontDropIt · Answer

I've never rejected someone who really liked me. I always gave them a chance and I always will. That's just the kind of person I am.

elizabeth2000 · Answer

I did a horrible thing to this boy I was 11 and I think he was 11 too. I thought I like him I would give signs that I liked him. And I would do flips in front of him. Anyway one day he gave me this heart card. Well being 11 it felt really weird and at that moment I didn't like him. I asked my friends what should I do? And they said I should tear up the card and put it back in the card case. Well my friend went to the other room where he was at, and gave it to him. She said he face turned really red. After she did that I felt really sick for doing that. So then me and my friend made a card that I think said I love you. It's been three years and I still feel really bad for what I did. I wish I haven't had done it.

xoxocaxoxo · Answer

Well I would never lie to a guy who likes me if I don't like him back, but I would still respect and appreciate his feelings

Pixie09 · Answer

I have been rejected, I know how it feels. I seriously feel bad when I tell someone that I am just not into them like that.

Anonymous · Answer

I think that I will always feel bad for rejecting someone even if I have no feelings for them. But what I think guys don't understand is that we don't ever forget them. I'll always remeber a boy who comes out and says how he feels about me because that takes courage. And it's also a huge compliment to hear that someone likes you. But at the same time I can't just say yes to the guy because I feel bad. Cause that wouldn't be fair to him when there's a girl out there somewhere who can love him more than I can. So yeah rejecting a guy hurts me because I want him to be happy, but in order for that to happen he has to be with someone who likes him back.

kezytrouble · Answer

I hate rejecting because I know how it feels to be rejected by someone you love. But unfortunately that's the way we live and Learn

itsme_goodsamaritan · Answer

Very much. That's why I keep talking about my BF more often than not, though I really don't want to do it. I'd rather forewarn them than hurt them.

babydollface · Answer

I feel super duper sad when I reject guys. I find it really hard to do it even sometimes, particularly when the guy and I are good friends. Sometimes there is just no nice way to do it, and I just feel terrible, it is awful to feel like you are breaking someone else's heart, particularly if they are a perfectly nice person, but just not the one for you.

DestinyAngel3132 · Answer

I don't think I could reject anybody honestly. I'd feel so ashamed and guilty if I rejected him so I'd probably go and say: " I'm sorry for what I said earlier. If you really want to maybe we could try it?" And then play along for a while and see what happens.

saandraaa · Answer

I'll feel really bad because the guys who really like me are really kind and caring, they'd do anything I'd ask for and welli never know what to say when i reject them, theyre really kind and rejecting them is just sad

SamiDunlap · Answer

Yes, I always feel badly because I know just how much rejection can hurt.

Whiterun · Answer

I'd totally feel fucked up... Yesterday I had to reject a guy I'm really close with and I felt awful because I know that he really cares about me, really likes me and even though the things he said was amazing, I had to reject him because I only like him as my friend, maybe even my bestfriend... I couldn't just give him false hopes and keep him waiting you know, that's just not me. So I just told him what I feel about this situation, he said it was okay and stuff but I know he wasn't okay at all... I seriously felt so fuckin bad. But you know I just felt like its just best to be honest than giving false hope. So, I'd feel so bad, I just really hate reject people ffs
Anyway I hope my opinion helps :/

OrdinaryLoner · Answer

If he is a good guy, then definitely I would feel bad. But if keeps persisting, I would just think he is annoying.

CLASSICDUH · Answer

I am the type of girl who likes to give everyone a chance. So no, I would feel completely awful if I rejected someone.

Idontkissandtell · Answer

I feel bad, because I'm that type that doesn't like hurting a person's feelings... it's makes me feel guilty

ovodm · Answer

Some people can handle rejection better than others and there's no telling how they really feel even if they don't show it so it would be hard.

SabyToes · Answer

I dont think the feeling of guilt would last long for me mainly because i rejected them for a reason i dont like/care about them.

D0llface · Answer

I have always felt really bad rejecting guys no matter the circumstance. I continuously feel guilty although I know it's not my fault I don't have feelings for him and i have ways thought its better to let him down before we got further involved. The issue is I always feel guilty enough that I want to try and talk to him again afterwards because I miss that connection despite the lack of emotions invested.

On the opposite side of the spectrum I've never been blatantly rejected. Sure I've been ignored until a relationship/conversation tapers off but I've never been flat out told "I don't like you like that and this isn't going to work out" sort of thing

Either way it sucks, whether you are the rejectee or the rejector. It's never easy in the moment, or even moments AFTER the moment. But with time moving on is necessary and comes more easily

ZestyMarmots · Answer

It hurts, especially if you're friends with them. I try concentrating on not hurting them more in stead of feeling guilty all the time.

omegofthepack · Answer

I try to be as honest as I can it may hurt him right then but if my heart doesn't burn there too I'm saving us both from longer and worse pain

crystal2 · Answer

I second guess myself and wonder if I should have kept the lunch date to see if there was still a spark there. We were high school sweethearts, but over 40 years ago! You change so much from being a teenager. From the little communication we had I didn't see where we had anything in common. Also, we both hurt each other at different times. There is history and I think it complicates things. I feel so bad today for telling him not to contact me again yesterday. Unfortunately for me, one of the great traumas of my life was when he rejected me. I suppose that is my problem that I still have bad dreams about it and have always felt there is something wrong with me. My body has held on to that trauma all these years.

CJ1234 · Answer

Women want to be desired and we appreciate men being men and pursuing us. If I reject someone, I am straight with them! I wouldn't feel guilty because you always have to look after yourself first. If I'm not feeling it, it's not personal , it's just not for me. There's either a spark or not - simple!! The only way someone could ever feel guilty is if you've been leading someone on by flirting and teasing them with no real interest behind it. And rejection is awful. Especially if someone is indecisive with you. But I always remind myself they are doing me a favour by not wasting my precious time! Best way in regards to both sides of rejection is to: be clear, assertive and courteous!

bodycolge · Answer

I can relate because there's this guy at work who told me that he he liked me. But I am afraid that I hurt him. In his eyes he probably felt that I rejected him? But I didn't I allowed the powers that be dictate to me what I should do? I had even heard people say I can't believe that "he likes her" because I am a big woman , and he is such a beautiful guy. If I could I would tell him that I love him. So yes it does hurt. So I would say don't just say things but back them up with actions? Because maybe the person wasn't rejecting you before you could reject them?

Alashay13 · Answer

Yes because I knew he liked me and I liked him. The thing is was that we were both using each other to forget the hurt we felt from other people. So, in a way I don't feel bad because we both did the same thing to each other. As of right now, we're good friend and I've given him lots of advice on relationships.

HeyItsSamGirl · Answer

Honestly it depends on who he is. Because I'm not gonna give anyone the time of day if your just plain nasty. But if your a nice guy and if I just don't like you I will tell you straight up, "like sorry but I'm just not attracted to you". Because at the end of the day it's not really gonna come down to how he feels, it's gonna come down to how you feel about the situation. Its a eat or be eaten world.

changes1028 · Answer

If a guy flat out tells me how he genuinely feels about me but I don't feel the same way, I tell him the truth. And yes, I feel bad about it and it sucks but it's better that he knows than me not telling him and giving him hope. That way he can process everything and move on and find a girl who feels the same way.

I was on the other side too. I told a guy how I felt but he never told me how he really felt. He just went along with it and strung me along until I eventually figured out that he really didn't want a relationship with me. So I moved on. It would have been better if he told me from the beginning so I wouldn't have spent my wasting time on someone who didn't feel the same way.

kimmythebomb · Answer

I always feel bad. But I also think it better to tell him straight up in the long run then let him think he has a chance. And honestly even if his feelings were really and went beyond physical attraction, how would I know? All the guys tell u the same thing! The ones that aren't trying to get in your pants and the ones that do.

Marshmello_22 · Answer

Well, I've been in this situation and I kept saying no but I'd feel bad because the last time he tried after almost a year, he gave me flowers and I said no. He drove off while I stayed with a group of friends (he did it in front of everybody), his sister told me he must have been crying. I felt really bad

Needtobwiser313 · Answer

Yes I felt very bad but tried my best to be as kind as possible. I never ignored them when they contacted me and would always try to say things that might help them feel better to move on to someone who was right for them. I've been on the other end with guys and they don't seem to be as kind. They dumped me cowardly and coldly with no explanation and stopped all contact and would be back on a dating site the next second. They lied, used me and dumped me all to get their own needs met with total narcissism. I'd like to know how that's humanly possible to do that to another or are these men not really human but walking flesh with no feelings.

Virgin1 · Answer

If I don't like back a guy who likes me, I make sure not to encourage him from the beginning by not sending mixed signals. It's sort of a way that clears my conscience if he persisted & forced me to be blunt in saying that I don't like him back. But it still feels a little bad because it reminds you of yourself when you used to be in a similar situation. We've all been rejected at some point. Don't feel bad hun, you're so young & will have countless opportunities ahead of you. All the best in your future choices

Mrijken100 · Answer

I've rejected guys before, and yeah it sucks but I'm not going to change my feelings around, and why? well because even if I could imagine him telling me, and then actually thinking about it, but feeling like it's not going to work out or if I don't feel I could feel the same way I will reject him. It does, but it's you feel, and there are still plenty of other girls out there. I know a lot of guys who get friendzoned and I feel sorry for them, I don't know if it's how they present themselves which no one should ever have to change for someone else. Also guys have told me that they like me but in the end I just don't feel the same and probably never could, and that's life, it sucks, but you just gotta do what you feel is best.

TwoFeetStanding · Answer

I had to do this yesterday. The guy was really into me. I had just accepted a request to be someone's girlfriend. It's really hard. I liked him. But I care more about the other person and I'm one of those monogamous people. I don't think it's fair to date two at one time and be leading someone on. I'd rather be outspoken, say it as it is, free them up so they can have another chance in the future at love. If I wasn't the one... someone else may be. It's for their benefit, more than it's for mine.

Lawgrl12 · Answer

Not wanting to hurt another is often why women stick around or try to let a guy down gradually. There's no such thing as an easy breakup or way to reject someone that isn't going to hurt. Some of my biggest mistakes and failures in past relationships have to do with not being straight with a man right away about how Im feeling because I don't want to hurt them. Dragging a doomed relationship out hoping to find the perfect solution or time to break it off does not work and makes It that much harder and painful when it all finally blows up. It's also why women are often accused of leading men on, even though their intent is the opposite. Telling him what's up promptly and in a calm, caring manner is the best approach and can often preserve a future friendship. It's hard and not fun to cause another pain, but you're going to regardless and it will get exponentially worse the longer you wait to do it. Think about how you'd feel if the roles were reversed.

SarcasticQueenie · Answer

I feel really horrible after rejecting a guy or girl because I understand the courage it takes to tell someone you like them. I always feel hurt for rejecting that person but, I sometimes think it's better than leading the person on and making feel like this is going somewhere when I don't reciprocate their feelings. I'd rather tell them from the beginning than holding it to the end when things have become more complicated and serious and the rejection/break-up hurts even more

Nadidarleen · Answer

Yes. Every single time. It hurts me to do so coz I know what it feels like and you just have to do what you have to do. sometimes When I find out a guy likes me I tend to push them away because I'm a mess and it's something I'm not proud of and I'm trying to change it. My point is, yes it hurts rejecting someone but I believe there's a reading for everything. I don't exactly know if I'm making sense but hope I helped.

tadagirl · Answer

i would'nt feel bad i they don't deserve to be rejected rejection is a natural human response that can cause us to reflect or view our selfs as unworthy, hence ugly, poor, repulsive etc unless were taught by the social relations we've had with others to have high self regards, image and esteme then it wouldn't hurt any one to be rejected.
But on the other hand we reject someone as we agree with our selfs, meaing our own choices, views and attitudes and this is from having high self esteme again one more.
So rejection is healthy human attitude and should not be reproached hence don't feel bad when rejected don't feel bad to reject.

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