Girls, do you ever feel bad for rejecting a guy who really liked you? (Page 5)

Question

If he actually had the guts to say it flat out face to face with you? I know I'd be really hurt and frustrated if a girl rejected me, and if I had to reject a girl who really liked me. I just want to know what you girls think. Give your opinions on this.

kh5050 · Answer

Any normal person would feel bad about hurting another individual. I wouldn't focus all my attention on feeling bad, however I would do my best to be kind about telling the person honestly how I felt.

ChiiChan · Answer

Honestly, this has never happened to me. But, if he had enough courage to tell me his feelings, and if they were genuine.. of course I would feel bad if I couldnt return such feelings >:

Chinadoll44 · Answer

It's always hard telling someone something that's going to hurt but it would be worse to say yes just to know you're going to hurt him worse later on since you aren't interested.

clueslessgirl · Answer

Yes of course! We know how hard it is to approach a girl. Everyone fears rejection and its a horrible feeling to turn a guy down knowing it took him a lot to approach you.

impala667 · Answer

I feel bad because with today's population of strong and independent feminist women, I understand that it takes that much more confidence and risk to ask a girl out, so I feel bad.

Anonymous · Answer

I feel kinda bad, but not guilty. Sometimes you just have to reject people, it just matters how you do it.

SakuraChii · Answer

It depends, I like it when guys approach me alone rather then with a group, I admire that so I feel bad for them but for the rude guys no.

GinaWee · Answer

I felt really bad but what do you expect? I can't care more either..

SallyRox · Answer

That's an open question. Your a guy so, my question to u is...
Which head are u thinking with?
Yes if and when I do, I do feel bad rejecting a friend... However, there's always a reason for my actions.
Other times I do feel bad, bad for him.

Clamtaco · Answer

We all are on that side of the fence at least once in our life and the view is not that pretty. Any one that sends another to that place with enjoyment, well we have all heard about Karma's personality ~

Jayslice · Answer

Honestly,

Of course I would feel horrible. I am a very empathetic person, and I think everyone knows how it feels to like someone that much. It hurts more to know if that someone does not feel the same... which may cause you to feel that these emotions are a waste.

TheWayfaringArt · Answer

I'd feel bad for rejecting him but it's just a lady if it all.

In a relationship you have to be honest with yourself. And if I know it won't work, then you have to put an end to the process because further down the line, it's even harder

snowwhite29 · Answer

The idea of me causing anyone else any pain really upsets me. I treat people the way I want to be treated, but rejection & acceptance is a part of life. If it is me rejecting a guy, I am as careful & gentle as humanly possible.

Andytherese · Answer

I almost always feel bad for rejecting someone because I admire him that he had the guts to ask me on a date or had the guts to tell me how he felt, but I think that if I say yes without feeling the same way I will end hurting him more...

rachel_lee78 · Answer

It sucks.. It's never okay to know that you've emotionally hurt someone. It's also hurts me, because they want something from you that you can't give them, so it is heartbreaking.

KiwiMonster · Answer

Personally I feel bad, like... I remember one time when I had to reject someone when I was a little younger and I felt fucking terrible because they looked like they were about to cry... It felt bad because I just hurt someone, but i can't be in a relationship with them because I don't feel the same. and it makes me wish that I could like them back so I could make them happy but I can't just force myself to like someone.

Anonymous · Answer

I have had too. I mean, a girl is hurt if they are turned down by a guy... Its actually a really hard thing to do considering you liked this person for a (long) time.

MiaWay · Answer

If they really care, yeah, I feel pretty bad. But more often than not they don't genuinely care at all so...

Alexis_lol321 · Answer

I do feel bad because he took the time out of his probably busy day to ask me out! It's sweet but i do feel bad rejecting a guy

Anonymous · Answer

I always feel bad rejecting a guy who genuinely likes me. Because it truest does take so much courage to ask someone out; especially someone who you've like for a long time. And I feel like I'm ruining their day and their confidence because I know that that's why happens to me when I get rejected. It's just the worst thing ever.

Shesverycharlie · Answer

I struggle with this. The right thing to do is be honest with the guy and tell him you're not interested, but I feel very uncomfortable turning someone down, so I will usually give a vague "sure, let's hang out sometime" answer and then never follow through.

Shaymoney98 · Answer

I ALWAYS feel bad rejecting a guy that really liked me. It is one of the worst feelings in the world to know that i made some one upset like that.

curiousty126 · Answer

I would feel bad because he had the guts to say how he feels and for me to just do that would be harsh, not taking his feelings into consideration.

Meg1522 · Answer

I feel horrible when i have to reject someone. i know what it's like to be rejected so i try to be as nice as possible.

notmizu · Answer

Its not that we dont care, unless were super cold-blooded. We love boys, and there's probably a good reason why we say no.

Anonymous · Answer

i'd feel really bad , cause no matter if he is really genuine or if he just had a small crush on that person , he would still get hurt by it. but over all i'd prefer someone who would reject me flat out rather than lead me on.

Anonymous · Answer

I feel really bad because then I feel like I should have given him a chance although I don't know how things would work out. Use the rule of 7 "no's" it may sound desperate but most likely 7 times will either win her over or get a definite no.

Ihatesatan · Answer

I trust my instincts and if I don't like a guy, my response is instantaneous. So, no, I don't feel bad. He'll move on and so will I. Peace!

AllieParsons · Answer

It usually depends one the guy. If he's a nice, caring guy then yes, I'd feel bad. If he's a complete jerk, then I probably wouldn't feel too bad.

LoneWolf88 · Answer

Well I've never been asked but I'm not so cold hearted to not care about the poor guy that has been rejected.

Glitterbug12 · Answer

Persona!! y, yeah. I feel like complete shit after rejecting a guy. But you can't force feelings that aren't there.

tumynaxy · Answer

Yah,., a lot bad,, nd everytime a guy mistreat me or cheat i remember that guy i refused him my heart

Anonymous · Answer

A guy needs the honest truth, then he needs space to learn to deal with it. Sometimes you can be patient and persistent, other times you just need to accept the fact that you are not wanted by this person, then move on to someone that likes you. For me, I reject guys with no problem because I know that the guy I date will eventually become my husband and father of my child. Unless I would consider having a child with a man, I must reject him.

xGreenEyedAngelx · Answer

Any girl with morals would feel bad unless he was a stalker or didn't listen when you tried to let him down easy

Ch0ni3s · Answer

Yes and no. Just remember that there could be a range of reasons. Esp if the girl has a lot going on in life.

Anonymous · Answer

To be completely honest I never feel bad for rejecting most guys because I never know if they truly like me or just want to have sex... but let's just say that they genuinely like me, I still wouldn't feel bad because at least I didn't lie to him.

Anonymous · Answer

I had this situation happen to me about a year ago and when I see the guy at school I always feel sooooooooooo guilty about rejecting him. The situation is definitely awkward and I just want him to know it wasn't personal. If that makes any sense lol

theyoungblonde1999 · Answer

I always feel bad after rejecting someone. I rejected my best friend who I love very dearly, and it broke my heart as much as it hurt his.

anslecha19 · Answer

Well. It all depends on the guy's personality. I guess I always feel a little bad but in the end it's not really my problem so I needn't to worry.

awsumness1 · Answer

It just sucks to have to reject someone like that because most likely we've been in a similar situation and we know how it feels

Anonymous · Answer

I always feel bad. I feel guilty for about a week then I let it go because Im not wasting their time or using them for meals (like my friends). I usually cut off all contact when I find out and then we can be friends again laterrrrr (1 year later)

tati__ · Answer

Depends on how much time I spent with him, but usually no. It's always uncomfortable either way, so I usually keep it short and sweet.

Anonymous · Answer

It depends how well I knew him if I knew him personally I would probably feel bad but if it was a random guy asking me out or what ever I'd feel awkward but get over it

ashoona · Answer

icare but I rejects him withe a good reason not just for how how he wear because I can teach him the small things but for his way on talks with woman's if he respect us or not not if he doesn't I'm going to reject him with a big smile on my face

jayweezy08 · Answer

I would definitely feel bad cause he would have his hopes up on being with me. After being rejected by someone you really like would feel like it's the end of the world cause' now you know you have no chance of being with that person.

HunnieBunnie1 · Answer

For me, it'd really depend on the guy... i. e. was he stalkerish.

Pmjjsgirl · Answer

I personally would feel extremely bad and if i rejected him there would have to be a really good reason. There are not many guys who have the courage to approach a girl and tell her how they feel, so I would have to give him points for that, because that in itself is extremely attractive. So if i ever rejected a guy to his face I'm hoping it was for a good reason, either way, i would still feel bad. Nobody likes to be rejected.

ellisre · Answer

I normally feel really bad. At the end of the day I feel like it is worse to force feelings if I really don't have them but I know how much it sucks to be rejected so I would never want to do it to someone. I would try to be his friend because feelings could change in the future but I definitely don't lead him on

Acacuseme · Answer

Honestly I will feel guilty and sometimes I also cried. coz I know how hurt it is to be rejected by the ones u like and plus if that guy is your friend wow gonna be awkward like what I've be going through right now. I like him but as a friend. I dont want give him hope so I rejected him coz I know if I break his heart after a relationship it would be even harder for him to recover that pain.

ManateeTeaParty · Answer

Of course I'd feel bad, I mean putting myself in their shoes, if I just asked the girl I liked out and got rejected then I'd feel crappy and I hate making other people feel horrible. Though, while I hate making other people feel bad I think it's much nicer to be honest with them from the start and tell them you don't reciprocate their feelings than lead them on for a while and tell them when their feelings have potentially increased!

LadyAfriqa · Answer

I do feel bad if the guy was genuine, to the point that I wish I could reciprocate the same feelings but unfortunately things just do not work like that. Half the time guys are just taking chances so when I do come across one who's simply taking a chance, I sleep peacefully at night.

miwa1 · Answer

no i don't. strait off is better then giving additional hopes i wish men was like that too if you dont see it working then don't play with peoples feelings to me that's worst.

xpurplerainx · Answer

I don't feel bad, it's not the end of the world because someone doesn't like you. I'd rather be honest and tell him right away than waste his time because I felt bad. It's not my fault if I don't like someone in a way they want to be liked. I don't really understand feeling bad about it, I've never expected anyone to feel bad about not wanting to be with me; sometimes it works out how you want and sometimes it doesn't.

LolaT · Answer

I had a situation where this guy was my friend and yes he was good looking, sweet, a gentlemen, and possibly more but I just didn't feel the attraction and truly didn't want to just lead him on knowing I had no feelings. He had written letters and read his feelings out to me! That was one thing that made everything worse and I honestly felt horrible.

Vicisawesome16 · Answer

I was actually in this situation once before. A guy who id been friends with for two years asked me out and I started to cry right in front of him because I felt so bad rejecting him. He wasn't even mad when I told him I wasn't ready to date him he was so understanding even though he was hurt. And as luck would have it now he's my boyfriend of 6 months and I love him so much!

OreoStealer · Answer

Well obviously. We're not heartless. It probably depends on the girl though or the way the boy confesses. If he's blunt and asks kindly, we'll most likely appreciate it most. However, if he asks us out and is awkward about it, we most likely will be awkward too, again depending on the girl. It all just comes down to how the people are, but in general, I'm pretty sure we will fell terrible afterwards and be thinking about it for the rest of the day. Anyways, thats all, hoped this helped :)

mommahen · Answer

I've been rejected by someone I thought I was falling for. It's terrible. So when I found myself in the situation where I knew a guy was head over heals for me... even though I liked him a lot as a person... I also knew the relationship would not be a good decision for many reasons. That was months ago... I still wonder if I'm shallow, missed a special opportunity, or worry about how badly I may have hurt him.

Funkarella · Answer

I used to not reject anyone that I thought had genuine feelings for me. All that did was end in heartbreak all around. I always thought I would develop feelings and I never did. So now, I am honest without being harsh. A girl will think only about herself, a lady will take your feelings in to consideration.

WiseGirl · Answer

No I don't feel bad because I don't do or say anything mean to the guy, I just stop answering his calls or texts which is exactly the way a guy handles it when he isn't interested in a girl and I KNOW they don't feel bad about it. Its life, we all get rejected

Jo_Bunny · Answer

No. If a person is not interested, they are not interested. Being upfront is doing them a favor. The pain of rejection is short term compared to the pain of being lied and played with.

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