Girls, do you ever feel bad for rejecting a guy who really liked you? (Page 4)

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If he actually had the guts to say it flat out face to face with you? I know I'd be really hurt and frustrated if a girl rejected me, and if I had to reject a girl who really liked me. I just want to know what you girls think. Give your opinions on this.

DivaPrincess · Answer

I never rejected a guy but been rejected plenty? Do guys feel bad for that?

Aradia · Answer

I always feel terrible and I want to console him, but I dont want to give him false hope

Anonymous · Answer

it depends. if I can tell that he genuinely likes me, then I feel kinda bad that I hurt someone. if I can tell that he mainly or only wants something physical then I could care less.

Anonymous · Answer

Lmao like it depends though
Like it's sorta unfair.
What if you didn't really like him so you never pay attention to him?
Sorta my relationship right now.
I'm only with him because we play vidoe games together and I don't wanna get kicked out of the group basically.

kmerri · Answer

I feel terrible and mean because being rejected is extremely hard

Anonymous · Answer

I'm stuck with that feeling right now. I actually don't know how to reject a guy who really likes me I mean.. he's really nice and caring but... there's no physical attraction and I can't help it. I'm already feeling bad by the imagine of me rejecting him...

Anonymous · Answer

Assuming he was genuine, then yes. I would feel horrible. I've had this happen with my close friend and I hate that I had to say no but I can't change the way I feel.

incubuskatz · Answer

yes... i feel just awful and keep thinking about how he feels and it depresses me

belissimaxo · Answer

I don't like being rejected or being the one, who will reject someone. I would at least ty one time and if things don't work out I will tell him that it was fun, but it's better to stay friends and make sure he can always count on me.

Dayyyuuummmmmbae · Answer

Okay, yes some girls come to feel really bad, however, others don't care about how he feels because they didn't like him. I've made that mistake once before and i did regret it as me and him stayed friends and after i really got to know him i started liking him and then had to apolizige and tell him that i liked him! But then again if it is meant to be it will be if it is not meant to be it will not be!

Silkyme623 · Answer

Yes. I'd feel bad. I've had my heart crushed. You have to go through that good enough to humble you to the point where you'd never hurt anyone else's feelings. Cause u know, it's not something you enjoyed.

Mckee · Answer

I would definitely feel terrible about it. But if I had to break up with him there was obviously a reason and I would try my hardest to let him down gently and with care for his feelings because he is also a person and no one should be treated as if they aren't worth your time. And of he genuinely cared for me I would never be so mean as to ignore that he has feelings I would explain to him why we were breaking up and hopefully have a very calm and adult conversation about it.

highonmath · Answer

Yes i do. I feel really bad about it. Because it hurts to be rejected. I am never mean about it tho, and i have been known to help the guy hook up with a friend or other cute girl so he isn't too lonely and it helps the rejection pass by faster. Seemingly.

serenity18 · Answer

I feel bad because being rejected isn't easy for anyone. I hate it when I gather my courage (I'm shy to begin with) to tell a boy I like him and he rejects me. So I don't expect anyone to like it but it sadly is a thing we all have to deal with.

Falling4UTC · Answer

Even if he's a jerk I feel bad. It doesn't matter how the person acts, if they are attracted to me and I do not feel the same, I feel so bad to reject them.

Moose2coolvargas · Answer

What if you built up a friendship with somebody and all of a sudden they don't want anything to do with you? See my question on how effective is an apology for in depth description.. I actually got up from where I was sitting and went and cried. No exaggeration

SavannahGirl27 · Answer

This is my exact situation right now! lol! He is so sweet & a total gentleman, but I'm just not attracted to him... We have loads in common, but I don't feel anything for him, like he does w/ me. We're going on another date this week & if it's not there, I'm going to have to tell him. 😢

Pinkbeauty · Answer

if I were rejected by a guy I don't think I would be upset about it I'd probably would try to move on and stick to being single or find another guy

Dєѕιвσу · Answer

I think... girls forget and move on. They do have an idea it's hurtful but no one can do anything about it.

Imasarcasticlady · Answer

I would reject him if there's no mutual feelings, and yes, I would feel bad afterwards, because It takes a lot for a person to have feelings towards to another.

EthaParez · Answer

Oh yes. I have a boyfriend that I love. So I always do. Usually they are creepy older guys though. No offense. The area I live in has a lot of weird people.

LovableHugs · Answer

It depends on the reasons the guy is interested in me. If a guy likes me just for physical attraction, and not what I have to offer with my mind then he will be rejected. But if he's more interested in things he can't see then he will not be rejected.

5sosWreck · Answer

I mean, it will seem attractive if a guy confronted a girl like that. If he just tells you how he feels, its cute. But if you really dont feel the same way, it's better to reject him than to lead him on.

ThisIsMyUsernam · Answer

373 opinions... Anyone know if a question with more? I think this guy wins most opinions!

HaileighGrace · Answer

Yes. Every time I have rejected someone, I feel so bad. Like when you get rejected, it ruins your self-confidence and it hurts. I always feel guilty after rejecting someone because I know they really liked me.

Cocoa-sama · Answer

Yes rejecting someone sucks and its painful to be rejected, but I'd rather reject someone and be a bitch or whatever, than end up with a guy I don't want and miserable. I've already suffered that once and I will not do it again.

Anonymous · Answer

Honestly, it makes me feel like I just kicked a starving toddler in the face for asking to eat my leftovers... Totally sucks, I hate rejecting guys :(

Nelly-Nell · Answer

I have felt bad, because he really liked me and his feelings were honest and genuine. It made me feel so cruel and heartless so I went up to him, gave him a hug and a peck on the cheek then offered him my friendship

Anonymous · Answer

I know how it feels to be rejected, so of course I feel bad. But if I reject someone it's for a good reason.

TripleChocFrog · Answer

It really depends on the person. Normally, I would feel bad. However, if the guy is unnerving (for example, if he stalks me or is mean), my first reaction is to immediately reject him and not feel bad about it.

Samiantha · Answer

Yes I think most of the girl feel bad , because sometime they want to go out with the person , but for some reason they don't or can't. some girls just do t want to get hurt by the guy. on the other hand some girls don't care if they reject you.

zulpr · Answer

Of course. We do feel bad for him if ever. because we also experience also too if being rejected. We're also human too, you know. So we know how awful it feels. But rejection is also a way for us to realize there's someone out there better for us. :)

keara37 · Answer

Sure, I feel a bit sad for him, but you have to learn to be as kind about it as you can, and accept that you don't bear responsibility for anybody else's feelings. Rejection sucks, but it's a part of life.

VoldemortsPancake771 · Answer

I did feel bad after, but if he really liked me then he should of told me and not everyone else. I hate having other people in my business. And it didn't seem genuine considering he dated all of my friends.

_Evie · Answer

I do feel bad for rejecting him, because I don't want to hurt anyone's feelings.

But ultimately the more quickly you communicate your lack of feelings, and the gentler you are, the faster they get over it.

katebyrd · Answer

Sure it feels bad. But honesty is best. Leading someone on or ignoring them is mean. I've told guys I like them and they've avoided me. That feels terrible. Just say how you feel. Hurts a lot less than being made to feel unapproachable.

0ne0fAkind · Answer

It all depends on why we did reject him. What if we were taken? Had eyes on someone else? Maybe we don't wanna be easy to get. Just make sure reasons are clear.. You'll get it out of her whether she felt sorry or not

asaxearanger · Answer

I always feel bad after I hurt someone, especially someone who really cares about me. I'm the kind that would rather hurt myself on purpose than accidentally hurt someone else, but sometimes you just have to do it.

RealMature39 · Answer

I would feel bad. No one likes to be rejected. Most of the time I only reject those men that come on to strong once I've already said no thank you it almost comes off as pushy and creepy to me. And that is so unattractive!

Charry · Answer

Of course you feel bad when you're forced to reject someone. But you can't force yourself to feel what isn't there. It's somehow a matter of honesty too... it might hurt to reject and be rejected but both parts deserve to love and be loved in return so... it's still for the best.

don3519 · Answer

It's hard, but sometimes it's harder and more unkind to lead someone on, if you know things will never go anywhere with the two of you. Now he is free to move on and find someone that will appreciate him.

dd26om · Answer

I would never hurt on purpose. One can only imagine if it was the other way around how would it feels. I might a few qualities but empathy is definetely one of them.

nickynavsegda · Answer

There was one guy during my first year of college who never flat out admitted that he liked me, but he heavily implied it. I in turn implied that I wasn't interested. It was hard and it was painful, because he was such a nice guy and such a great friend but I just wasn't interested in a relationship at the time. I still wish he was in my life sometimes but him wanting more would always be hanging over our heads. I miss him,

pretty-face4life- · Answer

Absolutely, but unless I had a really good reason to reject someone then I would not. I believe in giving people a chance, or else you could be passing up something really good by being shallow or having a closed mind. It sucks knowing that you hurt someone's feelings. It also hurts giving them a chance and then having to tell them you don't like them after you gave them hope. I think it is best to tell them that you are uncertain of your feelings before agreeing to give them a chance.

hockeychick · Answer

If a guy has the courage to come up to me and ask me out on a date I usually say yes to at least give him a go cause you never know! But when I have rejected someone or broken something off I always feel awful and end up crying because I feel bad.

creative94 · Answer

Cause I an sensitive and caring. So when we break up. I will be sad and regretting breaking up with you. Hoping you didn't so anything crazy.

Anonymous · Answer

Well personally, yes it's a horrible feeling having to reject someone you don't share the same feelings with. It just makes you feel so guilty that this person is going to be so upset because of you, even when you don't want to hurt them (when technically its no ones fault, it's just an unfortunate situation where two people hold different feelings). by the way just going to put this out there, that question should be directed at everyone, male and female. Individuals, regardless of gender are going to answer differently to this question. It's not a matter of "all girls will feel bad" or "all girls won't feel bad", some people are unempathetic and may not feel bad, or if the person who confesses is generally not a nice person that might affect how the other person will feel about the confession it ya feel me

Anonymous · Answer

It's happened to me before, both ways. I told a guy I liked him and we were quite close so he was able to tell me how he felt, he said he felt horrible at the time but he'd rather give me the respect to straight out say how he felt so there was no "leading on" as to say and we're still really close as a result.
There was also a time a guy told me he liked me, and I felt awful rejecting him but if you don't have the same feelings for someone it's best to be honest from the start rather than leading someone on and hurting them even more.

Yes, it can be upsetting but it's best if you're honest with that person from the start.

Anonymous · Answer

I rejected someone less than a week ago for many reasons... and someone I ended up crying... I knew that I had hurt him and that it took so much courage to just tell me his feelings, but it couldn't work out... So yeah I get hurt when I reject someone #weirdperson

Anonymous · Answer

Yes, I felt bad rejecting guys.
I don't remember how many I rejected but one thing to keep in mind though is "How would the guy (s) feel if he /they was/were led on?"
I'd rather tell the truth and explain myself if an explanation is in order rather than be stuck in a lie. If you aren't interested, you aren't interested. People should be with people who would genuinely reciprocate the same attraction/ love/ feelings.
I found out that many of the gentlemen who wished to ask me out / court me actually checked with my elders to know more about me so they may know how to proceed.
I later married my first boyfriend and I hear that the guy (s) I rejected are not doing too bad either.

Anonymous · Answer

Yes, I will feel REALLY bad that I rejected a guy who really (genuinely) liked me. But you need to move on and find someone who's worthy of your love :) Just accept it and keep in mind you deserve better.

DarlingEcho · Answer

I'm kinda stuck in that kind of situation and I feel absolutely terrible. But if my feelings aren't in it why string him along? Yes he'll hurt but he'll also move on

Shadesofpink · Answer

I definitely feel bad and even embarrassed for the one being rejected. It's never an easy thing, especially if that person was under the false impression that the feelings were mutual.

maviswhite · Answer

I usually feel sorry for whoever rejected by me, but not to the extent that I'll be emotional. I had been rejected before but I see it as a lesson that everyone has to learn in life. being rejected also means that something or someone else suits you more that whoever rejected you. There won't always be rainbow after rain, this is why we must treasure whatever we have, not everyone is as fortunate.

Kayla_Marie_ · Answer

I honestly feel terrible for rejecting someone who liked me, because he had the guts to tell me and he was confident about it... and to have me say no... must suck, but yeah I feel bad.

Dm1961 · Answer

Actually I did reject one cut after many attempts. A first he felt pushy. I missed him after a while. So I'm actually thinking I should give him a chance. Mainly because he never gives up

clintonvillegirl · Answer

Of course I would feel bad but if I didn't reciprocate those feelings then I can't lie, some times you just have to think about whether it's good for you or not

fishyface89 · Answer

Of course!! I mean, if there's no feelings for him then there's no feelings for him. Nothing I can do. But I'm always nice about it and don't make it awkward.

Musicrebel440 · Answer

Sometimes. If the guy was a nice person then yeah but if he was rude and didng treat the girl nicely then probably not. Or a nice guy asks a girl who's not nice she might now care

darci96 · Answer

I have rejected a guy and I did feel bad. I felt bad because there was nothing wrong with him, he was a good guy just too old for me (I'm only 18). I never want to make anyone feel bad.

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